Loss of my husband

Bernadine, your advice is excellent. I
would add that I go to sleep the same
time every night & wake up the same
time every morning, observing the
circadian rhythm, also. It's great never
having to use an alarm clock , or
depend on Melatonin, or possibly
addictive sleeping pills. I noticed that
your reply was longer than your usual
posts. Welcome to my world of writing
"books" , as Deb would say! Lou

 

Wow, Bernadine, you're on a roll ( along
with your advice about sleeping). Thank
you, as always. Lou

 

Maggie gets me up every morning so that part is covered!
Going to sleep is harder, I mostly just don’t want to.
It means the next day will arrive.
Another day without Kenn.
The longer I stay up, the more I avoid his absence.
But I do set myself a “lights out” alarm on my phone as I agree, Lou that is so helpful to the body’s internal clock.

My friends and family would agree, I can really crank things out when I get a flow going. I had said earlier I didn’t have anything to add on sleep but, I guess I had some thoughts after all, lol.

That little poster is from Refuge in Grief, it’s Megan Devine’s site. I follow her on instagram. She’s the author of the book George is reading “It's OK That You're Not OK” & also wrote “How to Carry What Can't be Fixed” I really like her perspectives on grief.
~B

 

Well, Bernadine, after all my blather, I
just woke up at 1am , from a dream. I
couldn't fall back to sleep, as I usually do,
so I'm drinking BIGELOW Sweet Dreams
Herbal Tea (caffeine free) with chamomile.
I know it sounds like a TV commercial, but
I like the BIGELOW teas from Connecticut.
I love that I can get on GIC, & usually find a
West Coast friend, like you, Karen, or
Debra. I like your writing & I'm inspired by
your Refuge in Grief site. Thank you. Lou

 

Bernadine, I just reread this attachment,
at 1:30am, my time, bc I woke up from a
dream. As I just said in another reply to
your other post on sleeping, I'm relaxing,
drinking herbal tea & will go back to
sleep. I'm proud of myself , after 3&a half
years of mourning for Linda, that I'm
doing all the things mentioned ( except
the driving one, bc I choose not to have a
car). Thanks again! Lou