Stages of Grief: Anger

Thanks, George! Stopped watching
Homer & the family when show got too
political, for my taste ( when I wanted
to escape the news). Lou[/QUOTE]

Lou,

While I knew George uses TB, The Boy, when he talks about his son, I learned something new. I didn't know that it was a Simpsons reference. I learned something new.

Got to try to get some sleep, TU!!!

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Deb...Just wanted to give you a hug today (it's still today here, anyway). ((((((((HUGS)))))))) ♥

 

Lou,

While I knew George uses TB, The Boy, when he talks about his son, I learned something new. I didn't know that it was a Simpsons reference. I learned something new.

Got to try to get some sleep, TU!!!

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB[/QUOTE]
Thanks for late night reply about
Simpsons. Deb. After no sleep due to storm Tues night & not enough sleep at Kim's
bc of early am eye doctor appt. yesterday,
I became run down & got my 1st cold in
a long time. Finally slept through the
night at home last night, but I'm going to
take it easy today. I texted Steven that I
will have to pass on usual Friday night
at Shack, where we had planned to have
dinner. Never heard from him yesterday.
We are supposed to get rain, not a
storm on Sat, & last I heard they were
returning to Pa. on Sun ( Halloween).
Hope you're OK, my friend, and that you've been sleeping. Lou

 

Good Fri am, Marcey. Saw your 1am post
to Deb. Hope you're sleeping OK. I didn't
for 2 nights, got run down, & have a cold.
Just told Deb why, so I won't repeat here.
Need coffee!! Lou

 

Thanks, George! Stopped watching
Homer & the family when show got too
political, for my taste ( when I wanted
to escape the news). Lou[/QUOTE]
It was like our show in the 90s... I love seasons 3-10 but I can't believe its still on. Haven't watched it in 15 years at least...

 

Thank you Karen, I hoped you all would enjoy the story. It makes me cry thinking of it but also a beautiful memory.
We’re here for you, your anniversary is approaching fast. I hope you’re managing ok. I know our minds take us to difficult places and life gets even harder as the date approaches. I’ve mentioned before that for me my mind takes me to the worst scenario possible. I’m sick by the time the day arrives over my thinking and dreading too much. But the day is nothing as horrible as what I conjure up or as nightmarish as the loss. We’re here to help in any way possible. I hope you had a nice visit with your guests yesterday. I made Rons favorite pumpkin cookies yesterday. Wish he was here to enjoy them.

 

No worries Lou, I did wonder what that was supposed to say. It’s, I’m too tired talk. Made me smile.
I’m glad my lamb story was so well received by you all!
Kim sounds like a wonderful person. And you have a family to be with on Thanksgiving.

 

Thanks for late night reply about
Simpsons. Deb. After no sleep due to storm Tues night & not enough sleep at Kim's
bc of early am eye doctor appt. yesterday,
I became run down & got my 1st cold in
a long time. Finally slept through the
night at home last night, but I'm going to
take it easy today. I texted Steven that I
will have to pass on usual Friday night
at Shack, where we had planned to have
dinner. Never heard from him yesterday.
We are supposed to get rain, not a
storm on Sat, & last I heard they were
returning to Pa. on Sun ( Halloween).
Hope you're OK, my friend, and that you've been sleeping. Lou[/QUOTE]
Yeah! He's The Boy , I noticed other parents in our 1990s generation of X'erz calling their sons The Boy as well. It was like a meme before anyone knew what a meme was... itz raining here! Ugh! Best love and kindnesses!

 

Thanks for late night reply about
Simpsons. Deb. After no sleep due to storm Tues night & not enough sleep at Kim's
bc of early am eye doctor appt. yesterday,
I became run down & got my 1st cold in
a long time. Finally slept through the
night at home last night, but I'm going to
take it easy today. I texted Steven that I
will have to pass on usual Friday night
at Shack, where we had planned to have
dinner. Never heard from him yesterday.
We are supposed to get rain, not a
storm on Sat, & last I heard they were
returning to Pa. on Sun ( Halloween).
Hope you're OK, my friend, and that you've been sleeping. Lou[/QUOTE]

Lou,

Just a very quick message this morning. I have additional questions regarding my health coverage for 2022. I've been trying to reach my sales rep and she finally got back to me. She has some time to meet with me later this morning and I have to prepare for our meeting beforehand.

First, sending extra hugs your way... I'm so sorry that you're not feeling well enough to meet with Steven and Betsy at the Shack tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to this and how much you're going to miss them when they return to PA on Halloween. I hope you get lots of rest today, drink lots of fluids, and do whatever you need to do to ditch this cold ASAP!!!

Although yesterday was very difficult for me, I talked to my son for a really long time last night. By the time I got off the phone with him, I was feeling much better. Although I was so sad most of yesterday, it was wonderful to end what would have been my wedding anniversary with laughter. I know this would have made Bob happy.

I really need to go, but will be back later....

Sending lots more hugs your way, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

You are so welcome! Every once in a while I can hear Ron yelling I love you Robin , I love you Robin. I take that as a message from Ron here and now not just a memory. I miss him telling me. As we all miss that. We communicated telepathically, and he’s still communicating with me. Bob is communicating with you.
So glad you enjoyed “The Lamb Story” haha I’m naming it now. You guys here are the first to hear it outside of immediate family.
I got the cookies made yesterday. Ron would be thrilled. Watching over a teddy today and it looks like Stacey and I might need to go back to the dealer. She just bought a used Jeep. Dealers are such scammers. They charged her for a warranty she never agreed to, gave her only one day on her temp registration and now she got a letter from the loan bank that even with her credit score being over 800 they aren’t approving her loan. Something about the car being too old or too much mileage. So the dealer we think put the wrong vin number on the papers. This will be our 3rd trip back to the dealer since we drove it home. They never answer or return our calls so we have to keep going back. Another nightmare.
I think yesterday? Was your anniversary, so glad your son came through for you and got you laughing over memories. That’s the best medicine. It’s possible that Bob was speaking to you for your anniversary.
Robin

 

Robin.

Thank you so much for sharing "The Lamb Story," with TGW, before sharing it with anyone outside of your immediate family. It's such a beautiful, special memory, but so bittersweet at the same time, that I'm teary eyed as I'm "talking" to you. I hope whoever owns Kleenex appreciates TGW, TU!!! I know Ron is smiling as he's watching over you..., knowing that you made his favorite pumpkin cookies yesterday.

I agree with you, that just like Ron is communicating with you, Bob is communicating with me. Yesterday evening, before my son called, I was crying, I couldn't stop. I told Bob how much I love him, how much I miss him, and how very lonely I am without him... I also told him how hard I'm trying to heal because I want him to be proud of me. I want him to be happy too. I stopped crying, went into the kitchen to get a glass of water, and right at that moment, the phone rang. It was my youngest son. As soon as he told me that he knew I was going to be very sad today because it should have been my wedding anniversary, I started crying again. However, just as Bob could always make me laugh, my youngest son can too. We shared lots of "remember when's, " and by the time we got off of the phone, I was laughing... Happy mixed with sad... I like to think that Bob had something to do with my son's call. In a way, it feels like, even though he couldn't be with me physically, he gave me a very special gift on what would have been our anniversary. He gave me the gift of being able to spend time with our youngest son... I'm such an emotional mess.... I keep having to reach for tissues... At least my tears are "happy mixed with sad" (I love!!! how you explained this to me!!!. I can't stop quoting you.)

I'm so sorry that your daughter is being scammed by the dealer, TU!!! I hope that you and Stacey are able to get this resolved ASAP!!! If you don't have any luck after going to the dealer, I don't know much about the "Lemon Law," but it might be something you want to look into. This dealer needs to be stopped, TU!!!

How's Teddy today? Poor thing, I'm guessing he's very itchy!!!! As always, give him lots of hugs from me.

I haven't had a chance to catch up with all the new messages since last night. I'm going to a friend's for dinner, and want to pick up a bottle of wine and some "cookies" for her dog (I'm madly in love with him!!!, another TU!!!). I need to get going soon, we always do drinks before dinner, and I need to leave soon if I want to do a bit of shopping first. The roads are very busy this time of day. I know I'm going to get stuck in traffic. So, stopping here for now.

As always sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Lou,

Just a very quick message this morning. I have additional questions regarding my health coverage for 2022. I've been trying to reach my sales rep and she finally got back to me. She has some time to meet with me later this morning and I have to prepare for our meeting beforehand.

First, sending extra hugs your way... I'm so sorry that you're not feeling well enough to meet with Steven and Betsy at the Shack tonight. I know how much you were looking forward to this and how much you're going to miss them when they return to PA on Halloween. I hope you get lots of rest today, drink lots of fluids, and do whatever you need to do to ditch this cold ASAP!!!

Although yesterday was very difficult for me, I talked to my son for a really long time last night. By the time I got off the phone with him, I was feeling much better. Although I was so sad most of yesterday, it was wonderful to end what would have been my wedding anniversary with laughter. I know this would have made Bob happy.

I really need to go, but will be back later....

Sending lots more hugs your way, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB[/QUOTE]


UPDATE...

Lou,

I didn't know where to "stick" this message, so I hope you see it. I've been thinking about you today, hoping you're getting plenty of rest, drinking lots of fluids, and are beginning to feel at least a bit better.

As I was "talking" to Robin, I realized that I have to leave soon. I'm going over my friend's house for drinks and dinner. As I told Robin, the traffic SUCKS!!! this time of day, and I want to stop by the store first, pick up a bottle of wine, and some "cookies" for one of my very favorite fur babies. He always greets me at the front door, and always looks at me as if to ask, "did you bring anything for me too?" When I look into his big brown eyes, see the expression on his face, I think he knows I melt.... and that there is nothing I wouldn't do to make him happy. As I tell my friend all the time, I'm totally and madly in love with him, another one of those TUs!!! My friend always tells me that she doesn't mind sharing her "man" with me. This always makes us laugh.

My friend always has perfect timing. It's almost as if she knows I'm feeling especially sad and that I need to get out of my house. My very closest friend from "home," always seem to know this too. She always seems to call whenever I need her the most. Even though my closest friend from "home" hasn't gone through the total heartbreak that all of TGW have, (I pray!!! she never has too!!!, TU!!!), we have been best friends for most of our lives. She knows me better than anyone else does, with the exception of Bob. So, while she might not totally "get it," I always feel much better after talking to her.

Quick change of subject, then I have to go. I'm looking forward to watching "The Beach Club" tomorrow night. I'm so glad my son called me last night and helped me add the Tubi channel to my TV. I'm planning on spending the evening being a couch potato, drinking tea, and watching it. I better stop "talking" now. I have to get out of this house!!!

I'll try to get back here later on tonight. Until then...

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Deb, please drive careful but have a nice outing with your friends. I’m happy you’re getting out. I know the family on here would realize how important touching, whatever, that story was to me and my kids. Understand the feelings and meaning behind it.
So I’ll also share that previous to Rons passing, for whatever reason we talked about how I’d do certain things and who would help me. And he always said he knew my younger brother would be there for me. We were always very close. And he has been there for me to a certain extent. He told both my children that whatever I need he’ll take care of it. Nice statement but not really happening. But he was there for me for the first couple months and if I call him he’ll help me. Anyway moving forward to my point. On the days I’m an emotional mess of crying or feeling miserable, that brother calls me. Every time. You know a time or two can be a coincidence but it happens every time. I feel Ron gets him to call me. And cheer me up. Just like you had happen on your anniversary and your son came through for you. So special. Love it! I’m glad my explanation is so fitting for you. Happy mixed with sad, it says it all. It’s our day to day.
As for my daughters jeep purchase. It was supposed to a happy purchase and get us back out on the beach. It’s been one thing after another. And just so overwhelming. We plan to report them to better business bureau. And give them a scathing review. But we need to be done with them first.
Teddy is healing and for the most part leaving it alone. He licks it once in a while but he’s been very good. He’s asleep on my lap now. The weather has turned pretty cold and we’re keeping each other warm. Drive safe and have a nice evening! Robin

 

Once again, Deb, in the spirit of "great
minds think alike", or is it, "foggy brains
FEEL alike", I was about to interrupt your
long conversation with Robin. I am so
sorry that you have to face your sad
wedding anniversary without Bob. I was
doing OK, until I saw Linda's nursing
home across from Kim's Tea Room, on
Tues. I repressed it until this am when I
was in the kitchen, doing things she
taught me . Unlike Jonathan , who panicked one day bc he forgot what Joy's
voice sounded like, I've never had that
problem. Before we were married, we
would talk on the phone, and I can still

hear her laugh. I'm nursing a cold, after
losing sleep during & after storm. Colder
outside today, & I'm staying inside ,
taking naps to catch up with my sleep.
Not going to Shack tonight or Legion
for coffee in the am. Ironically, N, who I
haven't seen in weeks will be there in
the morning. Steven & Betsy's heat never
went on in their cottage, so they had to
drive, late last night back to Pa. Steven
texted that they were sad, but enjoyed
being here. My actual time with them
was brief, but memorable: The Shack on
1st night & coffee at Brothers Brew where
they met Ginny, Roger, & Kim's father,
Brian. Hope you have a nice time with
your friend, over wine, tonight.... Lou

 

UPDATE...

Lou,

I didn't know where to "stick" this message, so I hope you see it. I've been thinking about you today, hoping you're getting plenty of rest, drinking lots of fluids, and are beginning to feel at least a bit better.

As I was "talking" to Robin, I realized that I have to leave soon. I'm going over my friend's house for drinks and dinner. As I told Robin, the traffic SUCKS!!! this time of day, and I want to stop by the store first, pick up a bottle of wine, and some "cookies" for one of my very favorite fur babies. He always greets me at the front door, and always looks at me as if to ask, "did you bring anything for me too?" When I look into his big brown eyes, see the expression on his face, I think he knows I melt.... and that there is nothing I wouldn't do to make him happy. As I tell my friend all the time, I'm totally and madly in love with him, another one of those TUs!!! My friend always tells me that she doesn't mind sharing her "man" with me. This always makes us laugh.

My friend always has perfect timing. It's almost as if she knows I'm feeling especially sad and that I need to get out of my house. My very closest friend from "home," always seem to know this too. She always seems to call whenever I need her the most. Even though my closest friend from "home" hasn't gone through the total heartbreak that all of TGW have, (I pray!!! she never has too!!!, TU!!!), we have been best friends for most of our lives. She knows me better than anyone else does, with the exception of Bob. So, while she might not totally "get it," I always feel much better after talking to her.

Quick change of subject, then I have to go. I'm looking forward to watching "The Beach Club" tomorrow night. I'm so glad my son called me last night and helped me add the Tubi channel to my TV. I'm planning on spending the evening being a couch potato, drinking tea, and watching it. I better stop "talking" now. I have to get out of this house!!!

I'll try to get back here later on tonight. Until then...

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB[/QUOTE]
Yay, Deb, for Boynton Beach Club!! Can't
wait to talk with you about it. Have no
problem finding your replies,but sometimes, when I'm "foggy" , it's a
struggle, but well worth it!

 

Lou,

How are you doing? A cold and a surgery. I've been wondering. I'm so sorry it's taking me a while to respond AND I know I am missing messages (the notification system here could use a redo - but I'm grateful for the site, regardless).

To respond to your comment - I am not sleeping well. Not at all. And I'm exhausted. Hopefully, I will sleep tonight, because I have a long drive to make tomorrow.

I hope you are continuing to heal and are doing as well as possible.

Stacey

 

Thank you for asking about my eye
surgery, Stacey. It's a miracle that I don't
need glasses to see distance. I was
extremely nearsighted. When my eyes
clouded over with cataracts,I couldn't
make out the top lines of the eye chart.
I will see the doctor again to determine
whether I need reading glasses. I was at
the local bar tonight. It was good to laugh
with my friends on our usual Fri. night.
So sorry you are not sleeping well.After
Linda died, I couldn0 sleep either. The
nurse gave me over-the-counter
Melatonin, which did relax me enough to
sleep a few hours. I had to make up for
lack of sleep at home,with no more than a
half hour nap in the afternoon.

 

Lou,

I'm glad you got out this evening and had a nice time. Also glad the surgery went well. I hope you won't need glasses at all!

I've been taking half a Benedryl when I get desperate for sleep. Melatonin gives me scary nightmares, so I have to avoid it. I'm looking into other natural aids, though.

Keep healing and enjoy your improved sight. ♥ Stacey

 

Woke up briefly at 3am, my time. Thank
you for your kind email, Stacey! I recall
Benadryl, whe n I was growing up. I had
to take it for allergies ( tree pollen, cats,,
dogs, etc). and it made me sleepy. Side
note: Glad I outgrew allergy to dogs, bc
I pet them all the time. I visit a widow's
French Bulldog. He has become a kind of

service dog for me. Never barks!! Lou

 

I'm glad you outgrew your allergy too! Dogs are such great comforting companions.

The half Benedryl helped me sleep about 4 hours straight. Which is pretty good for me. (plus dozing and waking up a lot for a couple of hours before going to bed) Though a nap already sounds good and it's only 6 am. I may try to sleep some more.