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Discussion in 'Loss of Spouse' started by Yum Yum, Feb 4, 2022.

  1. Patti 61

    Patti 61 Guest

    Dearest KarenLee, my heart feels and knows the pain you are
    going through, loss of your husband Pete. I am so sorry.
    My name is Patti, my husband Jack, I lost him 11-7-2016
    after 24 years of Parkinson’s, I totally cared for Jack
    his last nine years at home.We was married 61 years.
    It took me several years to reach out in finding a
    support group, I believe God led me to finding GIC.
    At first it wasn’t active to communicate
    with others. I left, eventually found myself back to GIC,
    and am so thankful I did, the TGW folks are all so
    caring, supportive, my active TGW family.I’ve came to
    know I’m not alone, understand my emotions and
    am amongst all others here who understand this journey,
    which we are going to get through it together.
    Please, please stay with this group, it has been
    a blessing to and for me ( in saying that I believe I
    can speak for other TGW family here.)
    I am so very sorry loss of your son, I can relate in,
    but , in a different way, my only brother Carl was laid
    to rest at the same time my dear Jack left from
    my arms and went to Heaven. God was my strength
    through my lifetime, I leaned on HIM constantly while
    taking care of Jack, will forever do so for whatever
    time God has me to travel in this lifetime .
    When I speak of my Faith,
    I speak not of a denomination or a religion , it’s my personal
    relationship with God, HIS love for me and my love for HIM
    I know Jesus is carrying me through my difficult times HIM being
    not in front nor back of me but always by my side ready to
    pick me up, carry me then, when HE knows I’m ready, HE will
    set me down tells me ,
    “your ok, I’m with you always, carrying you when need be.”.

    KarenLee, sending you a big hug, love ad praying for you.
    Blessings, Patti
     
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  2. csmith532

    csmith532 Well-Known Member

    I lost my love and best friend Lizzy on October 29 2021. I had some help getting the housed cleaned and I gave some of her clothes to family members. I also kept some clothes that her mom is going to make into a blanket for me. All of this was done within the first month but I was just recently was able to give her mom to make into a blanket. There is still some things I haven't touched. Like others have said I don't believe there is wrong amount of time, just do it as you can.

    -Chad
     
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  3. csmith532

    csmith532 Well-Known Member

    I am so sorry for both of your losses. It saddens me that you had to find this site but am glad you did like the other GWs have said. My name is Chad and lost my love, Lizzy, and best friend on 10/29/2021 from a sudden onset of sepsis. That day was the worst day of my life and the days that followed haven't been much better. Some days are slightly better and some days aren't. I have definitely spent some days in my pj's wishing for hug from Lizzy. Just this pass Saturday was really rough for me. This site has been a godsend for me. There are several on here and they get what I am going through and it helps me to share and read their posts. I wish I was better with words. Lizzy was thr conversationalist. Praying for us all.

    -Chad
     
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  4. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    Chad , you're great with words, bc you
    speak from the heart,and are empathetic
    to others here. Well,back to sleep. are you
    still working the overnight shift?
     
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  5. csmith532

    csmith532 Well-Known Member

    I got off overnight. Now I work Wednesday through Saturday 11:30am to 10pm. Still not the best schedule but I can at least sleep at night now.

    -Chad
     
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  6. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    That's better, Chad. I hope someday you
    can work more of a 9 to 5 schedule. I
    worked the 2 shifts you did, and I was
    more tired than when I worked the day
    shift. Even now, when I'm retired, I like
    to go to bed & wake up the next morning.
    at the same time every day. I also found
    the night shifts to be lonely, and right
    now, I need people, who care about me.
    Lou
     
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  7. cjpines

    cjpines Well-Known Member

    Hello, Karen Lee. So sorry to hear of your two losses. I also lost a son in 2019 then my husband, Jack, passed Nov 2020. So we both got a double whammy. It's been 1 year for me and only 4 months for you losing Pete, it's so new for you. But, for me 1 year is like 1 week -- doesn't get better just changes. I struggle every day wondering who am I? And what will be my purpose in life. I hope some stories here will help you to feel not so lonely since we're all struggling with our losses, struggling day by day. But I do believe, by faith, we will heal.
    My name is Karen and Lee is my middle name. Is Lee your middle name? It's not often you find a person named Karen Lee. Keep with us we all need each other, we're family in grief. Blessings to you.
     
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  8. Van Gogh

    Van Gogh Well-Known Member

    KarenLee, just read Karen's kind words to
    you. She was one of the first people to
    comfort me & welcome me to GIC. I
    talked with you before. We're all about
    the same age, & married many years to
    our soulmates. I really hope you can
    stay with us. Lou