Yup, yup, & yup! no energy, hard and overwhelming! like James Taylor’s song, You Got a Friend. In all of us! You’re fighting the fight even though it’s so hard. much Love, Robin
Lou Bro! Take care and stay well... Always thinking of you my friend! I totally get the financial stuff... I too am getting in an unfun situation.
Godfather Louster T, Robin, Rose, Karen, and George have already said it all... I'm very glad you're putting yourself first, and doing what you need to do for you, TUTTAM!!! We're going to miss our Godfather, but, and this is another one of those really BIG!!! BUTS!!!, TGW, your GIC "family," will ALWAYS!!! be here for you... Love you, Lobster Lou, but, and this is the last very BIG!! BUT!!! for the evening, at the risk of sounding like a parrot, "not in any sort of creepy way." Let go, let God, and keep on dancing, Lou T... As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. Debster & Skye Queen
Debster, o Debster,you are one of my closest friends here, like "another soulmate". Not fully MIA yet ( I'll start tomorrow. with the cold , hard reality of a Monday),I had to check GIC for any replies to my last post,and was gratified & touched by them. Like you told me ,in a private text, La Deb, it was good to live in the moment, and I did , all weekend, dancing with my friends. Went to a beautiful wedding with 200 people ( ! ) on the beach last night, and danced later that evening.The only time I felt sad & alone, was during the wedding vows which brought me back to those with Linda at our very small wedding in a chapel , before a quiet minister, and a photographer as our witness. After choking back the tears, I was happy for this couple, obviously in love. I later danced with the bride , told her how beautiful she looked, and thanked her & her husband for inviting me. Later, I got lost in the music, and danced my troubles away. As I said in my last post, I will be MIA from GIC for a while, but will enjoy hearing from those people with whom I have personal emails ,even though I may not answer right away..............Lou T.
You did it again, Ms. Hum, with yet another brief message. I had tears in my eyes :Linda may be "at peace", but , like many of us Grief Warriors, I'm not, bc we never know how we'll feel on any given day. This gray, possibly rainy day is anticlimactic after yesterday's. sunny day. I'm glad my friends had their wedding yesterday, instead of today. I will try to make this a good one, and hope you have one, too. Lou T.
Lou T. It was a nice surprise visiting our GIC "family," and finding this heartwarming post from you. As soon as I began reading about the wonderful, live in the moment, weekend you enjoyed, I became teary eyed, but, and this is another one of those really BIG!!! BUTS!!!, mostly only in the very best of ways. I HATE!!! the way Mr. G took you on an unexpected trip down memory lane during the ceremony, but I'm so very proud of you for being able to deal with those memories, then kick the F*CK!!! out of Mr. G., and enjoy the rest of the evening to the absolute max!!! You've come such a long way since we first met, TUTTAM!!! I will always be grateful to you for being here for me, for all of us, for showing us that life can be good, even in this f*cked up, bittersweet world, we've been thrown into. I'm going to miss "seeing" you here, but I'm so glad you're taking a much needed break, and are preparing to tackle all the challenges thrown at you, as you always do, with courage, determination, and strength. Once again, let go, let God, and always!!!, keep on dancing... Sending you zillions of hugs, and lots of love, wishing you peace, all of us peace, all the way from TUTTAMVILLE. Debster and Queen Skyester
Lou do what you have to do for you. Take all the time you need to focus on yourself. We'll be here! Sometimes we have to step back from a situation to examine things. I hope things work out for you. Take care of yourself!
Lou, that was such a lovely post you sent describing the wedding ceremony. I understand how emotional it must have been for you during the wedding vows, bringing back beautiful memories. Talking about weddings, I did something really silly one evening last week. I had just watched a film "My big fat Greek wedding" and I suddenly got the urge to watch our wedding videos! Who ever bothers to connect their video cassette recorders nowadays? ME! I actually managed to watch all the way through, which was unexpected, I obviously had a good cry and scream, but I also managed to smile. It all hit me afterwards though, for days I couldn't get those images out of my mind, couldn't sleep, restless, no appetite, feeling nauseous, crying and shouting for the slightest thing, I was completely "zombified". Anyway, I don't intend to go on being gloomy, we need to release our emotions every now and then, don't we? Lou, you're showing your Linda how much you love her, dancing the night away and she is delightfully, lovingly, following every step with you. La Rose.
Thank you so much, Nicole. As you can see, I'm not quite MIA yet! I just woke up, at almost 7am, after a good night's sleep. I may be sleeping better in the fall. I'm still in bed, checking posts, and was happy to see you and Rose. I am planning to call an office after 9am to start my journey into my "autumn of my years", as Sinatra sings in "My Way". I have to get help to be sure I don't end up homeless, which would be especially tragic for someone my age. Linda & I had a rough patch financially, at one point, but we had each other. I have to be very careful bc I'm alone now,and need guidance. I'll get out of bed soon. Since I've heard from many GIC members, I can try to be MIA from this site NOW... Until I'm more settled, Nicole, thanks again for your kindness. Lou
Thanks, BroGeo! That goes double for you. Remember:we can keep in touch off GIC. You have given me helpful advice regarding my kidneys and I will keep you up to date after I see my nephrologist next month. It's time for my coffee now. Lobsterman LOU
Lou, Just as you'll be starting a new journey this morning, in a way, so am I. I made a promise to Bob that I would finish something he started in August of 2019. I'm planning on making a call to get the ball rolling this morning. It's a difficult thing for me to do, but, and this is another one of those really BIG!!! BUTS!!!, something I HAVE!!! to do. Enough about me!!! I just want you to know I'm thinking about you this morning, as you begin a new chapter in your life. You've got this Lou!!! Keep on dancing... Lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. Debster and Skye Queen
La Rose, it's now 8:30am, my time, and I'm sitting at the table, drinking coffee, and writing down what I'll be saying to the woman in her office, for guidance. I have to call for an appointment. As I told Nicole , DEB, George, and others, I'm not quite MIA yet. I'd still like to keep in touch privately with you & some others. I smiled when you mentioned that movie, bc Linda & I saw it on DVD a few times. As usual, we didn't care for the sequel. You were braver than I am about seeing our wedding videos. I have ours in the closet with our wedding photos, and can't bear the pain of looking at them again. I don't have to, bc I memorized both. If there were a fire, or flood, which were to destroy them, it wouldn't really matter, bc the good memory of our wedding and honeymoon is imprinted in my brain, which I hope to be as active as I can. Thanks so much again, Rose, for your kind words. The Godfather
Rose, Reading this, made me teary eyed, but they were mostly happy tears. You are a very courageous person to have been able to watch your wedding videos, and although you were "zombified" for days afterwards, you took a giant step forward. I believe with all my heart, that this is the beginning of much better days for you, in this over the top!!!, f*cked up!!!, crazy!!!, bittersweet world, we've been thrown into. As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB & Skye
Wow, La Deb, I noticed you had put "LIKE" to my posts with Nicole, Rose, and George, and was pleasantly surprised to get your kind post just now. I wish us both well in our endeavors. I know for certain that Debster is getting her caffeine intake, as I am, to start the day. I better not "procrastinate", which you and I can easily do. Time to get off GIC. I see "alerts" coming in, but I better just put "LIKE", or I won't do what I have to do! As I told others, you can reach out to me privately. Louster
Rose, you are SO brave to watch your wedding video. I admire you for that even though it brought you pain. Maybe someday it will bring you joy for the memories, but what do I know, I can hardly look at pics of Jack and me without tearing wanting him back. The longing never stops. Karen
