How can I go on ? My beautiful husband died today…

My husband of 41 years died today. I am a strong Believer in Jesus so I know where he is but my heart feels so broken. We have never been apart ever. He has been always healthy and never drank or smoked in his life but a few months ago he didn’t feel good and found out he had four huge tumors in his chest between the heart and lungs. They were certain it would be treatable but the biopsy came back March 16 and said it was terminal with no hope to cure and too late to do anything anyway - they gave him less than 6 months and on 6 weeks he was gone. I know I must continue on and I know the deeply negative thoughts are wrong and I know Jesus can be strong where I am weak - but I DONT know how to go on. I really don’t. We have the best marriage and he was going to retire next year. He just turned 61 and he is gone. I am lost without him.

 

It doesn't feel like it now, but you will. I will never tell you that it gets better, but I PROMISE PROMISE PROMISE you that it wwill get softer.

 

I am so very sorry for your loss of your dear husband. You have gone through much trauma and your feelings are understandable to those of us who have suffered in like manner as you.
It is possible to go on even though it doesn't seem like it. I didn't think I could survive even one day. The counselor asked me and my hisband what we saw ourselves doing 10 years down the road. I was thinking that this man in crazy. I can't even survive until tomorrow and he is asking me about 10 years later. Take one day at a time. Do as much as you can and don't expect too much out of yourself. Be good and kind to yourself. Take a walk even if it is short and get some fresh air outside. Eat well and drink water. When you do start to recuperate, you don't want to face life ill.
It is of tremendous benefit to you that you know the Lord Jesus Christ. I give all the glory to Him for bringing me through after the suicide of our dear son, Shawn. Mine was a very slow 'recovery', but like you, I knew what God was like and I knew he cared and would help me. It took a long time of just waiting for the Lord to help me before I began to function again. You are going to have to be patient with yourself and with God. This walk of grief is not something we get over. It is something we learn to live with, by the grace of God. It is a slow process that takes time for us to become stronger.
Please contact us again and share your feelings as you feel led. I learned that talking things out helped me sort things out in my mind. And when I had a question or didn't understand something no one had to solve it with a solution. As I talked it out, God gave me the answer.
Hoping to hear from you again soon,
Christine

 

I deeply sorry for your loss We found out my husband had cancer last March 2025 he died February 6th 2026 without me holding his hand I was cheated out of that my name isn't on his death certificate like it should be I didn't attend his memorial at fort dix because of the tension and Anger I felt I don't have his honors flag we were going n bad terms before he died I didn't get his burial flag I don't have nothing his daughter lies about the seriousness of him being in hospital she found out her dad was still married to his first wife she is on death certificate Eric couldn't stand her but in his mind he was divorced he told me he was so stepdaughter used that against me and locked me out of hospital because my hus and gave me 100 dollars Jan 15th She said her daddy signed a paper for her to take charge but I know he didn't say hurt me in the process she called me because she needed some one to sign his release papers and cremation papera her mother signed the back page as wife and the mortuary had me sign as wife and informant I did t know what I was signing the mortuary treated me terribly I'm grieving my husband so hard from time to time I cry as I write this I contacted funeral cemetary bureal they put am investigator on it but to no avail he said case went to enforcement ye I ail th now update has been given. I'm so sorry but I bet you didn't have to go through the extra hurt it was like a slap in my face and my deaceses husband's face she could have gotten my marriage certificate but she didn't want to be bothered with me after all these years she said they made her sigh the other wife it's just a big mess in my life and I can't go on how to go on I don't onow