Being stuck in the house.

Discussion in 'Grief in Common Updates, Questions & Answers' started by skies24, Mar 22, 2020.

  1. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    As this virus makes us take new routines it hurts so much being stuck in the house without her. God we would of had so much fun! Blasting music. Drinking beers. 1pm in house just us two happy hour. Stupid jokes. Laughing. But two months ago today I lost you. Instead of laughing I’m sitting here in an empty house crying. Dammit I’ve been doing so good. I’m a mess today. I f’ing miss you. So lonely here without you I really hope there is life after this. I can’t wait to see you again. I miss you.
     
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  2. ainie

    ainie Well-Known Member

    Hello Skies. Sorry the isolation is making it even harder. Same here. It will get better again ... at least I'm counting on that. Take care.
     
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  3. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    You too. It just sucks! This pain comes in waves and i just wish it would stop!!! The house just feels like it’s caving in! I hope this passes soon. I hope this passes for you as well!
     
  4. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Hi Skies and Ainie, I'm right there with you guys, this being stuck in the house is making me feel so much worse too. In our emotional state, and dealing with virus, I feel I can't handle it. Too much! UGH!
    Something needs to give soon! Thinking of both of you as we try to get through another day
     
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  5. ainie

    ainie Well-Known Member

    Thank you Robin! Hello Skies! At least I was able to get out and do a couple hours of yard work today. It burned off some of the anxiety. Just plain tired now. Hope sleep comes tonight. It's been a week or more since I got a good sleep...basically just napping from midnight until 4am.
     
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  6. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    I’m glad you could get outside and do some yard work. The weather here today is awful, cold windy pouring rain. Just plain dreary! Fits our moods I suppose but I’d love some sunshine and warm weather. Yard work helps me a lot, keeps me busy and my mind on other things. Plus like you mentioned, can help with sleep.
    Hope you get some good sleep tonight, hope I do as well. Sleep is so difficult.
     
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  7. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    Hopefully you get that good night sleep. I look forward to a few months going by. Get this quarantine over with and a few month of grief behind me since I hear it gets better with time. Here’s to getting though another day.
     
  8. ainie

    ainie Well-Known Member

    Yeah! The yard work helped a lot! Slept soundly from 11pm to 7:15am. Exercise in the sunshine is good.
     
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  9. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    OMG! I’m so happy for you! That’s great news, 8 hours! Waiting for my turn.
     
  10. Fai

    Fai New Member

    Hello everyone. I'm new to this website. The 18th of March was the one year anniversary for my Moms death and then tomorrow will be the one year for my husband. It's been a very difficult week for me and my therapist said that maybe finding a grief support group online might help. I took a Griefshare course for 13 weeks but to be honest, I don't think it helped much. I'm not sleeping well and being self isolated because of this horrible virus is driving me up the wall. I talk to my neighbors but I feel so alone, especially at night.
     
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  11. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Fai, I’m so sorry for your losses. Losing your Mom and husband within a week, I can’t even imagine. I know how I felt at the one year anniversary of losing my husband and you’re having 2 one years on top of each other. I’m so sorry for you.
    I agree that the isolation caused by the virus is making things feel worse. We’re stuck in the house that’s too quiet and feels huge. I’ve had a difficult time sleeping ever since Ron passed, 16 months ago. I agree nights are so such a difficult time, all the sudden we’re alone and everything just feels wrong. Weekends are difficult for me too. Everyone else makes plans, well not now but previously.
    I do feel this site has helped me quite a lot and I believe it could help you too. Everyone on here knows how we’re feeling and offer support. It’s nice to know That everything we’re feeling, everyone on here understands. It’s comforting.
    I know tomorrow will very difficult for you, I’m hoping you have family and friends that will reach out to you and offer support.
    We’re here to offer support and compassion
    Robin
     
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  12. glego

    glego Well-Known Member

    Fai, so sorry you have to go through two anniversaries so close. I wish I had some good advice to make it all feel better, I don't. All I can say is that I and the rest of us on here have experienced loss and you're not alone. I struggle at night too, and waking up in the morning also. Wishing you peace.
     
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  13. Fai

    Fai New Member

    Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad I found this website. I really think it will help.
     
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  14. glego

    glego Well-Known Member

    It will, even if you don't feel like writing, just reading lets you know you're not alone. Everyone here gets it, and they're very supportive.
     
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  15. Fai

    Fai New Member

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    Im having trouble replying to the people who wrote to me so I'll just answer here
    Thank you all for your support. I really need it today being the one year anniversary of my husband's death. My 2 stepdaughters and I were with him after he was taken off of life support. Even though he was brain dead, an incredible thing happened. He raised his arms up and then looked like he was putting his arms around someone and then he was gone. I know he's in heaven.
     
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  16. glego

    glego Well-Known Member

    Fai, keeping you in my thoughts today.
     
  17. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Thank you for sharing that. That’s such a nice story. Very sad of coarse but as if he had someone waiting for him. Yes, I believe he’s in heaven too. Your story brought tears to my eyes. I’m glad you were able to be by his side and witness that.
    I lost my husband to a heart attack that came out of no where, he was healthy then gone so fast. Two hours. I wish I could have been by his side.
    I know today will be very hard for you, let the tears fall, they actually help. I’m thinking and praying for you to help you through today. Being stuck in our homes certainly doesn’t help.
    As for this site, it is a little difficult to navigate. So when someone sends you a post if you want to reply to that person you hit reply that’s under the post, it’s small and a new box appears with the cursor at the bottom. When your finished hit post reply. And your message will there under the one you’re replying to. Or you can just write in the box at the bottom of all the posts.
    Thinking of you, Robin
     
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  18. Bogman

    Bogman Well-Known Member

    Hi Fai sorry that you're having a tough day, being isolated can't help !! I haven't had a one year anniversary yet as my wife passed in December, I do understand the difficulty of the double loss as my Mom passed in August of last year as well but I'm sure the one year anniversary can't be easy !? As others have said I've found this site has helped and I hope you find some sort of comfort being around people who get what you're going through. Better days ahead !! Dan
     
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  19. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    I’m sorry for all the pain you are going through. I struggle with the afterlife so I’m really glad to hear you say how he lifted his arms up to someone he knew. This brings me comfort and I hope this site brings you comfort. This is not a site any of us wanted to join. But we are all here on this path. And this site will help you. I hope you found some peace today.
     
  20. Nanatigger

    Nanatigger Member

    It’s true that this isolation is compounding the problem. I’m also dealing with lots of agencies etc re: financial issues and end up going around in circles! Due to the virus everyone I try to call is either unavailable or extremely long wait times...I’m in Canada and lots of aid packages have been offered by the government (which is great) but I’m trying to contact the same agencies to deal with matters not related to compensation from issues regarding Covid 19. Also the weather has been crap! No sign of spring yet. Snow again this morning. Might reach a high of 7C on Wednesday but fain & snow again by the weekend.