Hello all. I know I haven't been on in a while. I was struggling there for a few months. The past few weeks have been better, but I know this month will be difficult. October 29th will be one year since my Lizzy passed. I just miss her so much. I have stuggled with not knowing which step to take next, feeling like I really have no purpose left. My grief counslor has been helping. Some days it just feels like I am going through the motions, trying to find something to occupy my mind until its my time to go. I have been going to the gym, its really become my only hobby these days. I think that has also really helped. I hope everyone can find some comfort today. -Chad
Chad, missed your messages, younger brother. Another brother, George, has been having a tough time, too, over the death of his wife, Valerie. It will be 4 yrs.in Nov, since Linda died. I still get choked up some mornings before I walk outside, but at least I don't sob, like I did a year after Linda's death. Walking, talking with people, helps. How was California? Lou
Louster, November is coming up and as I remember it's not a good month for a few of us. It will be 2 years Nov 4th for me and 4 years for you in Nov.
Thanks for remembering , Karen. It will be 4 years next month, right before Thanksgiving, since Linda s death. As I've said before on GIC, I'd rather remember her birth date, which makes me smile. The date will show up on my watch or calendar,& I'll feel that Linda is with me. Also, unlike previous years, I accepted aThanksgiving dinner invitation. The family of 3 generations "adopted " me,and it was wonderful. They invited me again this year, & I gladly accepted. I know 2 years is rough, and as you know, I had to give up drinking, bc I wasn't sleeping well, & was getting more depressed . I feel better physically now, and laugh more. You have a great sense of humor, Karen, and I hope you can get past this Nov mark. Louster
cjpinester, Robin's husband, Ron, died around the same time Linda did. We need a group hug , like in the last episode of The Mary Tyler Show.... Louster
Well, it would not be me who throws you off. I consider it a compliment or is Mr. Grief turning me into a monster, Hum!...
I'm laughing so hard I woke my kitty up, oh my. You really must of kept Linda in stitches as I have said before, and she with you. Mr. Grief is certainly bringing out your best----- or worst? Joke. I'll just bet you keep people laughing around your seaside retreat.
QUOTE="cjpines, post: 30089, member: 19940"]I'm laughing so hard I woke my kitty up, oh my. You really must of kept Linda in stitches as I have said before, and she with you. Mr. Grief is certainly bringing out your best----- or worst? Joke. I'll just bet you keep people laughing around your seaside retreat.[/QUOTE] So glad I made you laugh, Ms. Hum. You sound like a character in the old board game, CLUE, except you're Ms. Hum, and not Miss Plum. About to go to my local cafe with my buddy, for our usual Friday night, to hear a band. Keep on truckin', as Gary always says. Louster
It's unbelievable how many of us share this sad month. Used to be a good month for me, we first met in November, (around the same date as when I lost him!), twenty eight years ago now.
Sorry to hear...the date of passing anniversaries are really tough to get through. Whew. I just joined the site yesterday. October is a dual anniversary date month for me, even with many years having gone by since the actual losses (Mom and husband). Do your best to get through it all. Rest a lot, whenever you want to. I find that light duty short dozing sessions help. There are a lot of very good articles online about "grief anniversaries". Maybe you'll find something that resonates. J
Chad i almost did a post not ago about how it doesn't seem to get easier. I know this has been a rough year losing a part of you. You are brave for talking about it with us so.that a sign of you getting stronger. Im glad the grief counselor is helping. It’s been almost 3 years for me and it still feels like it just happened or that its a dream sometimes. I stay busy with my kids and as hard as it is they are my motivation. So I get trying to stay busy and find things to occupy your time.. This site has been good because we can all lean.on each other without judgememt. Praying that we all continue to get stronger with each passing day.
Nicole, it's wonderful to see you on here this morning ( almost 7am , my time), comforting Chad. Many GWs are suffering through the sad anniversaries of the deaths of their soulmates in Oct & Nov. It will be 4 years since Linda's sudden death , next month, but I prefer to think of her birth date this month. Her birthday is close to Columbus Day, and we would sometimes celebrate by going on a weekend getaway in New England. I'm glad you're a good mother to your children, and I wish you a good holiday with them. Lou
Rose, I just welcomed Jackie, whose husband, Smitty, died in 2004. Like many of us, she is suffering a melancholy of the sad anniversary of her soulmate's death this time of year . I told Jackie about the close friends I've met on GIC. But, I neglected to mention the more recent ones, like you , Nicole ( "Sweetcole") , Helena, & Bernadine . There are others who resurface, but my "foggy widower's brain", as Deb calls it, can only remember these names right now.
