How do you go on

My life has stopped, every day life goes on. I'm expected to do the same . Outside world doesn't understand.

 

Thank you

 

Hi Gran,
I think I understand and I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's a life changing event; I lost my wife of 23 years in October of '18. She was my best friend, my soulmate, my everything. I feel absolutely "stuck" and can't seem to get past all of the pain. For all practical purposes my life is on hold and like you said, life goes on but I can't seem to do the same. My daughter has tried to help me get over the grief but it just isn't happening for me, yet. In truth, and at this point, I can't say that I care as it just no longer seems worth the effort.
I hope you've been able to make some progress on your personal journey through this h*ll. Take care. All my best, Danny.

 

I know how you feel. I lost my husband on June 5th and I feel like I'm stuck on the day he passed. I too don't know how to go on, but I know in time we will learn to live our lives without them. It's just so hard in the beginning and we miss them so much. Time heals but we will never forget them and they will always be in our hearts. I'm still suffering and it hurt but some days are better than others

 

Oh Deborah, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can honestly say that I know how tough it is. In my own case my wife and I had planned on me leaving her and not the other way around. On several levels everything has been turned upside down for me. I'm still searching for the strength to continue on. Some days I have it, others I don't.
In my own interpretation, time heals most wounds . . .
Be well, Danny.

 

It is very hard , I'm learning grief is a personal journey. What works for one person may not hold true for the next, but I do know that it will get better. A very dear friend of mine recently talked to me about my loved one , he knew us both very well . He reminded me of how much I was loved and made a point to ask me if he was here would he want this way of life for me . That was kind of a turning point for me . I know he would not want this for me , he would want me to live a full life. I know it's hard and I hope things get better for you .

 

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My husband left all of a sudden neither one of expected him to leave me when he did. I like you have better days then I hit rock bottom and that's when things get tough. If I would have know this was going to happen when it did I might have been better prepared but I wasn't. Everyday I wish he was here. He was a good man and had a lot of life left in him. It's been really hard since he was the one that brought in the income. Now that he's not here I struggle not having it.

 

Hello Gran,
You are so right it seems that when we lose our spouse everyone goes on around us like nothing as happened. I don't like it when others think I should be over my loss by now. My husband suddenly passed away 5 years come November 28, 2019. My whole world fell upside down. He was my soulmate. I find holidays and weekends the hardest. Thank you for sharing your thoughts I am so happy that I found this website. It lets me know that my feelings are normal.

 

The world as I knew it stopped on October 19, 2019 one day just rolls into the next everybody around me is going on with their lives and I sit and watch and ask myself how they can do it because to me it shouldn't be possible cause it can't be for me and I'm not sure I even want it to cause at least in my own little world I can somewhat be ok cause I relive the life me and him had for 17 years all the memories the adventures the laughs the Love I surround myself with his things and pictures each picture has a story a memory that's my life my world it's hard for me to even go about my day and take care of the errands I have to take care of that day. At home I cook and clean especially my bedroom where I have our pictures hung on the wall his flag from the funeral it seems to comfort me

 

I understand how you feel. It is very hard to go on when you lose a loved one. Just doing everyday things such as errands, etc seems overwhelming at times. You feel like you just want to stay inside and ignore the world around you but, of course, you cannot. The holidays make it twice as hard. I'm glad that you can get some comfort in having pictures and his flag from the funeral visible. Wishing you the best.

 

Your feelings are definitely normal. This website has been so helpful to all of us grieving the loss of a loved one.