My mom passed away two weeks ago and I feel so lost

Discussion in 'Loss of a Parent' started by TracyK, Jul 17, 2023.

  1. TracyK

    TracyK New Member

    Hi all,
    after a long illness, (dementia and brain tumor) my mom, who had me at 17, passed away at 67, just two weeks ago. I feel so lost without her. I am estranged from my father and. I had made mom a promise that no matter how bad she got I would not go home to see her or care for her, she understood what would happen, she was an LPN for many years and worked with alzhimers patients, she also did not want me to go to the funeral. She was my mom first, and my friend. We did have our ups and downs. I just feel so numb right now, and it hasn't fully hit me that she is gone. I haven't really grieved or have felt much of anything. I did shed a few tears but not breaking down. I have people telling that it will happen when I least expect it. I really don't know what I am asking or trying to say I just wanted someone to talk to about the death of my mom and perhaps support others here as well.
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  2. djhead4

    djhead4 New Member

    Staying away must have been difficult. I just lost my mom a couple of weeks ago and I have a hard time believing she is truly gone.
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  3. BarbaraMX

    BarbaraMX Member

    Hi everybody,
    I lost my day on October 11 to a massive heart attack. Unexpected. He was 76. He was always a heavy smoker but seemed fine, went about his day, drove his truck, and worked part-time. I am still in disbelief. He was a loving father and my champion and I deeply regret our pointless fights over the last 10 years over material stuff. I am having a hard time sleeping, feeling I should have done something to prevent this, I should have acted differently to make his last years go easier. I am full of sorrow. He was my world, one of the two most important people in my life. I miss him tremendously. I miss the years we won't spend together. I wake up every day wishing, praying that this whole thing was a nightmare, that he is still here. It's hard. What I wanted to say is that I am here. We are here. Grief does not come in the same way for everybody. I cry all the time. My Mom doesn't. She is grieving in another way. But were are all here.
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  4. Karyl

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  5. Karyl

    Karyl Member

    I also feel so much regret.
    For me, it’s about not being there more for my mom. it was unexpected and-
    I just thought I had more time, y’know?
    I hate you lost your dad.
    Sending hugs your way❤️
  6. Karyl

    Karyl Member

  7. Karyl

    Karyl Member

    Oh gosh-
    That must be so hard for you.
    I was (surprisingly to me) pretty “strong” right after.
    I’ve had some really hard days, more and more recently.
    In a couple of weeks, it’ll be a year.
    I feel like , the more time goes on, I’m just like-
    It’s been 3 months since I talked to her. It’s been 6 months. It’s been 9 months. Now it’s almost been a year and I am breaking down nearly every day.
    I think it does hit you after the initial shock.
    It sucks.
  8. grievingmymom

    grievingmymom New Member

    Sending hugs and condolences your way.