Sudden and unexpected

Hello everyone. I made a trip to Goodwill and Costco this morning. Deb Lou is right that was a very nice book to me thank you very much. I’m glad you’re going to thanksgiving with your special friend. I’m glad that you see it as a mission honor Bob. I hope Cheryl is proud of me how I handled her a estate. I have thought about that many times and tried to do in a way I would honor her. I am so glad Lou has encouraged everyone to read Permission to mourn and a widower’s notebook. I feel my grief has more direction by these books. I still haven’t finished Jonathan‘s book though. Lou the lone gull sounds like a place I’d be hanging out in especially if I was still drinking. When I move through the community or the woods now I feel like a Lone wolf. But when I’m connected to TGW I feel like I’m in a wolf pack that fights for survival and is in harmony within it’s self. Thanks Karen for the tip about the center for loss daily meditation quote. I have a lot of catching up on unread posts. Peace. Gary

 

I like that a "wolf pack" that fights for survival.....right on.

 

About to go to bed, about 10pm my time.
I'm so glad I could suggest the 2 books,
to inspire and comfort TGW here. It was
my grief therapist who recommended
them. As for the daily quotations about
Grief, via email, Karen, Deb, and I ( and
perhaps others here) have derived a great
deal of wisdom from them. A woman
I know at the Shack, was crying one
night, over her father's recent death.She
told me about that site. I even emailed
Karyn Arnold, who knew about it, and
felt it was a valuable resource for us.
The Lone Gull is strictly coffee and tea,
no alcohol, so you would feel safe there,
Gary, just listening to the tunes. I enjoyed
reaching out to GIC, on my phone. Other
people were talking quietly, or using
their laptops. Hope you sleep well, my
friend. Lou

 

Robin, Karen just reminded me that today
is the very sad 3rd year anniversary of
Ron's death. I woke up in a fog, and replied
to Deb.I've been wrapped up in my plans
for my sad 3rd year anniversary of
Linda's death, on Nov 19, which falls on
a Friday this year. As I may have mentioned, I intend to be with friends
on our usual fun night at the Shack. I don't
drink anymore, but will silently raise my
cranberry & soda to Linda. Lou

 

Thank you Lou, I’ve spent the day doing things Ron would enjoy. We had breakfast out and going out for dinner too. Went for a walk and visited animals being treated at a refuge that we all visited often. To be honest, this morning I felt some relief I made it to today and I can get today behind me. As always I’m doing better then the days leading up to today. Plan to watch Hacksaw Ridge tonight. A favorite of Rons. You’ll be in my thoughts on Friday of coarse. I’m glad you’re be with friends. We’ll get through these difficult days together. Robin

 

Robin When I woke up this morning I wondered how many times you said I love you to Ron. I would give a conservative estimate you said I love you 20,000 to Ron in the last three years. I’ve only had one significant dream about Cheryl. it happened about three days after Cheryl passed. In the dream I did something bad enough that Cheryl was in the process of getting her own place. I was distraught and when I finally called Cheryl to ask her to come home I woke up. In the grief support meetings I heard someone say they had the same dream. I would like to have another dream with Cheryl. I don’t care if it’s good or bad. I have a lot of reading to catch up on at Allison’s site. I’m kind of lost for words now. I’ll catch up with you later. Hoping the best for everyone. Gary

 

You sound so much better, in spite of the
terrible circumstances of mourning for
Ron, Robin. I'm so proud of you, and happy that you came on here to speak with your
friends, TGW. Thank you for sharing the
details of your day and evening. I was
hoping you would. I'll try to do the same
after the Shack on Friday night and the
coffee with veterans on Sat am at the
American Legion. When you said Ron
liked Hacksaw Ridge, I thought you
meant Heartbreak Ridge, 1986, with
Clint Eastwood , as a tough Korean War
veteran. Linda & I saw that, bc we liked
his movies.We did not see Hackshaw
Ridge, 2016, about a pacifist in WWII. Hope you enjoy the evening. Tomorrow is a new day.I hope to feel that way on Sat. Lou

 

Gary, I can empathize with you on
dreams. For me, most of my dreams about
Linda SUCKED BIG TIME, as our friend,
Deb, would say. I think we would all like
just one more day with our soulmates.
Thanks again for reaching out to TGW,
once again. Lou

 

Gary, the complete title is Center for Loss
and Life Transition. It was founded by a
grief counselor and author, Alan Wolfelt.
You simply give the site your email
address and name, and they will start
sending you daily quotations on grief.
You always bring great insight about
your grief group and the 2 books. I'll
look forward to your feelings about the
Center. Lou

 

Gary, email from Karyn. She suggested
shorter posts. Using new user name:
Shack Man. Lou

 

Robin, my new user name is Shack Man.
I have to use SHORT posts. Lou

 

Hi Lou, I have difficulty use of the GIC site , was lucky to post now, kept saying page
doesn’t exist. I think of everyone here and continue praying for everyone daily. Lou
I hope you have plans to be out with your friends, sending hug along with many
Others. My new iPad works great, however it’s too frustrating with problems I’m
having using this site now,
George, hope your move is going smooth, keep strong in moving
forward.
Hugs and prayers to all. Blessings, Patti

 

Patti, so glad you saw my messages to
Deb, Robin, and Gary! We tend to write
"books". Karyn suggested SHORT posts.
I used Shack Man as my new user name
( appropriate for tonight, when I hope to
be among friends). Lou

 

Itsa a goin' and I'm freakin!

 

Yo Shack Man! I can't write much cuz I can't believe in 10 daze I'm out of here. Must move it all and empty out this house! Treasure your friends! I know you do!

 

Valerie is in my dreams every night. I don't remember them much

 

George, after 3 years. (Linda died 3 years
ago today), the dreams become less
frequent. I still cry a little when I wake up,
but don't sob like I used to.Have to do
SHORT posts (Karyn's suggestion), so I
don't get kicked off GIC again!! Lou

 

George, Thanks for reaching out to me
this am, buddy!! I learned not to panic,
like I did during reboot over Halloween.
I kept my cool this time. Don't forget,
Valerie's death was the WORST thing to
ever happen to you. The rest is crap.
You will be looking at your move in the
rear view mirror, and will be proud of
yoirself, as all of TGW will be! Lou

 

Oh I know ShakDude! Knowing it and then dealing with this anxiety is not... fun! Like who sez itz supposed to be right! I feel so overwhelmed and paralyzed today. I'm lad all my TGW friends are there! Lots of peace to all!

 

I think your strength in dealing with this sad anniversary is a real show of healing! Take care my friend!