Hi Everyone,
I tried to reply to posts last night also to greet those that are new to GIC and group here at Loss of Spouse. I
was at a total loss for words, loosing our loved one Husband, Wife, Partner is the absolute worst time in one’s
life. My heartfelt love, prayers, hope for everyone.
I want to say Thank you to Karyn for getting this site on internet, I was so very Blessed to find it, I needed to
look no farther, finding those here sharing their Love, Understanding, Support, helping one another along this
journey, however long it is.
Although I haven’t been able to come in like I use to,I daily continue to keep all those here in my prayers.
I quickly picked up on something , Van Gough “Lou” a member here did in using a first name and that of our
Loved one in introducing oneself and asking others theirs. “Thank you Lou”, hope you and others are doing ok
as I missed seeing recent postings from you an many folks.
My name is Patti, my husband name is Jack, i will share about the past a bit. Jack was 57 when he was diagnosed
with horrible Parkinson’s disease. I was 54.
( He had to retire from a job he loved, electrical engineer, being a Veteran, he was so proud to be a part of those to
help build and support our military planes, yep, proudly serving in USAF.)
Jack suffered with Parkinson’s for 24 years after Specialist finally dx’d him with PD.
It was necessary for me to take over with keeping up our home and thru years helping Jack I learned how to do electrical work, plumbing, whatever fell upon me and was needed he was a Great teacher ( at times a wee bit impatient, but always told me (“we’re a great team.”) We always Believed God brought us together. Blessed 61 years together. He is with me not
Physically but spiritually every moment of everyday.
As his disease progressed, Jack fell and suffered traumatic brain injury, his last nine years he needed my total care around the clock, ( it took me four years after he transitioned for me to recall what our life was like prior to PD,) I don’t want to
allow myself to think on those nine years, except yo give thanks to God each and everyday now for all the strength to do what was needed, keeping me healthy to do so.
I prayed for someone to come into our life to help keep up everything there was to do outdoors, thankfully was able to hire
a young man Raul. He was a Godsend. He called me Mama Patti, and hubby Papa Jack. Raul phones me every week, or every other week.
Jack left my arms at home on November 7, 2016 to be united with God. Sadly at the very same time my only brother was laid to rest, he passed the week before Jack.
It is Seven years today on 14th. I had made arrangements to see and visit Jack, I am thankful I did, it was the hardest time
In my life, very first thing I did was kiss him, visited with him and stayed long tim, I needed to do this, when it came time to leave, I took a tissue placed it upon his lips and kissed him, I saved this and have it in my Bible.
I only recently have been able to speak like this, last night for first time openly sharing with a close friend by text, like I am now with each of you.
To those whom have read this, I want to say there is NO TIME LIMIT IN GRIEF, IT TAKES AS LONG AS IT NEEDS TO, we are all different and Grief is different for everyone, it sure doesn’t make it any easier, I feel a contentment in my heart today
and am so thankful, Thank God. Jack and my upcoming wedding anniversary will be 68 years, but like our age it’s a number
It’s the wonderful love we were Blessed to share with our soulmate, we’re FOREVER within our hearts together for
“Yesterday,Today,Tomorrow, Forever.
Sending big hug, love, prayers to everyone here, in closing Thank you Karyn, your helpers to keep GIC on line for
everyone .
Blessings always, Patti
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