Really nice to hear from you, too!! Sorry it takes me a little time to write back, sometimes. It's like my stupid thyroid medicine is my boss,
and it gets really grouchy! And it only allows me to write back at certain times. I'm happy it's cutting me some slack right now, so here I am!
Hope you, your mom and brother had as good a day as possible on Thanksgiving. I'm glad that you all could get together. At least you all
can understand what each other is going through, and you don't have to pretend. That's really important. It might've been harder, in a way,
to go out to a restaurant and be surrounded by people who seem like their family is all happy and together....although we don't really
know what anyone is going through. Of course, I'd rather you have felt good enough to go out, if you wanted to. But given the circumstances,
I'm thinking it probably worked out OK. And yay, you provided the breadsticks and green beans!!!
That is so awesome that your mom was really excited to cook!! My mom would be one year older than her, if she was here, and I know she
would've felt the same way. My mom really liked to cook good, quality things for Jordan and me. She was an old-school type mom. Even if
we could've afforded to eat out often, she said she wouldn't have done it. She thought home-made stuff was the best, and I agree!
Whatever your mom made, I'll bet it was pretty good! And you know it was made with love and care.
Thank you for the good thoughts & prayers....the same is going from me to you & your family. I know this had to be a really difficult time for
all of you. Every day is harder when you've lost someone dear, but the holidays just bring up extra stuff. I hope you all were able to talk about your
dad a bit and remember some good things about other Thansgivings you spent together. If it's too soon for that, I think it'll come, in time.
I did get to go to an online grief support meeting on Thanksgiving, which was very kindly done in the morning by that David Kessler grief guy
I told you about. He didn't have to do this on the holiday itself, but he's been through a lot of loss in his own life, and he understands that
some of us aren't able to have our family members around. He got a pretty big turnout for this meeting. He was just telling people to
kind of lower your expectations for Thanksgiving (and all these holidays), and don't put pressure on yourself to think that it's wrong if you
don't feel like celebrating, don't feel too grateful, or even if you're just feeling like putting in a frozen pizza by yourself & calling it a day.
He's very big on this saying, "Let the day be the day." Don't try to impose too much on yourself of what it "should" be. And don't think of
yourself as being such an oddball if you can't or don't want to celebrate in the more traditional ways. You do the best you can, for you.
And that helps....my mom was big on that philosophy, too, of doing the best you can & not beating yourself up for not always doing what others do.
And it was cute...Mr. Kessler said, "And if anyone gives you a hard time for being alone today, tell them that actually, you spent part of Thanksgiving
with 190 other people!" That's how many were in on the Zoom meeting....we liked that thought! I actually wasn't totally alone, as my late brother's
girlfriend was here...but she's not that talkative so it's sort of like being alone for much of the day. But she did go out & get me something nice
to eat, which was kind. It's funny...the restaurant must've run out of some holiday foods, because although I did get some turkey & stuffing (yay!),
the sides were a lot of French fries & cheese bread! Ah well, I think the Pilgrims had French fries & cheese bread at the first Thanksgiving, too,
LOL I don't eat fries that often, but they were good so I had some, and I froze a lot of them for other times.
Hope Tang was OK with being quarantined, if that's what happened. I'm sure if you slipped him a little extra holiday treat, he'd forgive you!
And, I hope Tang won't be too offended, but I did watch the big Dog Show they have each year on NBC....my brother and I used to enjoy looking
at all the many different breeds. Some are so tiny, and some are SO huge....one almost looked like you could ride him! Jordan and I also used
to laugh at a couple of the dogs, too....especially the ones that have fur like a string mop, or ones you can hardly tell which end is which on them!
I know, not too nice of us to laugh at them....but I'm sure Tang can understand--and appreciate--our laughing at dogs, sometimes!
And it's just as you said, sometimes, it doesn't seem real that our person isn't here. I thought of that when I was watching the dog show,
especially....it was like, "Hey, Jordan, where are you? You need to see this dog!" I'm sure it felt like that for you at times, regarding your dad.
I know it IS a lot to process, and then for you, all the physical things going on. But we keep trying. And for those of us who try to believe in
a higher power, we keep trying with that, too. We really don't understand why all these things have gone on, but we keep trying to have faith
in that God has his reasons for things; that His ways are higher than our ways; that we will just keep hanging in there because that's what
we're supposed to do. And with the thought that somehow, there is something better ahead. It's the best we can do, though not always easy.
It really is one day at a time....baby steps, as they say. But oh, so true!
I like your imagery, about the Lord holding out His hand to you. Keep doing that. That's why I keep reading & watch inspirational stuff, too, and keep
trying to cement it in my head. I must have a really thick head, because some days, it really takes some doing! But we keep trying. Thank YOU, too,
for caring about me. Always know that I care about YOU, too. And that I will always understand if you can't write back quickly. Sometimes,
I can't, either. But, we are here for each other, even with delays. And that is a very good thing!!
My best to you, your mom & brother, and of course--Tang, the incredible, amazing "Wonder Cat"!! Get some rest...I probably tired you out
with this longer post, but sometimes, I just can't keep it short! I really hope & pray you start feeling better, SOON!!! Take care... SallyD
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