Grief quotes of the day

Get your kleenex box, Gary. It's powerful,
and, as I told Bernadine, I cried all the
way through it. A film can pack a Mr. G
punch ( and how to deal with it) better
than a book, in some ways. Lou

 

Helena I loved your drawing of the river and mountain. I wanted to pass some information regarding sleep. I read the book Insomnia Solved by Brandon Peters. I Bought it used on Amazon for $40. I’m going to post 2 photos of the main areas the book covers. Gary

 

B, how I signed up was I brought up Centerforloss.com. And then I scrolled down way to the bottom of the page and it will say sign up with your e-mail address. It worked for me.

 

Same here, Karen. As I said to Gary &
Bernadine, I cried all through the
documentary on grief, which had been
suggested by Bernadine. It's powerful
stuff & touches all the things TGW care
about. My advice is to see it in the morning, not at night. Have a peaceful
sleep. Lou

 

Thanks Gary, Since I went back to the bedroom (I used to sleep in the media room couch), I'm sleeping much better now, I also take magnesium tabs and chamomile tea, seems to work, but I will search for this book just in case my insomnia comes back.
Helena

 

Yeah, I did that several times over the kast few months. It sends me to an error page. That’s why I wondered earlier about having the wrong url. Perhaps I’ll try logging in on my chrome book to see if it will work. Thanks.

 

B. It worked for me I had to create an account.

 

Gary,

I LOVE!!! this... I had to reach for a tissue as I was reading this..., TUTTAM!!! (It's here to stay for now, lol...) Life is so over the top bittersweet... It SUCKS!!!, but putting a positive spin on it, so much better than just over the top sad!!!, TUTTAM!!! (Last one for now...)

Backing up a bit, I bookmarked "Siddhartha" I'm not sure if I can read it yet, still having trouble retaining anything other than info on grief, but have recently wanted to read again, something I used to enjoy doing, made super difficult when this foggy widow brain hit.

A friend just gave me a copy of a really good beach read, totally mindless, and although I've only read about a dozen pages, I'm looking forward to spending a relaxing evening with this book. This is a positive step forward, so "Siddhartha" will be one of the first books I order, when some more cobwebs are lifted from my still, way too foggy widow brain.

As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Gary,

Has your facilitator suffered the death of the one true love of her life??? I'm thinking NO WAY!!!, TUTTAM!!! I don't blame you for getting irritated when she put an end to this discussion!!!, TUTTAM!!! Unless, she's walking down the same miserable path all of us are, while feelings are just feelings, she can't help how she feels, being a facilitator, she should keep an open mind, encourage the group to express their feelings on this over the top important subject. I bet if she encouraged conversation, by the end of the meeting, she would have an entirely different perspective on what happiness looks like, for those of us who have suffered the worst kind of heartbreak imaginable, the death of our soulmates...

So sorry your bereavement support group meeting took this very twisted turn.

As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Bernadine,

Thank you so much for providing us with the link to this documentary. I'm looking forward to watching it, have it bookmarked, but can't watch it yet. I've been having a couple of over the top emotional days... Fighting so many multiple battles with Mr. Grief, it's left me emotionally and physically worn to a frazzle. As Gary said, (I really sound like one of those old scratched records now, repeating over and over again, this same thing, but it is just so perfect), "The secret to life is everything in moderation." TUTTAM!!! a zillion times!!!

Today, I'm finally feeling better. I REFUSE!!! to let Mr, Grief knock me down, and keep me on that miserable mat today!!!, TUTTAM!!! It's a beautiful day..., filled with lots of sunshine..., a perfect day to get outside, enjoy nature. I'm thinking of either visiting an animal shelter, not to take home a fur baby (not ready yet!!!), but just to give them some TLC... Fur babies always have a way of making me smile...

WAIT!!!, after just saying this to you, I'm thinking I better just take a walk and stop at a nearby dog park, lol!!! I'm positive I can get my much needed dog fix for the day there. There are always at least several of my neighbors hanging out with their furry family members, enjoying this park. It's very well taken care of, equipped with benches and picnic tables, lots of "play" equipment, plenty of fresh water, a doggie swimming pool, lots of trees for shade, and stations with "poop" bags. (Dogs are so lucky... The entire world is one giant bathroom, lol...) Speaking of bathrooms, there is one really close to this park, (a necessity, especially because of my aging "plumbing system!!!) It's a fun place to visit, one my soon to be (???) fur baby and I will probably spend lots of time at.

Stopping here, I NEED!!! another hit of caffeine!!!, TUTTAM!!! Coffee is a little bit of heaven..., in a cup...

As always, sending you and Maggie, lots of hugs, and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Listen to the Silence

 

Yes. I have an account, not sure why the newsletter link won’t work. Thanks, Helena, I will keep working at it as it does sound like a valuable resource.

 

Helena, I've had many moments by the
sea, like this, when I was lonely and
missing Linda. Now, finally, with a
sunnier, milder spring, my spirits are
lifted. Hope they will for you & other GW,
as well. Lou

 

Deb, I agree with every word TUTTAM!!!
I like your word , "twisted", which you
also attached to creepy Mr. Grief's
ghoulish " amusement park ride".....Lou

 

Everyday I wake up desolate... and through mindfulness and effort I build myself up. It is neverending indeed! We must Keep on Keeping On!
Love G

 

Deb, as you know, Linda & I had to
take care of a smart, fun mini poodle,
when her parents didn't want to take
care of her. Linda had bought the dog,
as a puppy, in a pet store. She was
physically healthy, but had a "screw
loose", bc she came from a "puppy
mill". Linda was heartbroken when
we had to bring it to a kennel for
adoption, bc we were on the road. After
her parents died,& we were settled in a
new place,we went to an animal
shelter, with the idea of getting a dog
of our own. None of them worked out,
but we had some amusing incidents:
One male mini poodle kept "marking his
territory " repeatedly ( talk about an
"aging plumbing system"!!!). Another
small dog wouldn't stop barking, which
would've been a headache for us in our
apartment bldg. Finally, the funniest of
all.While visiting a dog "in his cell",the
dog kept trying to escape from us by
sliding under his door. We didn't know
how he squeezed himself under it, but
we had to call the " gatekeeper". I think
dog shelters are great. Many dogs were
found roaming the streets in Puerto
Rico, and have found loving homes here.
It just didn't work out for us. Ironically,
the last time I saw Linda with dogs, was
when the nursing home staff brought
puppies from the shelter, for the
residents to pet them. I try not to
think of Linda's smiles through her tears,
when a puppy looked at her with
unconditional love. She cried bc we
never got to experience that
unconditional love--- except from each
other. Lou

 

Deb,
The documentary is just under an hour and I found that even though I’m struggling with mr. G it was very cathartic, maybe even healing in some way.

Let me warn you about those puppy longings, what a lot of energy it takes. I’m sure you know the times when just being able to sit still is what a grieving body needs…. But, a big but?, puppies don’t speak human! And they sure don’t need grief breaks, lol.
All that said, the company can’t be matched, talk about unconditional acceptance. And bits of joy. Hmmmmm… no harm just looking I suppose.

Hope the coffee is hot, the sun is bright and the morning walk soothed your soul.
~B

 

I started it, but then was so emotional I quit. I will take your advice and read it in the AM.