It’s hard to understand how the people closest to us aren’t supplying the support we all expected. But it seems to happen to each of us. People just don’t understand the gravity of what we’re going through unless they’ve been there. I’ve even tried to explain, the pain, the loneliness even the guilt that we’re suffering. One of my brothers seems to have understood what I was trying to say. He’s been more available and offered more support. A lot of people also have the misconception that if they bring up our loss, say their name, that they’re upsetting us. No one is reminding anyone of us about our loss, we think of them 24/7. And crying is good for us, and we want to hear their memories. In short, I think we make people uncomfortable, they don’t know what to do with us. But it’s not rocket science, it’s pretty simple. So we’re in pain from our losses and then hurt by the people we’re closest to. Quite a quandary. And that’s why this site is so helpful. We all know and understand.