Loss of spouse

Deb321, are you there? There was a 4
hour rebooting today on this site. Lou

 

Hi Lou,

I just saw this message. I was around until about noon. Before the 4 hour rebooting started, I sent you at least a couple of my "books." Let me know if you can't find them, I'll try to copy them and paste them into a new message.

As I said in what I think it was my very first message to you this morning, I wish we lived closer together, so we could get together over coffee, and talk... However, thinking about this some more, I bet if we were able to do this, we would be at whatever coffee shop we decided to go to, until closing time. (I can almost hear Bob commenting on this as I'm "talking" to you now. Thinking about Bob's reply has me smiling...). I'm guessing this wouldn't make the staff very happy, TU!!!

I hope in spite of it being the last day that many of the shops on the Neck were open, I hope you enjoyed the day as much as possible.

Backing up a bit, I started the day out feeling so sad... I felt stuck at the bottom of that seemingly never ending roller coaster ride of emotions. I began feeling better almost as soon I hit the pavement. On my way home, I got another sign from Bob. I told George about it in one of my messages to him, so won't repeat it here now, but I thanked Bob for watching over me and was teary eyed. I'm glad I've been good about remembering to take tissues with me wherever I go, TU!!!

My internet connection is really slow again. I think when this happens at night it might have something to do with how many people are online. So, if you don't hear from me again tonight, at least you know I haven't disappeared from the face of the earth...

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

P.S. I have an appointment in the morning, so won't be around until later in the day tomorrow, but you know I'll be thinking about you, about all TGW, and hoping everyone has at least one reason to LMSO!!!

 

Deb!!!
!! I miss you! Total understatement!!!
When I saw you here just now, at 6am,
Monday morning, Nov.1st, I jumped on
this carousel of post reboot land for my
sanity! Under your name were the
frightening words: "You are ignoring
content by this member". I felt like I was
battling against an alien creature in an
episode of The Twilight Zone !!! Fortunately,
I did see some, if not all, of your posts and
replies. I loved your spot on review of
Boynton Beach Club, and thanked you
for caring about my cataract eye surgery
on Wed, Nov 3. The problem is I'm not
sure you received my reply. I've been a
needy baby, crying & pleading with
Karyn Arnold to get me back on GIC. I
was under the impression I was the only
one affected by the rebooting, and became paranoid & mean, like the Tasmanian
Devil that Linda used to call me, I even
said I thought the reboot was a Halloween
prank! I was relieved to see that Robin
was having the same problem, and was as
angry as I was. I also found out that her
husband died suddenly in Nov, 2018, 2
days before Linda died, right before
Thanksgiving. Karen hoped to be back on
line on Tues, possibly Monday night. She
wants to catch up on our threads. She was
talking to a new member, Hawk, whose
wife died 5 years ago, after over 50 years
of marriage. I welcomed him to GIC, but
haven't heard back yet. I feel like I'm at
the bottom of a well, crying out to people,
like you, to rescue me! My fantasy is that
you & I have breakfast in either Two
Little Birds Eatery or Hula Moon, and
lunch in either Bean & Leaf Cafe or
the new Whale's Jaw Cafe, which is
spacious, with refillable yellow coffee
mugs, many large windows, and great
background music of soft jazz & blues.
Hope to find out what my correct "URL" is,
which seems to prevent me from finding
you directly. I bothered Karyn AGAIN, to
ask her what the heck that "URL" meant.
Wish Linda were here to help sort it out.
She had a cooler head about matters
like this! Talk later! Pedicure this afternoon!! Lou Lou

 

Lou,

I don't have time to respond now, I have an appointment this morning, but will be back later on. I just wanted you to know that I got this message!!! Up until this morning, I felt badly and also very frustrated, because I knew you weren't able to see my messages. I didn't want you to think I deserted you, TU!!! If I'm not able to visit here until after your pedicure this afternoon, enjoy it!!! I love the way you do everything you can to take care of yourself, another one of those TU!!!
Backing up just a bit, I hope the issues with this site are straightened out ASAP too!!! I'm not sure what a URL is and don't have time right now to google it, but will google it later on today. Will read this message again later and be back to "talk."

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Lou,

This is getting way beyond frustrating, TU!!! I can't imagine going an entire day without "talking" to you and all of TGW... My day has been very busy and not in a good way. I can't do it now, but as soon as I can, I'm going to send a message to Karen Arnold. What is the best way to reach her? I left a message on our usual thread asking everyone if they knew the best way to reach her. I'm not sure if anyone will be able to see it, or even if you'll be able to see this. I thought I would try sending something here since you were able to see my message to you last night.

Enjoy that pedicure.... "Talk" (HOPEFULLY!!!) to you later...

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Lou,

I really miss you too, TU!!! I think a URL is just a web address, but it must mean something else, because I have no idea why that would prevent you from being ale to find my messages. If you find this message and figure it out, let me know. I even tried posting on your profile page last night. I think you're on line now, so going to try sending this. If you get it, let me know!!!

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Good news, Deb! I AM getting all your
threads! I have to use a bad pun here.
I was beginning to feel like I was
" hanging by a thread"!! For some reason
( divine intervention?), I can now
communicate with YOU easily, after I get
past the ridiculous "you are ignoring
content by this member". I simply press
on that, & there you are. When I tried to
reply to Stacey ( at least I know her
real name!),George, & Karen, I was given
the "please check your URL". But, above,
there is a plea for "patience", like when
one is put on hold. Karyn Arnold's email
address: Karyn Arnold
karnold@griefincommon.com
BTW, I use DuckDuckGo as my search
engine, rather than Google, bc I like the
way I can erase material immediately
afterward. It has a neat feature of flames
burning up old documents, like in the
fireplace of old! I think it would be great
if you contacted Karyn, Deb. As Bob would
have said you never seem to be at a loss
for words! I had told Karyn about my
manic depression. She may have thought
I was coming on too strong with my
strange accusation that the rebooting
was a Halloween prank, or "trick". I used
the "vinegar " approach. Perhaps you
could try using "honey"! Last I saw,
Robin was unhappy with the changes post
reboot. George was continuing to have
issues with his Internet, like you. Not
sure about Stacey, but Karen said she
wants to be online by tomorrow & catch
up on messages. Patti had to sign off for a
while due to medical issues. Haven't
heard from Gary,but I saw that Denise
was welcoming a new member, a young
widow, Hanji. I replied to Denise that I
was glad she stayed with us. So happy to
see your early evening post!! The pedicure
was wonderful, starting with the jets of
warm water on my feet. AnnMarie is a kind young married mother. No tears
this time. In fact, she knows my young
female barber, Haley, 28, who's like a
funny grandaughter, to whom I had also
confided, about being a widower. Linda
would laugh & shake her head about the
number of young women around me
now! I find it so easy to talk with these
women NOW. I wasn't as smooth with
women in high school or college. Perhaps
I have nothing to prove, and these women
think of me as a safe, wise, witty, & OLDER
conversationalist. I had the same
experience with the nurses at the Cataract
Center. Linda used to tease me that I was
a sucker for any woman who would smile
at me, and we'd both laugh. Be strong,
my fellow GW!! Lou

 

P.S. I've kept my "Loss of Spouse" heading,
and you're on that with me. I don't know if
it makes any difference, but other GW have
chosen other titles.......Lou

 

Hi Lou,
I’m so glad to see you’ve been able to post. This is the first I’ve seen you’ve been in. I have reached out to Karyn multiple times and she asked me some specific questions. She said the technician told her everything should have been normal already and that was mid afternoon. Things were far from normal. I keep getting the url, unknown address please check spelling on every post I’m trying to respond to. I’m glad you’re ok and you got your pedicure.
I’m seeing references to Boynton Beach club. I’ve seen that but I want to try to find it. My son lives in Boynton Beach, it would be cool to see it. Hope tomorrow is a better day here on this site and fir all of us. Going to try and rest now.
Robin

 

Robin, thanks for your past midnight post.
I know it's a TMI, but when I wake up in the middle of night, to go to the bathroom,
I check in with GIC, before I go back to
sleep. I was so happy to get your reply. I'm
glad you reached out to Karyn many times.
Looks like the technician wasn't telling h
Ther
the whole story. It reminds me of when I
texted my landlady that my toilet had to
be fixed. She said she would send a plumber, but, when the blackout hit, I texted her that it could wait 'til after the
storm. Well, I waited & waited........ One
day, she asked if the plumber ever came.
I said no. She said he'd come today. I'm not
going to sit around. I want to be out for the
day. I feel like we're almost there, on GIC.
That's wonderful that your son lives in
Boynton Beach.Do you ever visit him during the cold winter? It looks like a
sunny, beautiful area. As Deb says, the
movie has some sad scenes, especially
revolving around the main character, a
recent widower, played by Len Cariou.
But ultimately, it's a romantic comedy,
and I remember the laughing much longer
than the crying. Hope to talk again soon.
Lou

 

Lou,

Getting to this one really late, TU!!! I'm sorry, I burst out laughing when you said, "I felt like I was battling an alien creature in an episode of the Twilight Zone." I'm so glad you won the battle!!!, TU!! I can't imagine not being able to "talk" to you again... Backing up a bit, I'm really overdoing those TU!!! I just can't seem to stop myself from typing those two letters... Hopefully the next time there is a reboot, it'll go way more smoothly than this one did, TU!!! I was going to delete that last one but decided to leave it where it is. Too much effort to delete it, and I'm in such a foggy state of mind, I probably would have lost my train of thought.

When I'm emotionally strong enough to visit "home," we have to get together!!! It would be so nice to be able to "talk" to you in person. All of those restaurants sound wonderful... I hope we would be able to go to at least a couple of them while I'm "home" visiting. However, I think it's going to take me a long time before I'm ready to handle returning "home," where just about every place I go, would remind me of much happier times in my life, most of the very best times spent with Bob. As of right now, I can't even handle celebrating the holidays this year. I'm so proud of Marcey for being able to not only decorate her house, but also to be able to go to Disney Land. I wish I was that strong and brave... I know that everyone does grief in his/her own way. I guess I just need to be patient with myself, just continue doing the very best I can each and every day to try to make Bob proud of me.

In case I don't get to "talk" to you before your cataract surgery, I hope it goes just as smoothly or even more smoothly than the first procedure, especially since you already know what to expect. I'm glad you like the doctor and receive such excellent care from the nurses. Just think... pretty soon, all those beautiful ocean views, will be even more beautiful, if this is even possible!!!

Sleep well...

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

I guess I missed the reboot, but when I got on line it seemed there was repeats of posts. So, glad it's fixed. Later Gators.