When does it get better

Wow!!!

 

Gary, you win the prize for photos!! I'm
technologically challenged, so I'm impressed! Lou

 

Your photo of the bluegills could make a beautiful picture framed.

 

I agree, Karen, I told Gary he's a poet. He's
also our best photographer. Good news:
My VNA nurse discharged me today, bc
I've become stronger & have been
walking outside, & have my appetite
back. Thank you for encouraging me. Lou

 

Hooray! Independence coming.

 

THANK YOU, KAREN, for your prayers &
support. I was finally able to go to the
supermarket with my friend, Kim. It was
fun to talk & joke with her in her car. She
had been shopping for me while I was
sick. As I've said, she's like a daughter I
never had. Lou

 

It's been a long haul for you since Christmas and a continuing long haul for George. George if you get this post, you are a very BRAVE, person. I really admire you for what you are going through since you moved. Prayers and hugs, Karen

 

Karen, my younger brother George is
the bravest person on GIC. I told him that
I couldn't imagine undergoing dialysis,
especially on top of his mourning for
Valerie, & his move to a new place. We
are a lot alike, & our wives both had sad
childhoods & mistrusted people. Linda
had uncondional love for me. In the
rehab unit, before she died, she said I was
the only reason she was hanging on. I had
no power to "save" her. None of TGW
could save their spouses . I'm rereading
chapters in The Widower's Notebook,
bc Jonathan's story is so close to mine.
My "foggy widower's brain" forgets if
you had a chance to read his book. I'm
sorry Stacey moved on. She said she was
listening to the audio version at night,
& I suggested it was better to read it in the
morning. How are you doing, Karen? I
enjoy your talks with Bernadine &
Gary about gardens. Lou

 

Yes, I have read parts of Jonathan's story, it was a bit emotional for me. I can't imagine Jon going through what he did and still living probably for the sake of his son I imagine -- that kept him going.
Haaaa! I caught you again. Search and you will find.

 

I have a question for everyone concerning grief and mourning. I have read the difference, but I really don't get it.

Could anyone clarify the two meanings. Thanks, Karen

 

Ok, "nine". I just tapped my reply 2 times.
by mistake, so I think your post will be
repeated twice. Sorry. Jonathan & Joy
had a now grown daughter. I remember
his sketches of the 3 of them. He was a
talented painter, & writer of international
mystery thrillers. As you may have
heard me say, I emailed him to thank him
for his book, & he emailed a warm,
personal message back. I'm on his
website & happy to see he's on a book
tour with a new book. He was happy for
me that I'm in GIC. His way of mourning
is to immerse himself in writing and
being on panels with other authors. Like
you, I couldn't read his book at first. I
was sobbing when I read the 1st chapter.
I put it away. One sunny morning, over
coffee, I quickly went past the most
painful chapter to find a portrait of a
40 year marriage, with its' ups & downs.
He has great chapters, like Stupid Things
Said By Smart People. There's a lot of
humor in the book, & I like to read
those chapters again. I just let my
emotions flow on GIC, but I'm glad I
made you smile over my typo! Lou

 

Lou are you here, need help to explain to new member
In a thread on GIC how to find GW family here,
her name, can someone post the info to her.
is Helena she posted in the thread
Lost My Husband To COVID.
sending hugs, love, prayers for us all.
Blessings, Patti

 

Patti, I urged KarenLee to stay with us
on GIC, & asked her husband's name.
She said Pete. Many people reached out,
including Gary & me. Karen tried to
help her, but she disappeared, for now.
But that could change. Good to see you
on here tonight. How are you? Lou

 

I’m not sure this is helpful but I’ll take a stab at it…
I see Grief as being my personal experience, my thought and feeling state.
Mourning is more of a public or social thing.
When someone sees me cry I am experiencing the grief, they are watching me mourn.
Maybe grieving and mourning are the same in our more modern culture though.
In other cultures mourning is a ritual, a public display, a shared experience, a period of time set aside to publicly grieve. ~B

 

Patti, I just found Helena in the Sudden Loss discussion and guided her over here if she’s interested. I’ll keep an eye out for her since I’m up and she was on gic just a little while ago. ~Bernadine

 

Bernadine, I thought she is KarenLee,
whose husband, Pete. died, after over 50
years of marriage. She lives in
Minnesota.

 

Hi Lou,
Helena and KarenLee have similar losses but are two different women.
Patti had directed Helena this way but she hadn’t been able to find us on the site.
From her posts I think she would like some of the support we’ve got going over here. ~B

 

Bernadine, I'm trying to help Helena.
If she wants to talk with one of us, She
can get on GIC,make a connection. I gave
her my user name & real 1st name. I'm
trying to explain that there are different
threads, like

 

Thanks, B