My son brandon

Discussion in 'Loss of Adult Child' started by Louise spirito cook, Sep 16, 2016.

  1. Louise spirito cook

    Louise spirito cook New Member

    Just lost my son brandon 28 years old from an accidental overdose i am missing him so much he was my first born son he told me every day how much he loved me i miss him sooo much there are no words please i need help going thru this.
  2. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Louise I'm so sorry to hear of this terrible loss and for all the pain you must be going through. I'm happy that you have found our site and hope you can find others here to connect with that will understand what you're going through.
  3. Louise spirito cook

    Louise spirito cook New Member

    Thank you for accepting me
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  4. Mona

    Mona Member

    Louise, I am so sorry. I lost my son 9 years ago. There is no pain like losing a child. I'm so glad that you have the memory of his loving words. I am sure he knew he was loved.
  5. Lilian

    Lilian New Member

    Louise , I m so sorry . I m lost my daughter last year May , 18 years old . I miss her everyday n night , everybody told me she is happy in the heaven and become angel but as mom , I want her to by my side . I hang her photo everywhere , in my wallet ,my hp , play her viola ( I don't know to play) , but with this existing , I m move on. I can laugh and I can crying anytime , I forgot who am I now .
  6. PhyllisG

    PhyllisG Active Member

    God bless you Louise in your time of true sadness. There is nothing worse or more devastating than losing your child because of drugs. I lost my one and only child, Joey, on June 17th, 2016, following an accidental heroin overdose. My prayers are truly with you.
  7. Maureen77

    Maureen77 New Member

    Hugs! Sorry very sorry for your loss. I know it's just not right, no parent should ever have to bury their child. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. And people who have not been thru it don't get how devastating this is. How long you suffer for. How there is no getting over it, getting better, surviving it. The person we once were is forever changed fundamentally.
  8. Gigi

    Gigi New Member

    My condolences to all the parents on this forum who lost a child. I recently lost my 27 year old son in a pedestrian accident he was my youngest one. I miss him tremendously and as a result of his loss I have lost my way. I used to have goals I wanted to reach for our family and now I am just numb with a gaping hole in my heart.
  9. PhyllisG

    PhyllisG Active Member

    Gigi, my condolences to you as well. It amazes me more each day I come visit this site how so many are going through the same exact feelings, stages of grief, etc. as myself and others. The loss of my one and only baby has absolutely turned my whole life upside down. The feelings of loneliness can be so overwhelming, yet none of us are truly alone. I am trying so very hard to just pull myself up and start living the life I am left with. My own identity is just totally different. I have GOT to find a way to embrace that, live my life in the right way, and move toward my goal of being with my Joey again. I hope you can find a way to do this as well. Please feel free to reach out if you would like. My Joey's 27th birthday is coming up on April 3, 2017. I just lost him on June 17, 2016, so this will be the first birthday since my world came to a crashing halt on 6/17/16. I am praying for strength in advance of the anniversary of the absolute greatest day of my life back on April 3, 1990. Hang in there....we can do this - for our Angels.

  10. Lisab

    Lisab Member

    Love and prayers comfort to all of you. Phyllis, I have read so many of your posts and want you to know that you bring me great comfort. I have had one friend who has continued to reach out to me over and over since we lost Burke. She lost her son 11 years ago to a drug overdose. She kept telling me that BSF Bible Study really helped her after she lost her son. In January I started BSF and that has helped me more than counselors, crying, grief books, or anything else. Its non denominational and there are groups that meet all over every week. I just wanted to share it because it has really helped me stay in the Word during really tough times.
  11. Mona

    Mona Member

    Gigi, there are no words for what you feel, but "Numb with a gaping hole" certainly sums it up. And there's no point in telling you that you have other children...so what! They don't replace the one you lost. I can tell you that the pain does lessen, but it will be hard for you to believe that right now. So just focus on whatever you can do to get through each minute, each hour. Allow yourself the time and self-indulgence to grieve how you need. It won't be the same as anybody else in the family; you were his mother and no one else was. And they will all have to find their own way through this. At the same time, try to spend time with others, allow friends to support you, allow yourself to talk about him as much as you need to. Don't be pushed to make any changes in your life or major decision. Just move forward step by step with compassion for yourself and for others who loved him.
  12. Mona

    Mona Member

    Phyllis, when my son passed we started a tradition with his friends and family of celebrating his birthday together at one of his favorite hangouts - a bar/restaurant. It has a patio with big picnic tables that's a great place for groups and I bring cupcakes. The first year was so tough but we laughed and cried together and told stories and toasted him. Then it became a yearly tradition. We still look forward to it.