After Pat died I sold my home and moved closer to my daughter and friends. I began teaching yoga and doing personal grief work and working with my local cancer support organization. I began exercising and meditating more. I cut ties with people that were cruel or soul suckers. Some people thought it was too much too soon but it all helped me through the pain. You cannot recover with poison in your life. Grief is hard work. One must make life as easy and free from unnecessary misery as possible to complete their griefwork. Deb is suffering because of her work situation. I hope she finds a way to resolve this situation and heal. Grief is unavoidable but some suffering from other sources is avoidable.