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Lost my father 11 months ago, still feels like yesterday

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Moon Child, Mar 2, 2019.

  1. Moon Child

    Moon Child New Member

    It's been so hard on me, my dad is my best friend and the only person in my life who cared about me and had my back. I miss him more and more each day. It's also even harder, he left behind 2 beautiful grandkids ages 1 & 2 that he adored & loved so much. Ever since he's left, my life has spiraled downwards and out of control. I also keep my feelings bottled up and try to push them in the back of my mind. I have NO ONE to talk to and noone that would understand so that is why I joined this. If there is anyone who can lend an ear and wants me to do the same in return PLEASE message me.
     
  2. Feeling alone

    Feeling alone Member

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. I lost my dad 15 days ago to cancer. My 2 sisters and I along with our mom (my dads spouse of 51 yrs) can hardly function. Our loss is devastating and everyone keeps telling me it will get better. How to move on is the question in my life.
    I can so relate to you and please know that you are not alone. Your children need you to help them with memories of their grandpa. I do know it's ok to cry for them and tears help them understand sadness. Memories will turn to smiles eventually. Peace to you
     
  3. Moon Child

    Moon Child New Member

    Thank you for the kind words <3 I'm very sorry for you as well and if you wanted to talk further feel free to message me. It's nice to talk to people who can relate.
     
  4. Monica422

    Monica422 New Member

    I lost my dad November 14th, and i had moved across the country nearly year ago. I had to fly for 6 hours and have a 5 hour drive after that just to get back. Some days I think Im coping great, but then ill get in the car, and im driving alone and the phone call from my mom that morning just repeats like a broken record inside my head and I cant stop crying. I have nightmares about it, and I feel like I've completely lost my rock. I keep everything bottled up to, keep myself going and functioning but as soon as im alone I lose all composure. I just want to stay in bed, my whole body is exhausted and I can never sleep enough. Here if you want to talk or vent or anything, Im right there with you.
     
  5. Feeling alone

    Feeling alone Member

    So sorry for your loss. Losing my dad was the most difficult experience I've ever gone through. I literally could not function and cried all day. Tears streamed at any given familiar word, thought, event-it was pure misery. I feel your pain and please know you are not alone - peace and hope as you continue through your life journey.
     
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  6. V Flowers

    V Flowers Member

    I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost my father, my best friend, my mentor, my leader and my security. He passed away in march of 2017 its been awhile according to time but my heart is still healing... When he passed the heart ache hurt so much the pain was unbearable!!! Yet I had to find a way to stay strong as a daughter, mother, friend and person. I just joined because I don't know who to really talk to and at times I just need to cry. If you need someone to listen or to cry to it with I understand .... You can message me anytime!
     
  7. AKB

    AKB New Member

    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad February 2018 and it still feels like yesterday. I am not sure if I will ever feel normal again. Please know you are not alone. If you ever need someone to talk with or just need an ear, please message me. You are not alone!
     
  8. Struggling Lady

    Struggling Lady New Member

    My prayers are with you and I'm truly sorry your precious father is physically away from you. I can identify with how you are feeling in so many ways. My father passed away in days of my being told he had Spine Cancer. He passed away January 27, 2019. My mother passed away seven years prior, August 19, 2012. I was blessed to have two of the best parents a child/children could have. I call myself Struggling Lady simply because that's exactly what i do from day to day because I feel so LOST most of the time and I'm without direction at this point in my life. Immediately after my mother passed i soon became my father's Caregiver. My parents were married 53 years and when mother passed away, dad's life on earth was no longer a place that dad was happy to reside. Still he did his best and he continued to be a Needed Blessing in my life. Having him as a father and a father truly helped me to cope with the loss of my mother along with other things in my life. My father had more wisdom than anyone I've ever met in my life to date. He was so incredibly wise. He was blessed with so many skills. He also missed his calling (he was always told that he was the Perfect stand in for Fred Sanford on Sanford and Son (he really could have been) cause he made Anyone and Everyone Laugh all the time Everywhere he went. But what he loved most was The Lord and his Family (he was an Ordained Minister). He has 6 children (all with my mother). I'm one of 5 girls and i have one brother. I could go on and on about my father (including my mother) but for now I just want and hope that you'll understand that we all need one another while we are on this journey (especially when our Loved Ones have passed through for the last time on earth). I pray that you are a Believer in the Word because that is our Greatest Comforter! It is because of my Faith in His Word (I can believe that one day i will be able to Dwell in thoughts of my parents) without having to Stop myself because of my grief. Please feel free to contact me here and i pray that you'll be reminded Each and Every day that your Grief is Shared by others who really do Care and Understand. God Bless and i Thank God your father was blessed to have You and Your Love (that's the kind of Love i wished Everyone could experience)... Always try to remember how your father would want to see you Happy and Living your Best Life (it helps me a lot)...