*DAYTIME AND EVENING GENERAL GRIEF GROUPS AVAILABLE EVERY WEEK* CLICK HERE TO JOIN US!

Loss of husband in 2020 and unearthing betrayal

Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by TinktheChi, Feb 14, 2023.

  1. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Thank you Deb A. That's one of the reasons I've been on this site for two years, losing my son then 1 year and 3 months later my husband.
     
    Rose69 and Van Gogh like this.
  2. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Funny you should mention Lou Gehrig,
    Deb. When I joined the American
    Legion Post ( as the only non veteran), I
    was greeted by one Vietnam veteran , by
    that name. I think it was his way of
    remembering my first name. Much to the
    amusement of the other vets,he still
    bellows that name when I walk in the
    door. I've come a long way since the
    time I walked into the post, timidly,
    sad, and shakily, right after Linda
    died over 4 yrs ago. Good to laugh
    again. Lou
     
    Rose69 and Deborah A. like this.
  3. Deborah A.

    Deborah A. Well-Known Member

    Life can really be incredibly intensely insanely difficult! I am so sorry that you have had this pile of pain to live through! Hugs and love to you! I have friends who have survived their children, and my own brother passed away many years ago, so I watched my mom struggle through grief. I am so sorry! ❤️ I don’t always understand why we have to live the such s**t!
     
    Rose69, cjpines and Van Gogh like this.
  4. Deborah A.

    Deborah A. Well-Known Member

    Lou, I think we all have our scars and pain. But it makes us human and connects us deeply to each other. We know that spectrum of connection, including love and loss. Why do we need to know pain? Is it so we can understand and cherish what we have? I don’t understand the universe. Hugs and love. Deb A.
     
    Rose69, cjpines and Van Gogh like this.
  5. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Thank you, Deb. When Linda died, I was
    very alone. She was my best ( & only)
    friend , and family. When she died. I had
    only one person to call, someone I didn't
    know well, and who Linda never knew.
    She owned a restaurant across the street
    from Linda's rehab/ nursing home, where
    the food was awful. I would bring back
    tea & food to Linda's room and we would
    have some sort of normalcy, eating while
    watching her TV together. The woman
    restaurant owner, who could be the same
    age as the daughter we never had, would
    ask how Linda was every day. After Linda
    died, she took the time to visit me, even
    though she had a family. She listened to
    my angry outbursts, and comforted me
    while I was weeping. The last 2
    Thanksgivings, she invited me into her
    home with her ex husband and 2 high
    school children. It was like I was
    "adopted" by this kind family. Even their
    dog greeted me, and jumped into my
    lap, with one eye on the turkey. I am
    grateful for this new family, and feel
    blessed. I try not to be sad that Linda
    never knew this family, bc she would've
    loved them like I do. Lou
     
    Rose69 and cjpines like this.
  6. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    If I didn't thank you for posting the instructions and pics I'll thank you again. K
     
    Van Gogh likes this.