loss of my wife.

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hey i am here 8.55

 

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9.05 here i am

 

hi its kelso 9.28 sunday

 

i am done, 10 30 nite

 

Hello Kelso, I remember replying to your first post on the "Trying and failing to cope" thread, along with other friends on this site. You will usually find most of us on the "Loss of Spouse" section, we are all here for you. Even though I live thousands of miles away from you all (in Italy), different time zone, I have made so many warm, understanding friends here. We can all relate to each other, we're going through the same pain, we support each other along our struggle. We can't do it alone.
Please keep talking to us, I am sure you will find much empathy and comfort from everyone.
By the way, I hate Sundays too, I lost my C suddenly, November 2020 on what seemed like a normal Sunday afternoon.
I hope you're having a good night's rest.
Take care.
Rose.

 

Kelso: I am so sorry for your loss. Words don't help much at a time like this, but at least knowing that others understand and express real empathy for your loss softens the blow somewhat. I lost my wife after many years together and am still having a rough time coping without her. I live alone in a remote place and didn't even see your posting until this morning. Otherwise, I would have responded sooner knowing how much pain you are suffering. There is no instruction manual on how to get your life back together after such an unbearable loss. All the what-ifs and why-her-and-not-me thoughts that you will be going through will eventually settle down into some path forward. Not a path you would ever have had to imagine, but at least a path forward that is livable. It's going to take longer than you wish and have unexpected setbacks along the way but realize that many others have made it through somehow. Hang in there. Jeff.

 

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thanks jeff i am having a real hard time right this minute.

 

hi rose how do i get to that thread ? kelso

 

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If you go back to the main menu "See and share stories", there is a list of topics, you've posted in "Coping with a sudden loss". "Loss of Spouse" is further down the list.
Hope I've explained it well, a bit tired, it's 10.30pm here.
Take care.

 

Kelso, Rose described it well. Click on the 3 lines on the top right. Choose make a connection then see and share stories. I’m sorry you’re struggling. Things do get better. It’s a very slow process, so slow you don’t even realize it. Take care, Robin.

 

Jeff, I know you’re in a lot of pain as well. How are you? Your sentence saying, why her/him and not me. That hit home for me. When I’m struggling with things that Ron could do with ease, I think he should be here. I can’t do this. Emotionally or physically. Take care, Robin

 

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Good evening Kelso,
I want to apologize. My day to day life has been consumed by my mother’s stroke and the demands of my master’s program, and I know firsthand how incredibly difficult this grief journey is. I am sorry I wasn’t there for you the way so many have been there for me. I will try to be better and give you more of a listening ear.
Keep coming back here! And I also recommend that you find a local grief support group if at all possible. There’s nothing better than sitting down with someone who knows grief first hand and is willing to come along side you and travel with you as you walk through these dark days. This pain is deep and intense—just like the love you shared with your spouse. Keep coming back and keep sharing your pain. These people here are amazing and gentle and genuinely care. You are not alone, and we are here with you and for you. You will get through this! These days are dark. We’ve been there. It seems like the grief will devour you. But it will not. It is just the echo of the love that breaks our hearts thousands of times, over and over. We had great love, and now we know great loss. But our soulmates never truly leave us. They are still with us every moment. Hang on to that, and keep pouring out your thoughts and pain here. Hugs, love and comfort. ❤️ Deborah