Spouse. Caregiver. Widow. What now?

Patti 67 · Jul 28, 2022

Husband43 said: ↑

I too lost the love of my life on March 2, 2015 after 43 years of marriage. She died of pancreatic cancer and I was her care giver and I learned so much during those ten months of going to Arizona where we entered an experimental program at Cancer Treatment Center of America. Those people were a blessing. But most of all I grew closer to our Lord and it was only with his carrying me across that awful span of time that I survived. But the pain and grief has never stopped and even now I have days were I just can't stop from crying. I suppose when God gives you the best spouse for you, when they die it is hard to move on.
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I’m so sorry for loss of your wife. God is overseeing us through our pain, he is with us always.

Daisy171 · Mar 21, 2023

linda weiner said: ↑

i lost my husband in april after 25 years of marriage. it was a second marriage for both of us and a true love affair. he had multiple sclerosis but was doing very well for quite awhile. the disease began to progress and for the last 8 years he was bedridden. his mind was clear and i was his total caregiver...it was a labor of love. in the end he contracted pnemonia and his body was too weak to fight it off. he passed away at home in my arms. i am 75 years old and totally along without him. the days and nights are long and lonely and the passage of time does not seem to make it more palatable. i miss him terribly and don't know what to do to get through each day. what will become of me?
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I wonder if you are still on line here, but I wanted to tell you that as a caregiver myself, I understand your pain and the total loss and despair. Just know that your dear husband would want you to try to find some happiness, perhaps at a church group or something like that. The loneliness is unbearable.

Spouse. Caregiver. Widow. What now?

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