When relatives finally visit

Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by Daisy171, Apr 1, 2023.

  1. Daisy171

    Daisy171 Well-Known Member

    Today my sister and her adult daughter came to the city I live in. I haven't seen either of them since the pandemic started which includes when my mother died a year ago and my husband died three weeks ago. It was nice to see them in a way, but now I am more depressed than ever.
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  2. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Daisy, let me say how amazed I am at how
    far you've come since you joined GIC.
    Despite your understandable grief, anger,
    depression, and loneliness, you managed
    to reach out, and give comfort , to an even
    newer member, in need, Auggie, who is
    about your age, also with one son. You are
    at a point in the beginning of your grief
    journey where other people, like your
    sister and niece are more of a burden
    than a help. My favorite book on
    understanding grief, is The Widower's
    Notebook, a memoir, by Jonathan
    Santlofer. Jonathan is a little older than I
    am. Like me, he saw his wife die in front of
    him. He and Joy had been married 40 years
    to my 25 with Linda. Unlike me, they had an adult daughter , and we had no children. Jonathan's book chronicles all
    the situations with other people, good and
    bad, that all The Grief Warriors ( TGW)
    share. The other book I recommend, is
    Permission to Mourn, by Tom Zuba. Lou
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