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Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Pete/Shell, Jul 16, 2020.

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  1. Cyanotype

    Cyanotype Well-Known Member

    My trigger is when I talk about my friend. I start to cry......
     
  2. Mothernature

    Mothernature Member

    Music was and is still mine, it was a big part of our friendship / life together. I was in total shock for 2 months after and during that time I couldn't listen to it at all. Now it's songs that I used to sing to him or ones that he showed me that break my heart. He truly was my muse.
     
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  3. Cyanotype

    Cyanotype Well-Known Member

    Thank you for a positive direction
     
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  4. ElizabethHouston

    ElizabethHouston New Member

    Dareka, I am so sorry this happened. Sudden loss is, I think, perhaps the hardest. So many scenarios play out in our heads as time goes on. For me, almost nightly dreams about my husband went on for almost a year. It's been 4 yrs & they have lessened but still happen. I will say a special prayer for you tonight sweetpea. Big Hug!!
     
  5. dareka

    dareka New Member

    Thank you so much for your sweet words. I have the feeling that the only chance to somehow cope is by accepting love and support from the close ones around us. Before, I hadn’t been aware of how many great precious people there actually are!
     
  6. dareka

    dareka New Member

    What you are writing is sooo on point! If it just weren’t so damn hard... trying to keep it up here - hope you too!
     
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  7. LouiseP57

    LouiseP57 Well-Known Member

     
  8. LouiseP57

    LouiseP57 Well-Known Member

    So sorry for your loss. Not having time to prepare yourself is, in my opinion, the hardest part. Like you, I did CPRon my husband until the ambulance arrived to no avail. I knew immediately he was gone but I had to try. As a nurse. I knew right away that it was either a massive heart attack or a blood clot that caused sudden death. I feel your pain.
     
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  9. LouiseP57

    LouiseP57 Well-Known Member

     
  10. LouiseP57

    LouiseP57 Well-Known Member

    I pray you find some peace and comfort. So very sorry.
     
  11. Cyanotype

    Cyanotype Well-Known Member

    I feel the same way. You are not alone
     
  12. TALKTOME

    TALKTOME Member

     
  13. TALKTOME

    TALKTOME Member

    when someone asks me how I'm doing I tell the truth.. .not good, lousy, wish I were dead because it would be simpler for me. Then they change the subject because they don't really want to talk about what I'm going through. I'm still new
     
  14. RNgirl

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  15. RNgirl

    RNgirl Active Member

    I agree, I also have not been able to listen to music. Music has always fed my soul but I can not listen to anything anymore. It is one more huge loss for me. I understand you completely. You are not alone.
     
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  16. ouisquared

    ouisquared New Member

    I am so sorry. I lost my husband in November to Covid. The ambulance drivers took him away, but he was conscious. I was able to talk to him a few times, but only for a very short conversation. Then he was intubated and I never saw him again until he was unconscious an dying. I feel a huge chasm, too.