Grief quotes of the day

[QUOTE="Helena Beatriz, post: 26535, member: 28007
Helena, this quote captures how I feel
this morning. The sun is shining, the
sky is a cloudless blue. I have plans to
meet a friend for lunch. He never knew
Linda. He's my age & has been married
50 years. He is funny, but also kind, bc
he listens to me about Linda. Linda
would have liked him, and vice versa.
We could have had fun as 2 couples
together. Linda & I never found a couple
with whom we could be friends. When
Linda died, I realized, with a shock, that
she was my best (& only friend) and
family. The extreme bereavement and
loneliness propelled me to seek a grief
counselor. I've had to build friendships
with people who never knew Linda.
Thank God my kind therapist directed
me to Grief in Common, bc the friends
on this site are always here for me, and
I am here for them. Thank you, Rita,
and Bernadine for your grief quotes. Lou

 

Bernadine,

I LOVE!!! this, TUTTAM!!! I just took a picture of this using my phone. Thank you so much for sharing...

As always, lots of hugs to you and Maggie, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

P.S. Hope she hasn't been into anything that bad this morning... I would be totally covered in it too...

 

Lou,

I'll always be grateful to you, TUTTAM!!! for recommending those two excellent books to us, and for sharing so openly and honestly, what life has been like for you since Linda's death. I've learned so very much from you... You have helped me grow, and continue to help me grow, as I continue to try to find my way in the world again..., without Bob.

Thank you for being such a good friend.

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Maggie has her first vet appointment today so I’ve done my best to keep her out of the mud, just a bit on her nose late yesterday, I turned my back for a minute too long while planting some violas and she started digging a hole… no no noooo. Lol.

 

Bernadine,

Feel free to "steal" anything you want, anytime, lol... It makes me happy to know in a very small!!! TUTTAM!!!, way, I've helped you. So glad!!!, TUTTAM!!! you decided to join TGW... You have helped me too..., not only making me laugh when laughter seems almost impossible, but also providing me with valuable words of wisdom along the way... Looking forward to hopefully!!!, TUTTAM!!!, a brighter future for TGW, as we continue our daily battles with Mr. Grief. It SUCKS!!!

As always, sending you and Maggie lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Bernadine,

So glad I don't need to change my clothes today, lol... I hope Maggie's first vet appointment is a very positive experience for her... My very favorite fur baby LOVED!!! her vet. Normally, she would walk right next to me, but whenever we pulled into the driveway of the vet's office, she would pull on her lead, as soon as let her out of the car, all the way into the office. She would excitedly greet the vet techs and office staff who always made a big fuss over her... My very favorite fur baby thought the entire world was in love with her, lol..., the way it should be!!!, TUTTAM!!!, for all fur babies...

As always, sending you and Maggie lots and lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Sherry,

As usual, I'm not reading messages in the right order, started reading the newest first, instead of beginning with the oldest first, a habit I can't seem to break. Until I learn a little more about you, and begin to get to "know" you, I want to let you know how sorry I am you had to find us, but how glad you did. I know Bernadine already said this to you, but, and this is another one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, it's worth repeating as I know I can confidently say all TGW feel this way.

I can't say enough good things about GIC, especially about TGW. I have made so many friends here..., friends who I know I can depend upon to help me survive my very darkest moments, and also who I know are more than happy to share some laughs with me too. So much sadness..., so much pain..., but and this is one of those really BIG BUTS!!!, at the same time, bits of happiness sprinkled in with this total heartbreak.... Happy mixed with sad..., as Robin so perfectly explains this feeling to all of us. Life, from now on, will always be so bittersweet..., TUTTAM!!! (Thanks Lou for the explanation.) However, I'll take it. It's much better than Mr. Grief keeping me stuck at the bottom of that seemingly endless..., twisted emotional roller coaster ride of emotions...

I'm in one of those moods where I could keep on going, rambling away, probably outlasting that Energizer Bunny, but I want to read the part of your story you've shared with us, and also I have things I want to accomplish today, so stopping here for now.

It's getting late, already past noon, so I'll come back later to read what you've told us so far...

For now, sending you lots of hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

P.S. I almost forget, will blame it on this foggy widow brain, I'm so very sorry your husband, Gerry has died. I HATE!!! saying these words, because they sound so shallow at times like this, but since words are all I have, I hope you know how truly sorry I am.

 

Deb, you just made me cry, but in a
good way. You can see by my reply to
Helena this am that I was already on
the edge of grief. Thanks for being such
a kind friend. Lou

 

Hello Sherry, this is Karen and I just saw your post as a newcomer. I've been on this forum for 1 year and 4 months and fine it very helpful and consider everyone my family. I lost my Jack 1 yr and 4 months ago to cancer and I'm still not right in my brain, foggy many times. I'm very sorry you lost your Gerry in Feb so soon. I hope this forum is a help to you and what I find is you can vent, say anything, with no judgements. We're a great group -- so supporting.
I see three of you are in SC. I'm in Calif. "Keep Upright", as my old friend always said. Karen

 

Hi Sherry. I’m terribly sorry for your loss of Jerry. My name is Gary and I lost my girlfriend Cheryl 5/7/21 suddenly and unexpectedly to a cardiac arrest. We had a wonderful life together and like everyone else here I’m still in shock. I started in person grief support meetings immediately after losing Cheryl but they only met twice a month. I found GIC 6 months ago. Now I don’t have to do my grief journey alone. “6 needs of reconciliation for the Mourner” is a short article that will jumpstart you on your grief journey. It is a good place to start to understand the scientific approach to grief. I still read it. Thanks to Lou we have other reads to guide us. I’m Looking forward in getting to know you better. I love your avatar photo too. Gary

 

Lou, some of the grief quotes capture our feelings, sometimes they made us cry, I guess we all grieve in our own way.
I'm really glad that you have made some friends after Linda left you and now you are moving forward!!
Tomorrow it will be two months since Geoff left me, he was very sociable and got a wonderful sence of humour, we always used to laugh sometimes like kids, I miss so many things that I can't help remembering and cry. Two months seems like an eternity!, Deb says "you are heeling"....We all here are heeling, some they take only a few months, others a few years, but we never forget the life we had with our loved ones.
At the moment, I only have GIC and I have made a few friends like yourself, Deb, Bernadine, Patty, Karen, Gary and so many grieving warriors that is the only conversations I have, I keep saying without judgement bc even family they don't "get it".
Helena

 

I ordered the book you recommended today- "Permission to Mourn: A New Way to Do Grief." It is so nice to come here and not have to be concerned about bringing people down by sharing. Even though there are other widows here, and that is a comfort, I see the pain return to their face if I talk about Gerry's death, and that hurts. So I try to be upbeat and encouraging. I understand why you took the name Van Gogh. I, too, have felt torment. Hope LIFE blesses you today my brother.

 

When I said other widows here, I meant the place that I live, not GIC.

 

A few quotes on Wednesday:

• Grief is like living two lives, one is where you pretend that everything is alright, and the other is where your heart silently screams in pain.
• No matter how I appear on the outside I will always be missing a huge part of me on the inside.
• The people who think there is a time limit for grief, have never lost a piece of their heart.
• Sometimes the strongest among us are the ones who smile through silent pain, cry behind closed doors, and fight battles nobody knows about.
• Sorrow is so easy to express and so hard to tell.
• The most paintfull goodbyes are the ones that that are never said and never explained.
• Goodbyes hurt the most, when the story is not finished....
• Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.
• It is crazy how someone who used to be part of your life can be gone in a second.
• When you loose someone we love we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.

 

Helena, these quotes are perfect. I'm
especially drawn to the ocean waves
analogy to grief. One must swim parallel
to the shore, so as not to drown, in
grief. Thank you, as always, Helena, for
helping other Grief Warriors. Lou

 

Helena, this quote is SO true. I hope we all can learn to live with the love they left behind.

 

Karen, on my walk home, I spotted my
first robin, and it gave me a lift, bc it's a
sign of spring, after a long winter. Have
you seen any robins yet? Lou

 

The hummingbirds are coming back, Oregon juncos as they call them, (small birds), I'm sure Bernadette knows about that nickname and of course blue jays have been around for awhile. All the trees are bloomed, bulb flowers blooming and we need more rain.
I think I've seen a robin and I'm so glad your weather is gliding into spring.

 

I meant Bernadine not Bernadette. Just found out Oregon juncos is not a nickname but a name of birds looking somewhat like a sparrow.