When does it get better

I think I’m prepared for the storm, just wish Ron was here and he would use our snow blower and clear our driveways fast. I have rock salt I was going to put down on my driveway before the storm starts but I just read it’s not good to use on concrete driveways. So not doing that. But where Ron’s truck is, is a black top driveway I’ll sprinkle some there. My daughter said she’ll come clear my driveway for me. But it looks like we’re getting a lot. Who knows it might not be as much as they’re saying. I keep getting alerts about possibly losing electricity. I charged my power bricks and devices. I have a fireplace but not sure right now if it’s safe to use. The flue needed repair and I. Not sure if it’s repaired or not. Be nice if I could if the power goes out.
I have trouble looking at photos, bring up so many emotions. I have a lot of Ron’s photos out that I can look at but when I look at others it doesn’t go well. My poor daughter was in charge of getting pictures together for the slide show at the funeral and she had such a hard time. I felt bad for her but I couldn’t do it. We’re all different in what affects us. Music is so hard for me. Sometimes I’m ok though.
It is a shame that envelope of Ted’s family photos wasn’t found earlier while Ted was here to enjoy them.
You stay safe and warm too, I know you have it very cold too. Robin

 

Hi again Lou, had a shrimp ceaser salad for lunch and a glass of V8 juice. Ted & his brother were in the Army, Ted's best friend, they grew up together ,was in the Navy, on a submarine. I did come across some photos of the sub and his friend. I have lived here most of my life, I was born Mississippi, my parents migrated to Ohio when my Dad was stationed here at Rickenbacker Air Force base, when I was just a few months old. We spent sometime in New York, I have photos of my Dad and I at the Statue of Liberty, I look to be about 4/5 yrs. old, and I remember my Mom talking about the rooming house we lived in while there. How Mom had to keep me quiet at night so I wouldn't disturb the other tenants, those memories have long faded away. Daddy must have been stationed back to Ohio around 1949/1950, as I started 1st grade in Grove City, OH, and Daddy was still in the Army. Some of those years I can vaguely remember, I have photos of different birthday parties that kind of jog the old memory stick Oh, my, dredging up memories I had forgotten about, good ones of my childhood I can picture the upstairs apartment we lived in, door at the bottom of the stairs, door at the top, opened in a small foyer, living room was in front, 1 bedroom was to the right, bathroom and kitchen( so small, 2 people at the same time was a crowd) to the left. There was a door that open from the living room into a storage area, that is where my toys were kept. My Mom always said I slept in my baby bed until I was 6, I kind of think she may have exaggerated just a bit. I was small, but not that small. I need to stop, I could go on forever , such fun thinking back, but don't want to bore you. Ok, my first, do you remember Sky King? Savannah

 

It sounds like me when I had my broken arm. Couldn't sleep at night, roamed around the house, took cat naps during the day, couldn't sleep in my bed because I couldn't get back out -- had to sleep on the recliner or couch on my back. I'm also am a side sleeper. I was depressed, nauseous and in pain. Oh well, it's over and it will be over for you too. K

 

Hi Robin, We got a dusting of snow, warmer today 31 degrees. Brittany, bless her heart, shoveled my driveway Monday and the sidewalk yesterday for me.
Speaking of music, it is hard for me also. Certain songs will start the tears to flowing, then there are those songs that dance around in your head all day long. Have one now making me crazy, an old Andy Williams song.
I wish I would have been more pro active and maybe looked through Teds totes way before he passed. I would have also found his checks he said he couldn't find, and the photos of his childhood friend. I guess we both felt, his personal things were his, mine was mine, and together things we shared.
I do hope you make it through your bad weather. Take care, stay safe and warm. Savannah

 

Robin,

Although all of life is so very bittersweet, I've been able to eat a few of Bob's favorite foods again, something I thought I would never be able to do. I had a mug of tomato soup with a toasted pepper jack cheese sandwich today for lunch. I had to reach for a tissue as soon as I sat down to eat it... All those memories of cold, snowy days... of rainy damp days... sitting at the kitchen table with Bob, enjoying this same lunch, glad to be inside. In spite of the weather, I felt so safe, secure, happy.

I thought about this today, as I looked outside at the gray sky, smiling through tears as I was eating, knowing Bob is watching over me... And as surprising as this was, lunch was good. This has got to be a step forward, but at the same time, I'm missing Bob more and more every single day. I'm so confused!!!, TU!!!

I'm glad you're well prepared for this storm and your devices are charged.

Stay safe, stay warm...

As always, sending you and Teddy lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB


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Thank you, Karen. I feel like I"m almost
myself again. I remember when you had
such a hard time, physically, and dealing
with Mr. Grief. You are right. It is over,
and soon, I hope to be back on my
regular sleeping, eating, & walking
outside schedule. I know I will feel less
tired & depressed. Heard birds chirping to
each other this am. It was a welcome,
hopeful sign, and made me smile. Lou

 

You didn't bore me at all, Savannah.
Thank you for sharing your vivid
childhood memories. Like you, I have an
almost movie like picture of my early
life. I was fortunate to know one set of
grandparents. Even though they died
when I was in high school, I can picture
their kind smiles and voices today. Also
like you, I remember every detail of their
house, bc I spent every school vacation
there. I sure do remember Sky King .
I believe the show had a father &
daughter. Was her name Penny? For
shows at night, I loved Alfred Hitchcock
Presents , with the distinctive music at the
beginning, & Hitchcock walking into his
own profile. I also loved Rod Serling's
Twilight Zone. Both shows featured guest
stars, who later became famous. My
favorite comedy series was The Andy
Griffith Show, which had a few of the
same character actors who appeared in
the Twilight Zone. Years later, I liked
watching The Fugitive every week. I
liked it when the David Janssen character
was being followed by the relentless
Lt. Gerard, and he had to change his
identity & work odd jobs in different
towns. Lou


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Lou,

I love!!! this. Sometimes I'm still way too hard on myself. This quote is just what I need to hear.

I'm over the top happy you're feeling so much better!!! As I'm beginning to say too frequently around here, life is always subject to change. Spring will be here before we know it... Keep thinking positive thoughts... To much better days ahead!!!

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Thank you for your encouragement &
words of hope, as always, Deb. Even
though we're supposed to get a snowstorm
over night, I heard 2 birds happily chirping outside my window this am. If the power
goes out, will use Linda's battery
operated lantern. Since I have electric
heat, I will wear sweatshirts & sweatpants & pray that it will be a short ( if at all)
time. Robin seems to get worse storms &
lose power, in Long Island, NY, than I do
here. Have a relaxing evening,and we can
compare notes in the am. Lou

 

Karen,

I read this yesterday, and wanted to reply, but was too fried. I think we are moving forward, although on a daily basis, it might not seem like it. The fact that we can share good memories..., good stories..., without falling apart is so encouraging!!! Sadly all of life will always be so bittersweet for all of us, but being able to share good memories and stories about our once happy lives with Jack, Bob, Linda, Ron, Jack, Kenn, Valerie, Sheila, Cheryl, Ted, Lizzy, Mark, and everyone else's one true love of their lives (sorry if I forgot to mention anyone!!!), has got to be progress!!!, TU!!!

I remember when I first found GIC, I didn't think I would ever be able to smile again. I thought that Mr. Grief would have total control over the rest of my life, that I would be way beyond miserable until I died, and was finally reunited with Bob. Being able to share good memories, good stories, is way beyond wonderful!!!, TU!!! I now smile when I "talk" about some of the fun times Bob and I shared, even though all those smiles are mixed with tears, it's beginning to feel good thinking about all those wonderful moments. We CAN & WILL get through this together!!! We are TGW!!!

As always, sending you and Rambo lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Lou,

I know those birds happily chirping outside your window are a definite sign of better days ahead!!! As I just said to Karen, we CAN and WILL get through this together!!! However, I think you already somehow knew this, having come up with TGW, a name that fits all of us so perfectly.

I'm so glad both you and Robin are prepared, but pray neither of you, not one of TGW who is experiencing bad weather, loses power...

Stay safe, stay warm...

As always sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Karen, I agree with Deb's words to you
tonight. When I first started seeing a
grief therapist, she asked me to write
down all of Linda's funny phrases.I got
choked up at that, & said I couldn't do it
without sobbing. A couple weeks later ,
I sat down at the table, and, started to
write about our encounters with both
friends ( or who we thought were friends)
and family.

 

Hi Lou, Yes her name was Penny and instead of a horse, they did their thing in a plane. Saturday morning was my favorite time growing up.
This is so weird, I was close to my Granny(Moms Mother) did not know my Grandfather(Mom's Dad) until in my 20's. Granny and my grand dad had been divorced( later it was established they weren't divorced, papers had never been filed) for years and Granny remarried. That was who I though was my Grandpa, no one thought to tell me any different. My Dad's Mom died before I was born, and had no Idea the man we would visit from time to time was my Grandpa. I knew Daddy called him Dad, but being 4/5 yrs. old it didn't connect. I was never taught to call relatives by Aunt, Uncle, Grandpa. Daddy's Grandpa I also called Grandpa, I have pics of him and I alone, and with his grown kids, who I called Aunt and Uncle as that is what I heard Daddy call them, so I followed suit.
. My Mom was more to herself, didn't talk about her childhood, only to be mad for 80 yrs. that her Dad left her Mom, when she was 9, and took her brothers with him and left her with Granny. She was still mad when she passed away. There was a whole bunch of shady stuff going on with my ancestors on both sides I found out about when doing my genealogy, marriage license, birth certificates, census, obituaries, death certificates opened up a huge old can of worms Found a lot about Teds family also that he wasn't aware of.
Sunday night was Ed Sullivan(hated that show) forget what nigh Lawrence Welk was on(hated that show also). I liked Father Knows Best, Lassie, Zorro, I Love Lucy, Red Skelton Show, etc. Once again time to close, rustle up some dinner. Take care, stay safe and warm, and I hope your power stays on. Savannah

 

Savannah, that is sad about your mother,
going through life angry. I think you're a
nicer womanthan your mother was. I also
believe that I'm a better, more compassionate man than my father was. I
liked Ed Sullivan Show, but not Ed, who was a stiff. But, he had a lot of comedians
and


bands like The Beatles and The
Rolling Stones. Welk's show was too old for
me. I liked the FIRST Lassie, with
Jeff ( my age). better than Timmy. Don't
remember Skelton too well, except that
he laughed at his own jokes. Also liked
The Honeymooners, with Jackie Gleason,
instead of I LoveLucy. Well. I feel sleepy, &
I'm going to do what my grandfather did
after dinner----- take a nap! Lou

 

I have daffodils coming up with one bloom ready. But, more winter to come.

 

Deb, That’s great news. I’m so happy for you. Enjoying a lunch that was a favorite of Bob’s. That’s a huge step. I know it’s hard to sit at the table and their seat is empty, that’s so hard but the food gives us a special memory. Or being inside in the warmth of our homes. While it’s grey or rainy, stormy outside. Safe. I know your feelings of missing Bob more and more even though you’ve made progress and taking steps forward, we do miss them even more. We start feeling, ok it’s been long enough I can’t keep doing this. It’s time to come home. We just want them home so bad. But you’re making progress. I’m happy for you.

The snow has started. I’m as ready as I can be. I wish all the alerts would stop though. I put salt on Ron’s driveway, not mine cause I read the rock salt could damage concrete. Ran my dishwasher, I want things clean in case I lose power.
I’m going to post this I’m tired and I started this quite a while ago.
take care, Robin

 

I don’t know how my reply ended up in your post.

 

This site has some strange stuff going on recently.
I’ve have daffodils and irises coming up and big buds on my rhododendron. Feels good seeing growth. Curious to see what the fairies planted!