What would help?

It started with losing my brain in law unexpectedly in August, then I lost a very dear friend at the end of October to cancer. One of my best friends passed unemployed at the beginning of December, an aunt a week before Christmas,my sis in law went to hospice the beginning of January and passed 2 weeks later. My son got married 1/26 we woke the next day to find out that my husband's stepmother passed the day of the wedding. This makes 6 family and close friends that have passed in 6 months. I'm overwhelmed and don't know how to deal with all the grief and depression

 

That’s a lot of losses in such a short amount of time. It’s so much to process all at once. My heart breaks for you. Take one day at a time. These are all people so near and dear to you. Go easy on yourself. The happiness and celebration of your sons wedding and then learning your husbands stepmother passed the same day. That really is a lot on its own to take in. Get fresh air each day, it really does help. Talking about your losses is very important. People here know and understand about losses and the excruciating pain. Read and share stories on here. It is very helpful. Wishing you the peace and strength to keep pushing forward. Robin

 

Finding a friend or two with whom I can chat and fill lonely time.

 

New to the group. Still grieving the lost of my sister. Moreover since her death, the connection with my side of the family has diminished to practically zero UNLESS I initiate the conversation. I get people can get busy but how more value is just taking a few minutes and calling/texting/emailing.

 

So sorry for the losses in your family. My goodness. Here to be support as much as we can.

 

I too, hope for purpose, will not be taking any meds altho recognize they are helpful at times. I am not as much depressed as I am just in a place of what next ??? I tried support group, and found many there to vent profusely and stating they wanted to stay there...and I am fighting to move forward. It was not helpful for me to listen to it all every week. Understand !!

 

I would love some kind of resources. Help figuring how to keep the important memories alive for our children. A way to keep memories for myself that I will want some day. I am really bad at journals bc I am not the best story teller. So I don't even start.

 

Hello everyone,

. I come from India and have been in the USA a while. When I left to my utter amazement my whole family just fell apart. I was the glue holding us together. My brother and I grew up in a very toxic atmosphere. fights between parents, focus more on siblings on both sides to seek their recognition. Our parents wanted and intended to be good parents but just did not have the consciousness to how. My brother got affected more than me as I was here and the distance saved me partially. Our father could not handle the toxicity and resorted to drinking. passed away shortly. Mom had severe depression and was betrayed by the same siblings they poured their life into at our costs. same thing on dad’s side. The betrayal broke them and me, and my brother became the victims. for a while it was ok but my brother then got himself lost in the care of dogs at the expense of his own health and life. in the beginning I was making three trips from the USA to India in a year just to talk some sense into all. when I would call I would three separate versions of the same rather petty matter. every time I went back to India, I was miserable. I even missed the birth of my first child on one trip. I was hand feeding my parents as they just would not do anything. They had lost the will to live for reasons I still do not understand. and I was also financially taking care of the, so emotional and financial torture for me. this affected my marriage and led to divorce with separation of my little girls. Over the years I have simply been relying on willpower to keep my head above water. post moms demise I have had to stay here and my brother there both alone and relying on each other. Now we are both showing signs of breakdown like our parents. I have a nice partner now, but she has a cultural bias against depression and does not believe I even have a problem. so talking is useless as we always revert to her own issues and how they are bigger. Recently I have been very concerned about my brother. he is breaking in spirit. has shown great courage. in face of severe adversity. we have both experienced toxic family dynamics, betrayal by loved ones, and the trauma of seeing our parents simply wither away despite all our efforts and separation. we have tried hard to fight and still are. It is me who is more scared that I will now lose my brother soon as he sems to be breaking. I found authors like Eckhart Tolle and sadhgur that helped a while, but they stop at being aware and living. I cannot do that. just be aware of which I am but then what. How do you deal with this situation. loss of interest in life both in me and brother as we have had enough. we talk but communication needs to improve. He is finally confessing how alone he is. I am effectively alone too but I am the elder brother and must take care of him notwithstanding my own condition. I am on meds and seeking a therapist but anxiety and insomnia are debilitlitaing. I am glad I am here and would like anyone who has had grief and anticipatory grief and how to handle it better.