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Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by Helena Beatriz, May 4, 2022.

  1. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    George, you did TWO things right for
    grieving for Valerie: crying your eyes out
    when listening to sad music, AND,
    reaching out to TGW, who are always
    here for you . Robin & I are first, but
    there will be others. Lobsterino
     
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  2. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    ❤️❤️
     
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  3. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    Thanks!!!!!!!!
     
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  4. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    You all made it batter . Haven't felt MG this bad in months!
     
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  5. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    George, hope you can read something
    light and fall asleep . I'm sure all that
    mourner's fatigue made you feel
    exhausted. I even got tired thinking about
    the hard time you went through today.
    I pray to God that your next Thanksgiving
    will be a lot better. As for me, I try to go
    to bed at night & wake up in the
    morning at the same time every day.
    So, I'll have to sign off now, and wish you
    a good night's sleep. "Talk" tomortow...L
     
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  6. Sweetcole

    Sweetcole Well-Known Member

    George I'm sorry you were having a rough day. I hope.it got better. I feel though. I told a friend if it wasn't for.my kids I'd boycott the holidays. I said I just felt like hiding and I didn't feel like anyone would notice. We definitely get how you feeling because it's taking all we got for.some of us to keep moving. I hope that grief got off your back long enough for you to enjoy some fresh air and maybe some good food. I will continue to pray for your strength.
     
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  7. Rose69

    Rose69 Well-Known Member

    My heart goes out to you George. I don't know how many times I've asked my C questions like this: Why did you go? You should be here doing this, that, going places with me and so on. After two years, still feels so unreal, seems impossible that he won't be coming back to me. Lately my 'grief attacks' have become more frequent. Winter almost upon us doesn't help much! Let's not mention the festive season!! I'm missing my nature therapy, I can't spend much time outside on our land, doing odd jobs. Your play on words with the word 'holiday' is very appropriate, may I say.
    Like you say though, we do have our GW friends who help keep us sane, this is the best therapy and together we will all get through this.
    We will learn to take control of our grief and stop it from controlling us.
    Music definitely helps to let out all those feelings, even if it's sad music and we end up sobbing our heart out, we need to release the pain instead of suppressing it or pretending it's not there (like I do). A bit like a pressure cooker, if the valve is blocked, it will just explode. I used to think crying made me feel worse but now I'm convinced the more I cry , the better I feel. 'Better' is not really the correct word but I'm sure you all know what I mean.

    Rose.
     
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  8. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Rose, just woke up,briefly,&wanted to
    check GIC, to see if anyone tried to give
    comfort to George, besides Robin & me.
    I was pleased to see that Nicole ("Sweetcole") and you did. After Linda
    died, I couldn't listen to ANY music
    without sobbing uncontrollably. One
    motning, over coffee, I played a favorite
    upbeat, sassy blues song, Hootchie
    Cootchie Man, by Muddy Waters,and it
    made me smile. I listened to that song
    right before I met Linda, and loved the
    beat, and its' positive energy. Now, I still
    cry at certain songs ( never that one), but
    that's OK, bc the more I do it , the less I
    cry. I couldn't live without music, and now
    enjoy live music at my local cafe. I hope
    you can, too, Rose,when the COVID
    restrictions end in Italy. Perhaps the
    places which had to close, can reopen,
    under a new name & management, if
    necessary. Time to roll over & go back to
    "sleep" . Lou
     
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  9. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Louster,

    Getting here late, but, and this is another one of those really BIG!!! BUTS!!!, variety is the spice of life, lol...

    Getting a late start this morning, so stopping here... I'm going to attempt to catch up, reading everything in order...

    I hope you enjoyed a very happy Thanksgiving, Mr. Grief, MIA... I love!!! that you are now an "adopted" member of a wonderful, caring family... I know this would make Linda so very happy...

    As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB
     
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  10. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    P.S. Can you tell my morning caffeine hasn't kicked in yet???, lol...
     
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  11. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    George,

    Timing is everything in life, and although I'm getting here much too late, wrapping you in the BIGGEST!!! cyber hug...

    Short and to the point, all of this SUCKS!!! I hope that by next year, same time you'll be able to smile more, cry less...

    I hope you're feeling much better this morning, but, in case life still SUCKS!!! BIG!!! TIME!!!, I just kicked the F*CK!!! out of Mr. Grief for you.

    As always, sending you lots more hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB
     
  12. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    Louster,

    I'm so glad you were able to enjoy Thanksgiving dinner this year, Mr. Grief MIA..., but so sorry Mr. Grief broke into your apartment after you returned home last night. I'm glad he didn't become an overnight guest, that you were able to toss that "F" donkey (my slightly politer way of calling him an A**) right out the window, into the cold night air, where he belongs!!!, TUTTAM!!!

    You read my mind in advance, lol... I responded to George's over the top messages today, using that "F" word. I am definitley NOT!!! a "delicate flower," lol... I believe in saying things as they are. Some things just can't be sugar coated.

    I hope today is off to a good start...

    As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB
     
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  13. DEB321

    DEB321 Well-Known Member

    The George,

    I'm smiling BIG!!! TIME!!! hearing that Robin, Lou, Nicole, and Rose were here for you yesterday, helped you kick the F*CK!!! out of Mr. G. TGW are the absolute best!!!

    I hope today turns out to be a good one, with lots of reasons to smile...

    As always, sending you lots more hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. The DEB
     
  14. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    George for all my positive thoughts about leaving Mr. Grief behind on Thanksgiving it didn't work for me either. I went in reverse missing my old life. But, we have GW's. We can cry, shout, cuss and GW's understand. I try to keep my feelings away from friends and family and when I do share they just listen not knowing what to say. I truly hope the next holiday is better for you and you will have support from your son. Keep Upright. Karen (Ms Hum).
     
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  15. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Amen, Ms. Hum. Today's Center for Loss
    quote is particularly appropriate for all
    TGW on GIC. Like a perverse, "twisted
    Candid Camera", Cato like attack of pain,
    grief, or guilt, we cannot control when we
    will be overcome with melancholy over
    the deaths of our soulmates. I am grateful,
    Ms. Hum, that you, Deb, George, and
    others, can still provide laughter between
    the tears. Louster
     
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  16. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    It felt good in a way to grieve yesterday... Get MG out of my system! Thanks for your kind words!!!!
     
  17. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    Y'know The Deb, it's like all this holiday frenzy gets to me, about food family and friends... The Three F's!!! I made myself go out today to the art league and met some very nice people and I did four paintings. I had to force myself to do this but I can't take any more severe depression! Thanks for being there!
     
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  18. eyepilot13

    eyepilot13 Well-Known Member

    Doing much better today! Thanks to all TGWs and their loving support! Last night just had a massive Cato-esque attack!
     
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  19. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    At least Inspector Clouseau ( Peter
    Sellers) PAID Cato to keep him on his
    toes, ready for combat. We need to
    be left alone sometimes... Louster
     
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  20. Rose69

    Rose69 Well-Known Member



    Kato's working overtime at the moment. Why won't he leave me alone? :mad:

    P S. Lou, you've found the perfect 'personification' for our grief.
     
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