Wednesday ART THERAPY

First of all.im glad you ok from.the incident. Then I'm sorry you're overwhelmed by everything. It's hard playing this hand we've been dealt without our mates. Do what you can when you can. I know its difficult without your beloved. You'll get stronger as the days go by. I pray for your strength with each passing day.

 

Deborah I’m sorry you encountered someone not paying attention to their driving causing you additional grief. I’m glad you didn’t get injured. When my security is even slightly threatened I find myself reaching across the bed to grasp Cheryl’s hand for comfort. We miss our beloved more than ever now. Do to some family comments imagined or real I found myself reaching for Cheryl in the night. I like your determination and resolve. Sending you a virtual hug. Gary

 

Gary, the timing of your dream with
Cheryl is uncannily like mine, when I
woke up this am, crying. Before Linda
became ill, she used to cook for me, and
we'd talk about something we'd watch
on TV together.Now, I don't have a TV,
and don't cook. I go out for breakfast,
have a sandwich for lunch at home, and
throw a frozen gluten free dinner in the
oven, for dinner. When I woke up crying,
I spoke softly to Linda, saying, "I love
you, Linda. I miss you". I hadn't had
this type of dream about Linda for a
while, but the fact that a New Year is
coming up, may have triggered it. Linda &
I were married on a New Year's Day. Lou

 

Thank you so much Janiceanne. These are the most difficult of days—the holidays. I am grateful for your kind words.

 

Thank you so much for your kind words, Robin. I’m trying to feel better today.

 

Thank you Gary, for your kindness. It’s a pain that never goes away.

 

Lou, I am so sorry for this pain you are feeling. Sending you comfort and peace.

 

Thank you, Deborah. I'm used to having a
cry about Linda every morning. Sometimes I swear, and shake it off, like a dog,
coming out of the ocean. My day gets
better when I walk outside , with Linda's
cane for balance. Her cane symbolizes
her presence. According to Dr. Alan
Wolfelt, on Center for Loss ( daily
quotations on grief sent by email to
those who want it), it's important to
hold on to something tangible that one's
soulmate held. Lou

 

Of coarse Deborah, we’re in this together. I’ve had a few days of migraines, when I don’t feel well I miss Ron even more. Not sure how that’s possible but I feel it. Seeing Ron’s side of the bed empty, breaks my heart every morning and night. Try to get fresh air to help you feel some better. I’m getting out today, going to a movie with my daughter. Sending you hugs and love. Robin

 

I hear you so well! I feel the same way.

 

I hear you. I had a meltdown when my check engine light came on. It wasn't that I didn't know what to do, it was that Kenn wasn't there. Hopeless, helpless and grieving. It gets easier, I promise. I suppose by default it must as we gain the experiences of living alone. ~B

 

Deborah, I certainly feel for you. Yes, it's the only choice we have. After Jack my husband died everything started happening to the house, car and property. I just couldn't believe why it's happening now. Fortunately, I have neighbors who came to my rescue, but in the meantime I was a wreck.

I'm glad you were not hurt and are okay. I've learned to take deep breaths at times during the day when I'm starting to feel anxiety you have and it helps to calm me down until the next catastrophic event.

But, we carry on, we survive, we grieve, we cry, we yell, but we carry on. Take care Deborah, we're here for you, Karen (Ms Hum) as I have been named.

 

I try... I try .. I try...
After an awful harrowing drive home from dialysis in the dark misty cold I get up the strength to go top the Art League to do a painting... It was very hard to do this but I did... and they are F-ng CLOSED (the one time I didn't call first!) ! I try... and this Sh*t always seems to happen! Thanks to the GIC community for helping me get through a VERY rough Holy Day Season!

 

George, you are the Ultimate Grief
Warrior ( UGW) and we're always here
for you. Here's to a happier New Year
for all of us. The Godfather in
Lobsterland

 

Sorry to hear about your accident Deborah, and glad that you weren't hurt. I understand that these unfortunate events can be so much harder to face without your husband by your side.
You can tell us here, though, we will listen to you and give you words of comfort.

It's 5:30 pm here in Italy, in less than seven hours, it will be the third New Year coming in without my husband. How can that be?, I ask myself. I don't remember last year and the year before. It's as if my memory stopped functioning on the 15th Nov 2020, when I suddenly, prematurely, lost my fit and healthy husband who had never had any health problems. I've been in a trance since then, I find it difficult to recall events that have happened during the past two years. Maybe this is a common factor for some of you?

Well, I just wanted to greet all my friends here today, thanking you all for being here, it's such a relief to be able to communicate with others who understand and empathize, others who haven't lost a soulmate just don't get it, do they?
I'm so grateful for this site and I want to wish you all a peaceful New Year, may we find more and more strength in this struggling life we are being forced to face.

Rose

 

Lobsterino,

Lobsterino, a very creative twist, lol... I think it denotes power in Lobsterville...

Sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. Debarino

 

Hello Everyone, It is New Years Eve and I am alone. Tom died less then three months ago and I seem to cry at songs, smells, and most of all memories of our life together. We were one and loved to be together. We would get up in the morning and discuss what we wanted to do that day. A trip, we planned it together. It is amazing to say that we never fought disagreements yes but no real issues. Facing the year ahead is a daunting thought. Just hurting right now.

I know all of you are having many of the same thoughts and have the same memories that bring tears and sadness. My love to all of you and many hugs to help us get through this evening and the year to come.
Janiceanne

 

Deborah,

Getting here very late!!!, so sorry to hear about the accident, but so relieved you're okay!!!, TUTTAM!!! I think I "get" how you're feeling. I wasn't sure I could handle all the "garbage" tossed my way, but somehow I found the strength to do all the things I had to do, as a result of that F*CKING!!! guy who hit me. As you can tell, although I'm working on it, I'm not making much progress towards forgiveness. I think it's going to be a very long work in progress...

As Robin has reminded all of us many times, we are lots stronger than we think we are!!! You CAN!!! and WILL!!! get through this. The important thing is that you're okay!!!, the rest, although it doesn't seem this way, is just "garbage,' not that important.

Sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Well I guess I need to learn to like burned pizza!

 

Lobsterino,

Sending you a GIANT virtual hug... It SUCKS!!! I've been battling Mr. Grief since I got up this morning. I'm emotionally and physically drained, and it's only around noon. However, I'm only dealing with New Year's Eve, and all the memories of past celebrations of way beyond wonderful moments, spent with Bob, now so over the top bittersweet. It SUCKS!!! I'm plowing right through an entire box of tissues.

Before I really get off track, what I want to say is that I can't even begin to imagine how much more challenging this holiday would be, if Bob and I got married on New Year's day... Although it doesn't always feel this way, before you know it, it'll be January 2nd. A new year..., a new beginning for all of us...

Wishing you, and all of our GIC "family," good health, and lots more smiles than tears, in 2023...

As always, sending you lots of hugs and love, wishing you peace, all of us peace. Debster (variety is the spice of life!!!)