Why do some people say , "It will get better ?"

Hehe. It makes me glad to think of you enjoying chocolate. I always have a package of Ghirardelli Intense Dark Raspberry Radiance within reach that I dip into when I feel really low. Who said anti-depressants have to be prescribed?

 

You had me at dark intense ! LOVE dark chocolate

 

I'm sorry for your loss. Sad to say but people say and do things out of ignorance to a situation. They think time heals things but I think time only makes you stronger to deal with your pain. You will forever miss your parents because simply that they were your parents. Hold on to their memories and let them live on through you.

 

I'm sorry for your loss. I get what you say about missing Chuck but wouldn't want to leave him in the world alone. I lost my fiancee 4 months ago. Although he had health issues we were dealing with them and his death came as a surprise. I miss him everyday and wish he could magically come back. A small part says I wouldn't want him here dealing with the kids and the pain of his health. I'd rather be overwhelmed with the kids than him have to suffer and find ways to take care of them without me. You're right everyone dont get to send them off. Everytime we've had to go to the hospital I'd been by his side except when he passed. Due to the virus I couldnt be there. I feel like I let him down in the end.

 

My heart breaks for you, and I wish I could tell you something to assuage your guilt. I did things or failed to do things that I regret, and will to my dying day. Regrets are just part of the human condition. Only in the movies do people get to die without them. But what I can say is that the pandemic and the isolation protocols were beyond your control, which I’m sure you get, rationally, but I know it’s very hard to reconcile with how you feel.

 

Thank you for your kind words ,very kind words

 

Its one of thoose cliches' that people use because they don't know what to say to us. "If you need anything, call" "You're so strong", that sort of thing. If there is one thing I've learned since the best thing that happened to me went to her mom is that it doesn't get "better", but I can PROMISE you that it does get "SOFTER"

Look at this, it describes it perfectly

https://allthroughthestorm.blogspot.com/2017/08/grief-is-like-shipwreck.html

 

because its one of the cliches people use because they don't know what else to say. that said, it won't tell you that it will get better, but I PROMISE you that it will get softer

 

I lost both of my parents within a year apart. Both were 69 when they died. My father from heart attack ( sudden) and mother from emphysema.( Hospice)
Orphaned and in my 30's. Life was surreal to keep moving forward with more losses that came. I don't understand it to this day. My Fiance just died in his sleep a couple months ago and now I'm starting completely over in my life. I have blamed god ALOT because its all out of my control and I can't seem to understand the trials. I'm trying to learn and move forward. Thats all we can do at this point and then maybe, someday, it will all make sense or make us see and feel it a little easier? IDK
Find a passion and dive head first into it. Take a vacation to breath even if you can't afford it. You'll survive.
Eat and drink water. Or else youre gonna have more issues with your body that you never bargained for. Treat yourself good, even though its hard. xo
-Ren