Loss to Coronavirus

Hi Deb I think in our own ways we are meeting huh? Instead of seeing each other in person
we are bonding over a computer screen. Nice to meet you Deb .

 

Denise,

I totally agree... It's really nice to "meet" you too!!

I'm really fried, so stopping here for the night. I hope you manage to get some quality sleep tonight. Sleep is one of those things I'll never take for granted again!!

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Denise, my day just got better when you
answered me tonight. I was worried about
you after the CVS incident. My good, kind
friend from South Carolina, Deb, reached
out to you with a long post. Hope you
saw it. So glad your doctor put you on
meds to handle stress, and will try to get
a grief counselor for you. I hope the
paperwork from the VA will help you. I
laughed when you talked about being a
Southern girl. I've met many tourists
from the South and Midwest, and find
most of them to be courteous & friendly.
I have a young friend, 34, who served in
the Army, & had to go to Afganistan. I
admire him bc he's soft spoken & polite.
Even though I'm not a veteran, I go with
him to the American Legion on Sat
mornings for an open house coffee. I've
become good friends with Roger, a 93
year old Korean War vet. We formed a
bond bc his wife of 67 years died about
the same time Linda died. How are the
temps in Georgia? It was sunny, high 60s,
even 70 last week , but dropped to 50s.
Cold in the am, put on heat for 1st time.
Rained all day today, and off & on next
couple days. I guess the trade off is that
we have high heating bills in the winter,
and you have high AC bills in the summer!
Hope you sleep well. I go to bed soon, so I'll look for your posts tomorrow. Lou

 

Hi Deb nice to meet you, I wish it was under a better situation. I'm sorry you lost Bob, it just seems so unreal doesn't it?
I kept calling Tom's name telling him to wake up and telling him how much I love him.
Even when I'm at work and something funny happens with my students, I think I can't wait to tell Tom. The other night
I was sitting here (Tom use to go out and Uber on weekend nights) I picked up my phone to text him to say hey it's getting late
come home. Then I was like Oh YEAH I can't talk to him anymore. Those poor people in CVS yesterday they were looking at me like I had a bomb on my chest.
The time I walked in the door of CVS I could just hear Tom's voice and see him beside me in every isle. Then when I got back in the car I totally lost it, my pour friend was driving and trying to comfort me at the same time. I had a doctor appointment today and I was telling my doctor just a little of it and he started crying. So I sure didn't want to tell him everything. I will see if I can find the thread from Gray thank you so much. It's nice to meet you hugs.

 

Glad you & Denise met, Deb! I was so glad
she answered us tonight. We have a great
bunch of Grief Warriors. I'm tired, too,
so I wish you a fond good night. Lou

 

Oh my goodness Sleep!? What is that? LOL Yeah I understand I haven't slept but maybe a few hours a night since Tom passed.
I hope you get some rest sweet dreams. Hugs

 

Denise,

It's near the top of all of the threads under loss of spouse. We would love to have you join TGW (The Grief Warriors). Really going now. As Marcey, a new member of TGW said earlier to Lou, the bags under her eyes remind her of Uncle Fester. I can totally relate to this!!! Got to try to get some sleep. I hope we both can get some sleep. I find melatonin helps a bit.

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

I'm just horrified for you. Just unbelievable pain. I watched my father code and just remember my hands twisting together and that unreal feeling.

I lost my John July 23rd during pandemic but was not covid. But the trauma of bot being able to find nurses to come see him in hospice and me having to decide on medications was just too much for me. It broke me. I was then only allowed 2 people at his veteran burial. No touching.

Just awful. And I'm still angry. Trying to find outlets for the rage.

I so feel what you stated.. But just can't imagine how you must have felt. I'm so terribly sorry.

Sparrow

 

Sparrow, I'm deeply sorry about John's
death. I wish I didn't have to meet you
under these horrible circumstances, but I
want to welcome you to our kind group,
Grief in Common ( GIC). My name is Lou.
My wife, Linda, had cancer, but died
suddenly in front of me, from a
pulmonary embolism. We were married
25. years. She was 68. I live on the coast
of Massachusetts. One of my closest friends
here is Deb, who lives in South Carolina.
We understand the rage, sadness,and
loneliness, which comes with the deaths
of our soulmates. I hope you can stay with
us. Lou