Grief quotes of the day

Helena, have you ever read anything of Ella Wheeler Wilcox life or poetry? You might enjoy it.

 

I really hear you about the chairs. I bought Jack and I those swivel rocker chairs for the deck. I can't stand to sit in his chair or look at it. I remember he would always bring out his little stereo and put on some blues music while we had our wine. It was what we did at the end the day of work, relax, smile, laugh and watch nature. I miss it so much. Weather didn't stop us. Cold we would just put on our coats and hats. This is the first time I've mentioned our deck time to anyone. I guess you got me going. Maybe someday I can share with friends and family.

 

Not sure how this works when trying to reply to someone. Maybe it is not doable or acceptable but would there be a way to posts quotes and "funny" things without allowing comments. So we could just read the quote and then move to another area to talk about our feelings about it.
Then it would not be so hard to read through to see the the quote etc. Just a thought.

 

Lou, You’ll never be kicked off GIC. There might be issues but you’ll never get kicked off.
I know a person that got kicked off. No idea how Karyn or others that run this site figured out this person wasn’t being honest and real. but myself and another person became concerned when she seemed suicidal. We reached out to Karyn, next thing we know we’re told to stop communicating with her and that she’s being taken off the site. She’s not what she seems to be. You have no worries, about being taken off the site.
And I agree, I’m glad we have each other to vent to with no judgement from anyone. Just the support we need. I know the flashbacks you speak of. Those memories will one day, make us smile, hopefully. I feel so much better when I’m outside in my garden or sitting in the sun. Ron and I used to sit on our swing and watch the birds and be in awe of the humming birds. Now it’s just me and it feels so wrong. But I still try to do “our” things. The fresh air I got while in Florida even though it was an emotional trip, the air did me a world of good. Counting the days until we have warm sunny days. Robin

 

Thank you Karen, I love my GIC friends here. So many have reached out today. Tears for a different reason this time. It’s a nice feeling. Robin

 

I think just do a new thread called Quotes and say this thread is for quotes only, no replies. Maybe say reply on another thread. Maybe others will have a better solution, but I do like that idea just to read quotes, kind of like a thread of quotes as in some grief daily reflection books.

 

We are family.

 

I love that idea of a thread of a daily inspirational quote. Just a quote no comment.

 

How do we start a new area? I would love to see "Daily Inspirations? Wonder if anyone else would be interested>

 

I like "Daily Inspirations" or "Daily Quotes" too. Let's see if there are more comments for this.

 

When you go to loss of spouse upper right corner is says Post a New Thread.

 

Thanks for your kind reply, Karen. My
NP discovered I'm anemic, too. I take a
Nature Made MULTI vitamin, with iron.
I also try to eat foods with iron. I'm glad
you have a little more energy now. I
did tell NP that my fatigue could be due to
the lingering effect of COVID. She said
that's possible, along with the change in
season. Sunday was sunny, in the 50s, &
I went down the Neck to see my friends.
Everyone was smiling, in a great mood,
no masks. Yesterday, it was still mild,
but rainy. Today, the temps dropped 20
degrees, & the wind went through me.
The yo yo pattern of temps depresses me.
I've changed about the possibility of
meeting a woman from out of town.
Right now, I don't care. I like the quiet
of my apartment, & the freedom to come &
go, without telling anybody. I can't say
never, but I'm not actively seeking. It's
one of the reasons I liked Jonathan's
book. He had humorous stories of well
intentioned friends who fixed him up. He
had a funny account of a fling with a
much younger woman, a former student,
who pursued him. Ultimately, Jonathan
has decided to remain single, even
continues to wear his wedding ring. When
I emailed him to tell him about GIC, he
said that was a good idea for me. His
way of dealing with mourning over
Joy, is to immerse himself in writing. He
has been on a book tour with a new
international mystery thriller, the type of
book he used to write before Joy's death.
He doesn't like the thought of telling
another woman the story of his life,after
being married to Joy for 40 years. Lou

 

Thanks, Robin. I didn't panic, & found
another way to get back on GIC. I try to
be calm & cool when making decisions.
Linda once said to me that I couldn't
break the Internet! She taught me so much,
and I miss her advice & expertise, as well
as her loving smile. Lou

 

Music, wine, nature… your deck time sounds really special. ~B

 

Thank you for your reply. God does work in mysterious ways. Meaning, your contentment being alone. I too wear my wedding ring, can't take it off and the other hand I wear Jack's wedding ring.
Jack's daughter said maybe I will meet a man and fall in love again. Her Mother is 83 and dating. That is the last thing on my mind, I will stay single with my memories of Jack. He was the only man I ever loved.

 

Even the green weeds look beautiful to me. Ha!

 

Karen, I understand. I have a good
friend, a widower. who was married
many years & is a grandfather. He's 83,
also, but looks & seems 10 years younger.
His wife died 2 years ago, & he's dating
a widow, in her 70s, who is a very kind,
fun person. I'm happy for them, but it
may not be for me. I'm glad you're
staying with us on GIC. You can vent,
cry, & get angry without being judged.
TGW , including me, look up to you, for
your strength, wisdom, & humor. Your
idea of a GRIEF & LAUGHTER thread is a
good one. Jack & Linda were funny
people, and we can honor their memory,
by keeping humor alive. Lou

 

Yes we are. And it’s a wonderful feeling. This family, has never met. And yet we know each other so well and offer the best support.

 

Thank you for your kindness Rita. I just finished reading the book called “invisible ink” by Kathy Curtis. I followed the prompts in the book and wrote six letters to Cheryl. The seventh letter Cheryl wrote back to me. Thats the invisible ink. Some of the things Cheryl said were similar to what you have written above. Like Gary you have suffered enough. I am ok in the afterlife. You need to find a companion and do all the things we used to do together. We will all love each other in the afterlife. You need to move forward Not just for my sake but for your sake. you’ve got to keep living. It was a relief to hear that. The whole experience made me feel closer to Cheryl. I recommend reading Permission to mourn by Tom Zuba first though. Glad you joined the tribe. Gary