Loss of husband in 2020 and unearthing betrayal

Thank you Deb A. That's one of the reasons I've been on this site for two years, losing my son then 1 year and 3 months later my husband.

 

Funny you should mention Lou Gehrig,
Deb. When I joined the American
Legion Post ( as the only non veteran), I
was greeted by one Vietnam veteran , by
that name. I think it was his way of
remembering my first name. Much to the
amusement of the other vets,he still
bellows that name when I walk in the
door. I've come a long way since the
time I walked into the post, timidly,
sad, and shakily, right after Linda
died over 4 yrs ago. Good to laugh
again. Lou

 

Life can really be incredibly intensely insanely difficult! I am so sorry that you have had this pile of pain to live through! Hugs and love to you! I have friends who have survived their children, and my own brother passed away many years ago, so I watched my mom struggle through grief. I am so sorry! ❤️ I don’t always understand why we have to live the such s**t!

 

Lou, I think we all have our scars and pain. But it makes us human and connects us deeply to each other. We know that spectrum of connection, including love and loss. Why do we need to know pain? Is it so we can understand and cherish what we have? I don’t understand the universe. Hugs and love. Deb A.

 

Thank you, Deb. When Linda died, I was
very alone. She was my best ( & only)
friend , and family. When she died. I had
only one person to call, someone I didn't
know well, and who Linda never knew.
She owned a restaurant across the street
from Linda's rehab/ nursing home, where
the food was awful. I would bring back
tea & food to Linda's room and we would
have some sort of normalcy, eating while
watching her TV together. The woman
restaurant owner, who could be the same
age as the daughter we never had, would
ask how Linda was every day. After Linda
died, she took the time to visit me, even
though she had a family. She listened to
my angry outbursts, and comforted me
while I was weeping. The last 2
Thanksgivings, she invited me into her
home with her ex husband and 2 high
school children. It was like I was
"adopted" by this kind family. Even their
dog greeted me, and jumped into my
lap, with one eye on the turkey. I am
grateful for this new family, and feel
blessed. I try not to be sad that Linda
never knew this family, bc she would've
loved them like I do. Lou

 

If I didn't thank you for posting the instructions and pics I'll thank you again. K