On 9-7-22 my partner of 30 years passed away from cancer. It was only 2 months from her diagnosis to her death. I am devastated. We were together all the time. We didn't have many other friends. I can hardly wield this pain. She was my world. I can't imagine life without her. To make matters worse I am unemployed. We were struggling financially. I don't know how I am going to support myself. I can barely function. I can't imagine being able to work. The panic this is causing on top of the grief is almost more than I can do. I'm seeing a therapist. That does help some. I would really like to find some support here. I am so scared and lonely and broken hearted.
I can absolutely identify with everything you wrote. Peggi died in June after 25 years together and I am really struggling to get through most days. Maybe we can help each other on this nightmarish journey. Kathy
Hi Kathy, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I know how agonizingly painful it is. It is so hard. Today is my 60th birthday. First one without CJ in 30 years. The day has barely started and I'm already reeling. My heart is broken in a million pieces. But I do feel her with me all the time. She sends me signs. She's trying to help me through it. I am so grateful for that. I think it would be great if you and I could help each other through this unbelievably difficult time. I would like to know about you and Peggi's story. Talk about how we cope with our new realities. Just being there to support each other would be really nice. No matter how many people you have around you who care, unless they've been through this kind of loss they just can't understand what this feels like. And I'm glad for them. I hope they never do. Please reach out whenever you feel like it. I hope we can be a source of support for each other. Kat
I'm so anxious to connect with you. The main thing that got me through these past months was having someone to talk to, who understood what was happening to me. I hope we can talk soon. I live in the central time zone. Where are you located? If you are in a crisis you can call. 414-810-9518.
Sorry, I just saw this. Having a rough couple days. Feel like I'm on the verge of getting a sinus infection. Did at home covid test which was negative. Don't feel up to talking right now. I'm coughing a lot. So tired. Hopefully I will feel better later this weekend. We can communicate here for the time being if you want.
I think there’s some entry-level job for you to start up, then if you’re interested you can go to college or university to get advanced skills or knowledge. In the same time, we can grieving our loved ones, work and grieving can be independent to each other, not influencing each other.
we need to make sure we take care of ourselves and our mind, you cannot bleeding and working in the same time. When this phase passes, I think we can find a balance between them. I think processing our emotions is more prior than working. But you’re doing it in the same time, I was doing exactly same thing like you and I think it’s not a healthy way to cope that.
