Hi all. I'm new here and grateful to find somewhere to chat with others who understand. I'm finding it so hard at the moment because people ask how I am, but if I sensitively tell the truth....ok but v emotional ATM, I get completely ignored. No reply, no response. I've weighed it up, I understand people have stuff going on too, and can in fact see now with hindsight why a dear friend totally ignores me now because when her husband suddenly died, I too was in deep trouble and see now in her eyes I never did enough....tho I did as much as I could. I can see all that. But my question is ...how are we supposed to act? Are we to pretend we're fine When we're clearly not? I just don't know how to be or how to deal with this. I'm having counselling, and have reached out and some kind people have responded, but what do I do with the rest of society who I feel I'm in a parallel universe with. It's the weirdest situation ever, and only adds to the pain and separation. Be so grateful for your thoughts and experiences. Thank you.