I lost my husband and the pain is crippling

I lost the love of my life over a month ago. We have 3 kids together (9yo, 5yo, 3yo). We were supposed to celebrate our 10th yr anniversary this july, we were together for a total of almost 12 yrs. I just...it's too painful. It hurts..and I miss him so dang much. I don't know if I can do this...I had to do a lot of things to deal with his estate, change all of our bills under my name. And it felt wrong...it felt like I am erasing his existence here. There are still a lot of things that I am holding back to change his name to mine because I don't want to erase him.

It's so suffocating...the pain...

 

I’m so sorry. I lost my husband on March 15 2025 suddenly. We have 3 kids 12, 14 & 18. Dealing with everything is so overwhelming and feels so wrong. I understand what you are experiencing.

 

I know that you can do this, even if it seems impossible to you, because I felt the same way.
I waited for God to help me and He did.
Hugs to you,
Chris

 

Hi Fguad my condolences to you and your family. You have 12 years of memories and 3 children you share with him. You have to be strong for yourself and especially for your 3 children because you’re their only living parent and rely on you for their every need. Your husband is with you in spirit and is watching over you and your children. I say this to you because I believe in my heart and my mind that my husband is with me in spirit and is watching over me and our beloved cat. Do you have a support system of family and friends who you can talk to?

 

I lost my Jeff on September 7th. I was waiting for him to come home, and he never did. We were together for 18 years. He was gone so unexpectedly — from stress and heart issues we didn’t even know were there.

We have three boys… well, young men now. They are what I live for and love more than anything.

But I can’t fully explain how hard it is to cope with the absence of my other half. It feels like my world broke in a way that can’t be repaired. The feeling that he’s still supposed to be here never really goes away.

People worried about the holidays without him, but honestly, it’s not just the holidays. It’s every moment — especially the quiet ones. The ordinary, boring parts of life that didn’t feel boring at all because we were together.

 

It's ok, lost my woman too, it's been so lonely

 

Sorry for your loss and your lonliness.