When I first started my journey trying to find others to talk to about my loss I tried Facebook, but somehow I got my account locked. The problem with that was they had a grief group there I had signed up into and made my first posting.
When I started getting responses, I tried logging back into Facebook to go to that grief group and answer the responses to my post. With my account now locked I appealed it, and they actually
never ever even gave an automatic response. Need I say, Facebook really messed up with me, and now when I look back I am happy it happened, as there is nothing worse that settling into posting, spilling your heart out to others and unable to continue. Never again.
So I continued my search wanting to reach out to others. I needed help, I wanted to talk to others, I wanted to belong so to speak. Well, I eventually found this site and thank God I did. It helped restore my faith a bit.
So I started on this site with my first post about what happened to Nadine and our life together. I posted our wedding pictures in that
https://www.griefincommon.com/threads/my-wife.1286/ and her obit with a professional tribute video that her sister had created with beautiful music and a pictures and a poem.
I skipped all the awful details of how bad her cancer was, and all the pain and procedures she had endured. I leaned on my oldest son a lot during those trips to her doctors. Let's just say, Nadine had cancer for about 6 years, it was exhausting for her, for us and monetarily. During one of my trips I actually had an undiagnosed heart attack in the 90+ heat I found out later. I just thought I was out of breath.
So if you wish to see what I had said about Nadine you will find it in the above bookmark. As days past into weeks, and then years and I found this site I was finally able to speak about her and so I knew how much I loved music I wanted to share with anyone here who would listen. I created two threads
https://www.griefincommon.com/threads/the-good-in-our-world.1324/ and
https://www.griefincommon.com/threads/the-good-in-our-world-part-2.1415/
Within these threads I looked for music to express my feelings and also videos that showed us all the good in this world still does exist but just isn't covered enough by news outlets today. Also I then within those two threads started adding my comments and described myself over the course of my life (not all) and tried to show people who I am as a person.
Too often in life we are all too wrapped up in what is before us, and never take the time to take it all in. I am hoping as we grieve, those videos and music will bring some comfort to us all.
Sorry if this has seemed too long. Please everyone, take care of yourselves and even though we all suffer with loss, we are as one on this site. God Bless you all.
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