I lost my partner

Discussion in 'LGBTQ Loss' started by nasue williams, Aug 13, 2017.

  1. nasue williams

    nasue williams New Member

    I lost my partner in May 2017 she passed away from Ovarian cancer. She fought a long 18 month battle. Her last 3 months of life where spent in a bed I took care of and she had her wish to die at home.
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  2. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I have worked in the Hospice setting and know how important that wish to die at home can be. I hope it brings you some comfort that you were able to care for and take care of her as she had wanted. I hope you can find your own comfort here...
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  3. sunny65

    sunny65 New Member

    Sorry for the loss of your partner, I loss my wife to endometrial cancer June 15th, 2017. She also died with hospice, at her parents home, I was with her when she passed. My wife's mobility declined the last 3 months of her life and she ultimately could not get out of bed. We were together almost 13 years and it was so difficult to watch her decline so rapidly but I am glad I got to be with her until the end and try and comfort her. The one good thing that came from her death was that she was finally not in pain and at peace. I miss her tremendously.
  4. Ellis Poole

    Ellis Poole New Member

    I lost my husband on May 1st of 2017 from brain cancer. He had battled this for five years and had to undergo a second surgery in September 2016
    In the last six months of his life he was paralyzed on the right side of his body and ended up in a mobility chair. I sold our business and stayed home to take care of him. I'm glad that I was able to do the same as you guys with your spouses. My husband and I met in college 27 yrs ago in college. He was the first man and only man that I've ever dated and was the love of my life. I miss him to the point that I can't even function on a daily bases.

    As I sit here writing this, the tears are flowing and my heart is still breaking. I don't know what to say, and I don't think anyone dose or anyone could understand what we are going through, as each of us love and care in different ways. I'm scared for my future, as I see no bridge to move forward in this life.
    It's like our friends have abandoned me. No one ever comes anymore, even when I am asking them for dinner or suggest we do things together. It's like they always busy or make excuses. I know that they are grieving too, but I need them. I don't want to bag them and make them feel guilty, but what do I do, where do I go.

    Have you all any advice?
  5. sunny65

    sunny65 New Member

    Hi Ellis,
    I am going to start attending a support group offered through the hospice program my wife had. I know everyone deals with grief in their own way, but have you considered attending a support group? I'm lucky that my friends have been supportive since my wife died, but I think it will be helpful to attend a group with others who have experienced the loss of a spouse.