Just when I thought things were getting better

Karen, thank you so much for replying to
me so soon, and with your name. I really
hope you will stay with us on GIC. My
grief counselor suggested this site after
my wife died 4 yrs ago, but I didn't join
until July of 2021, and I'm so glad that I
did. I've made close friends here, who
"get it",and never pass judgement. I
hesitated in responding to your
heartbreaking story about Andy, bc I
didn't want to rehash the agonizing
death of my wife, Linda. Some mourners
come to this site & leave, and it takes too
much out of me. I like to make connections
with people, and ask their names, and that
of their soulmates. The first person to
greet me , is also named Karen, from
California.I'm interested in where
the other widowed people live. For
example, Nicole ( "Sweetcole") lives in
your state. You've been brave to come
forward. Please don't give up. Lou

 

Hello Karen. Yes this site will make it better instead of making it worse. You don’t have to go through this miserable grief journey alone. My name is Gary and I lost my girlfriend Cheryl over 18 months ago to a cardiac arrest. It was very sudden. We had supper the night before. Cheryl had no apparent medical issues. How could I ever imagine I would be Cheryl’s first responder the next morning. I didn’t find GIC until 5 months later. I did find in person grief support meetings and therapy. Between meetings and appointments I felt so alone. On GIC we can connect 24/7 if we choose. The grief has to bubble up and out from in order to heal. Grief can be fatal. I was having 2-3 balling jags daily and thought I was weak. I was wrong. We are not weak from mourning. We are healing. We have to develop a warrior mindset because of the emotional and physical trauma caused by grief. Please be very gentle and compassionate with yourself. Eat nourishing food, rest, take your medications, and try to exercise. You are never alone here. Gary

 

Karen, I agree with my younger
"brother", Gary. Even after 4 years
since Linda's death, I cry a little every
morning before I walk outside to face
the day, without Linda here, physically,
by my side. The difference is that I
don't sob uncontrollably like I did in
the beginning ,after Linda's death. It's good to know that if I wake up from a bad
dream in the middle of the night, I can
find someone on GIC with whom to
"talk".Some people ,like Karen
("cjpines") in Calif, Bernadine
( "Countess Joy") in Oregon, as well as
Rose, in Italy, are in different time zones
from me in Mass., but someone is
always out there.... Lou