I agree that time is irrelevant when it comes to emotions. Sometimes our feelings take us by surprise but that doesn't make them any less valid. I think that's why it's so difficult for people to understand though what we are going through. When I say that I am grieving because I just found out someone I loved passed away and then I tell them it was 15 years ago that the person died, they just act like I am crazy. Sure I would love to just turn the feelings of regret and guilt off like a switch if was that easy, but it's not. Sometimes I think the saying is true, "you don't know what you've got until it's gone."