Dad died in tragic accident.

On 8/6/22 my dad was taking his daily five mile walk. While taking his walk a driver was speeding and became distracted. She struck him on the passenger side of the jeep and he flew over the car. The coroner said he broke his neck and back immediately and died on impact. I live 3 hours north of him and can’t get the image of him getting hit, laying there etc. out of my head. It’s been almost 5 months and I feel like I haven’t improved at all. I miss him so much. How could something so tragic happen. I haven’t been able to speak to anybody who can relate at all. Any help would be appreciated.

 

Hello zv2397, I am sorry about the sudden loss of your Dad. I lost my girlfriend Cheryl suddenly 20 months ago. I was Cheryl’s first responder followed by 4 EMTs, 4 firemen, and 2 nurses and a deputy. After a heroic effort Cheryl regained a pulse but would transition 2 days later. Like you I kept replaying the event. Make a collage of special memories of your Dad on your phone. When bad thoughts come look at the collage knowing your Dad’s last moments were just a fraction of the good times you had with him. I also made a shrine for Cheryl where I visit to feel her presence. I wish it was that easy to heal but it isn’t. I joined an in person grief support group immediately, started therapy, read books on grief and meditation, plus became active on this site, and became a hospice volunteer. I noticed a slight improvement around the 9 month mark. We must find someone who we trust where we can express our grief. Try to interact with others on this site. You don’t have to wait for someone to reach out for you. Gary