Just lost my wife suddenly, house is quiet 25 years and I don’t think I went one day without talking to her.How do you move forward
So sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Yes, the house becomes very quiet and is very lonely. I lost my sister whom I lived with about 5 mos ago and it is very difficult to move forward. I just take one day at a time and try not to make any major decisions (ie moving, etc) until I feel I am able to deal with it. I found this site very helpful to know that we are not alone in our grieving. Wishing you peace.
Sorry for your loss. I agree do not make any important decisions at this time. House is very quiet. I find I have to have either the stereo or tv on at all times. Not sure why since the house is still empty. This is a great site. In my case I have found out its best if I stick to some kind of routine. Three years ago I lost my husband suddenly. Do not allow ANYONE to talk you into doing anything. For example my sister in law (my husbands sister) told me to get rid of all his pictures. She said that worked for her when her husband passed. I told her I was glad it worked for her.... but I was not going to erase his memory. This is just one of the "helpful" suggestions people told me. I wish you both luck as your start this horrible trip of grieving.
Thank you for your kind thoughts. This is still really new and fresh to me. I am still in disbelief that she is gone. People keep asking me how I’m doing, how do you respond to that? I have a big hole in my heart. That’s how I feel.
I honestly couldn't find a response to that question. What I wanted to say was not PC. I know people mean well. I always appreciated the people who said "I am here if you need to vent"
Thanks for listening. Today was my first day back to work, and I know everybody meant well, I Just didn’t know what to say, I guess I was afraid I’d freak them out if I told how I really was feeling. And probably not appropriate for work.
When people ask me how I am doing - I usually respond that I'm doing the best I can....some bad days....some fair days. I understand completely how you feel like you have a big hole in your heart...I feel exactly the same.
Whatsnext, you are not alone. Husband gone less than three months 37 yrs together. I keep coming back to same question, what is next? Im torally lost as to what is next. Where from here. House is so quiet and lonely. Never thought id be alone. Again you are not alone, there are others with you. Hang in there. One minute, hour day at a time. Thats all i can manage.
Peggy, Sorry for your loss and thank you for you kind words, Today was exceptionally rough for me, I am hanging in there though. Today is day 14, I am trying to keep busy, but I find a bit of anxiety coming home from work. That is my minute by minute. I do take comfort from the kind words from people, like you and others. Thank you.
Coming home alone and weekends alone are very hard. I cant seem to fond reasons to even get dressed some dsys. But Hang in there, whether i beleive it or not, we can do this. Not much of a choice really.
You are right not much choice, I do believe that life will go on, and we will be able to do this, I am in it for the long haul and keep reminding myself to take it a little at a time.
You are right you just have to take it a little at a time. Somedays are going to be worse than others. I remember just taking a hour at a time. Coming home to a empty house is still hard at times. Will think of you as you start this journey. Be kind to yourself.
