Trying to understand the loss of my mom

Discussion in 'Loss of a Parent' started by Clover8705, Dec 30, 2022.

  1. Clover8705

    Clover8705 New Member

    I lost my mom Oct 23rd, 2022 to Cancer and I just can't seem to wrap my head around her being gone. It all seems so surreal even though we spent months watching her decline. Watching my strong willed and independent mom become so frail seems like a bad nightmare that I can't wake up from.

    I know its only been a couple months but I don't know still how to process this. Anyone else feel that way?
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  2. Dadandme

    Dadandme New Member

    I lost my father to Cancer Oct 16/2021 - on his birthday. I too watched the slow decline and struggle of my Dad with Cancer. You are not alone. I know it feel that way as that is how I felt too. It took months to get me off the floor crying so hard I could hardly breathe. I have read a few books now on grief and forums online. It seems what you are feeling is what is excepted with grief. Let your self grieve and feel the emotions. It feels like it will never get easier but it does. We are all on our own journey with grief so don't be too hard on yourself. Take time to look after you.
  3. Clover8705

    Clover8705 New Member

    Thanks for responding and I am sorry for your loss as well. I keep telling myself whenever I feel the need for a mini breakdown to let myself. To give myself that time to feel all the emotions. It is a very hard process but being able to have support from others who have gone through similar situations help. I am a big reader are there any specific books on grief that you read that you would recommend? Im willing to try any and all avenues on ways to help myself cope and understand. Again thank you for your kind words it really touched me.
  4. kgigliotti

    kgigliotti New Member

    I feel like that too, I feel like watching a strong independent person decline before your eyes really mentally takes a toll on you. My mom was so independent, she loved mowing the lawn, she loved cleaning, she was a busybody and when she couldn’t do her favorite things anymore that was the hardest part for her and us to watch. One minute I’ll be okay, the next minute I’m hysterically crying but that’s all apart of grieving, I don’t think there is a “right” way to process this sort of thing, I think you’re going to process it and grieve it for the remainder of your life and that’s okay!!
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