Loss of husband in 2020 and unearthing betrayal

Dear Robin,

Thank you for sharing your story about Ron’s birthday. I’m planning something similar for Steve’s birthday, which is 9 days after the day of his death. I’m relieved to know that so many people who are grieving are also trying to celebrate the life they had and the love they shared. It makes me feel less alone to read all of these stories. I still miss Steve like crazy, and I particularly dislike days like this, when I feel incredibly alone in my life. Your wonderful remembrance of Ron also makes me feel less crazy for trying to find joy in memories despite the incredible pain of loss. Thank you! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Deborah A.

 

Can someone tell me how to post a picture on this forum? Thank you, Karen

 

Karen,
Next to "Post Reply" at the bottom of the message box there is a button to "Upload a File"
If you click on it, it will ask you to choose a file from your device; phone, tablet, computer.
Your files and photos will be in whichever apps or folders you store them in.
Then you insert the thumbnail, image, or as the attachment.
Hit "post reply" as usual



This is what the sequence looks like on my ipad.
~B

 

And we all have things that just post oddly on this site (The size and orientation can be a crap shoot.)

 

Thank you so much Patti! Your kind words mean so much to me. I am not doing well. I keep trying but nothing seems to help. I thought I was healing a few months ago but I've been back into this mind numbing and crushing depression. When I get a chance I'll do more art. I think I can do that. I'm so glad someone actually likes my art. That means a LOT to me. Thank you and much Love from me!

 

Thank you so much Deborah A, Yesterday was difficult I’m not going to lie. But my daughter and I celebrated Ron’s life with memories , and the love we still feel. He made us smile and cry even though he’s not physically here we feel him. My brother misses his laugh my sister in law misses his stories my nephew has shared that during family get to get together Ron would go in the basement with the kids and watch Star Trek. I didn’t know that. Heis missed and still very loved. Deborah you’re not crazy in trying to find the joy from memories. It’s what we have, so cherish them. The pain is deep but the memories are too. Each of our soulmates brought us years of joy and laughter. And Thank you too Deborah ❤️

 

George, Don’t sell yourself short. You’re very talented! Your art makes me smile. You’re in my prayers. I’m hoping once we get out of the winter doldrums you’ll start healing again. You might be one of the strongest people I know and on this site. All you’re going through and you’re still bringing us smiles with your art. More love and prayers coming your way. Robin

 

I will try to do more art! Thanks!!!

 

Ok B, thank you. I'll get to it later now I'm snowed in and have to take care of things.

 

Be careful. Ms. Hum! Heard on news that
your state got whacked. We're lucky here
on Massachusetts coast, bc the snow
turned to rain. I pray we can get through
March without a snowstorm. Our last
bad year of storms was 2016, when Linda
was alive. I hate beimg hindered in my
walking outside, when the sidewalks
are slippery. Linda's cane does help. Did
you get your cane yet, Karen? Louster

 

Yes, we are getting whacked. If the power goes out I won't be on line, have to save cell battery. I got my cane yesterday and was able to use it in the snow getting my mail. I just love it as why I want to take a picture for Garbear and the group. I'm not liking Mother Nature. I hope everyone here is okay. H

 

So sorry about your dangerous weather.
I pray you don't lose power, Ms. Hum. If
you can, try to put a"LIKE"to our posts.
If you're MIA , we will know why. So
happy you received Gary's cane. Louster

 

Thank you Louster and hope you're having a good day. It's just the PITS with the snow, rain and storms alone. Oh, just had a flicker of power, check in later, H

 

Good luck, Ms.Hum! Just texted Gary
about your snow---bad, and cane ---good.
George is having a hard time, grieving
for Valerie, and getting hit with miserable
snow & cold rain. Lonesome Lousterino

 

Thank you! It means the world to me that anything I can do helps someone who is grieving. Life can be so difficult, but we who know the depths of grief know real pain. I like to think it’s a mirror image of the joy we once embraced. I’m sending you love and hugs! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

 

I’m so sorry for dumping my work stress here. I’m missing Steve so much, but it’s no excuse. Sorry!!

 

To quote a sappy movie from my youth,
Love Story: Love means never having to
say you're sorry! Deb, that's what us
Grief Warriors are about: to listen ,
with compassion , not judgement. Lou

 

Deb, I've just skimmed over your posts briefly, but I want to tell you never, "NEVER" be sorry for dumping on us. That's what we're here for. Because we understand, we get it, we need each other. Karen Ms Hum. I'll check in later hoping the power stays on, bad storm here. By-the-way, I had a son in special ed for 30 years so I'm familiar with the programs. He died 3 years ago.

 

I’m so sorry about the loss of your son! That is pain beyond anything I understand. My heart is broken hearing this!

 

To quote Lou Gehrig, (sort of) today I consider myself the luckiest person on the face of the earth! Accepted despite my warts! ❤️