Hi, I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife and I just wanted to say you've come to the right place here. We're all going through the same pain and sharing our thoughts and feelings is an important step to help us in our struggle. I have come to the decision that it's absolutely useless trying to talk to others who are not in the same situation, they just cannot possibly comprehend our anguish. That's why my only outlet is this great site.
I lost my husband unexpectedly nearly two and a half years ago, from a sudden heart attack. He was only 57, fit and healthy, no warning signs, one minute he was here, the next he wasn't! My mind just won't come to terms with this reality, no matter how hard I try.
I'm from outside USA too, but much further away, across the ocean, in Italy.
The love you shared with your soulmate isn't over, even though she isn't with you physically, we have been "imprinted" by them, they are still part of us, we still feel their love, so they will continue to live through us and give us hope and strength for own existence. We are what we are today because of the life we made together, that special bond will never be taken away from us. I don't see my C as part of my past, he is my present and future too, just in a different way, I still make decisions, give advice to my kids, suggest, solve situations (well, I try
), as if he was still here,as if we are still deciding together, like we always did. After 25 years of marriage, it's just something I do automatically, without a second thought.
I will never stop repeating that getting out in the fresh air, walking around in quiet nature, (or by the sea, ocean if possible), away from noisy towns, is definitely soothing for the mind and I definitely recommend it to everyone.
Take care of yourself.
Rose.
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