Sudden and unexpected

Oh Robin I hope you get to go in January! Hopefully puppy will gain lots of confidence over the next few weeks.

Regarding Dick Sherman - If you haven't yet seen "The Boys" I really think you would like it (Walt referred to them as "The Boys" - but you probably already know that). It's a documentary of their lives and career done by their sons and it is very well done. Touching. He said it was hard to sit there and watch that in front of all those people (us).

Your Disney adventures are very special too! You even got a Disney family wedding!! I've been to a friend's Disneyland wedding but never a family member.
♥♥

 

Deb, YES - I NEED things other than missing him and my broken heart to focus on, multiple times a day. When thoughts come, I feel the hurt. I let myself cry and grieve no matter where I am or what I'm doing. I'm not holding it in. But then I want to think about something less painful.

I was considering getting my Dream Key pass (it's the new Annual Pass - they just renamed it, basically - I've had an annual pass pretty consistently since 1997 but that ended during the year long shut down). But I just heard that it was "sold out" and they aren't selling more. WHAT?! sigh. I'll figure something out. I really wish they would stop with the reservation system. It's a ginormous pain in the butt and ruins the freedom the annual pass used to provide (for a high price, of course).

I've been decorating for Christmas for the last two days and I have enjoyed it. There have been many tears and even some sitting and feeling miserable, mixed in. But the process and the results are giving me some much-needed pleasure and little breaks from my pain and I'LL TAKE IT!

It's nice seeing everyone back here. ♥

 

Marcey,

I'm back, I can't believe I actually remembered... This foggy widow brain thing is the absolute pits, TU!!! It made me smile knowing that my much earlier message to you had you smiling, a real smile, not one of those forced fake ones. As I said earlier today, I think more than once, but can't remember who I said this too, smiles are such an underrated thing!!! I'll never take smiling for granted again, along with so many other things, since Bob died. It's really difficult for me to accept that for the rest of my life, happy moments will always be mixed with sad moments, smiles mixed with tears... (thank you Robin for the best explanation ever). I'm grateful that at least I can smile, even laugh again, even if it is so bittersweet.

I enjoyed reading about your Disney adventures so much. Wait, before I "talk" all things Disney, I have to back up a bit. You made me laugh too. I'm not going to speak for Robin, but as for myself, I'm not so sure you'll find me so interesting after watching an episode of "90 Day Fiance." However, I agree with Robin's review, totally mindless, easy to watch, a good way to escape from reality for a little while. Speaking of escaping from reality, I wonder how much of this show is staged. I was heartbroken when my oldest son who used to live in Georgia, told me that "The Property Brothers" did a makeover on his friends' house. He said his friends told him the process was absolutely miserable, and the end result that was shown on TV, wasn't exactly as pictured. He said the house wasn't finished when it was supposed to be completed, and it was one nightmare after another. However, he said once the experience was history, his friends started loving the house. So, all things considered, in the long run, I guess they felt it was worth it.

Wait, I have one more confession to make before totally getting off subject. I confess, I also watch "Married At First Sight." As embarrassed as I am to mention this, I wouldn't feel right if I didn't come completely clean. It's similar to "90 Day Fiance," because you can have that foggy widow brain thing happening to the max while watching it, and it's a nice escape from reality for a little while. Just as with all the other so called "reality shows," I'm guessing most of it has been staged. I'm done embarrassing myself for one night.

On to more fun stuff... I would have loved that early morning adventure, well everything except the "early morning" part. I would have had to have caffeine injected IV style, then because of my poor plumbing system, would have been able to tell you all the restrooms to avoid and which ones to check out. However, I would have made myself love the "early morning" part because it sounds like it was an amazing experience. It must have been so cool (really dating myself here) to have been able to go inside of Matterhorn Mountain... I would have loved to have been able to get off the Jungle Cruise Boat and go into the jungle.... I would have loved the entire adventure!!! Club 33 must have been one of the absolute best experiences... It's wonderful that you got to go there twice. I would have loved to have been able to see Dick Sherman... I remember that when we took the kids to Disney World, the Small World attraction was closed. We were so disappointed. My daughter looked like she was going to burst into tears... However, there were so many other fun things to do, that she soon forgot all about it. We have another thing besides coffee in common, I really like Dick Van Dyke too. I'm going to take you up on that recommendation. I haven't see the Candlelight Processional and will have to check it out on YouTube. I'm way too emotional tonight to be able to share any of my Disney World stories, but if I remember, I'll tell you about some of them another time.

I hope your house is now beautifully decorated and you are having (mostly) a tear free evening...

As always, sending you and Miles hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

I'm still not getting email notifications from here though.... Anyone else having that issue?

 

Marcey,

I'm over the top technically challenged. Do you mean the alerts that let you know when a new message has been posted? I'm not getting any of these, but the only email notifications I ever got are ones from Karyn Arnold informing us when another grief group is starting.

 

Karen, so good to see you on here after
your guests left. The rebooting took longer
than expected, & many of us were stressed
out. The only one I haven't heard from
yet, is Patti, but she had serious medical
issues to deal with. I think you were
trying to welcome a new member, a
widower, "Hawk". Hope he wasn't
discouraged, & decided to leave. Hope to
"talk" soon. Lou

 

Deb,

You are so right about the bittersweet. Everything positive, for all of us, from now on, will be bittersweet. And the thought of it is overwhelmingly sad if I let myself think of "from now on." I am trying HARD to not think in those terms anymore. Just today. Right now. Not the next few weeks, months or years. Just right now. What am I able to enjoy today? We are literally having to learn how to be happy, in a whole different way (completely different mindset, from now on). There are so many things like this that people that haven't been through it would not be able to truly comprehend. Thank you (and Robin) for pointing that out. You are both so right.

I appreciate your honesty about your shame-shows. LOL Nothing to be embarrassed about. It's entertainment. And right now, if it helps get us through an hour then BOOYAH! Enjoy your guilty-pleasure shows. I'm going to. Actually tomorrow night is the season finale of my housewives.... then I'll have to wait for months before it's on again. But Southern Charm should be coming up pretty soon...so I should be okay. lol

Okay, I'm so excited to find fellow Disney-aholics here. Talk about a fun and happy distraction.

I wish I could post pics here, I would show you guys what I've been working on - but any pic I have tried to post, is "too large" even when I reduce it as much as I can. Frustrating. Oh well.

I hope you can let your heart and mind rest tonight. Do check out the Candlelight Processional when you feel up to it! The Dick Van Dyke one was several years ago. I hope someone video'd and posted it! I'll look. ♥

 

Deb,

Yes, email notification of when new messages are posted (including responses to my posts). I'm not getting any of those in my inbox now.

If anyone wants my email, just in case something happens here...just direct message me here and I'll share it.

 

Gary, I'm finally getting on line, with
more confidence. Just ate a late supper
& saw your kind thoughts about my
surgery in the am. I'm actually
looking forward to having both eyes
clear. It's a miracle, bc I was always
very nearsighted. Now, I will have to
get reading glasses, a small price to pay.
I may have some trouble reading the
posts & replies here, tomorrow eve.,
but I'll see how it goes. My heart goes out
to you on the 6 month anniversary of
Cheryl's death. You share that in common
with Deb. I just found out that Robin's
husband, Ron, died 3 years ago, right
before Thanksgiving, just as Linda did.
We have to do a special shout out to
other people here whose spouses died
the same time that ours' did. Please try
to reach out to TGW on Nov. 7. Lou

 

Lou,

I just read that you're having eye surgery in the morning. I am praying for you now and will continue through the night and morning. I hope it all goes smoothly and has the desired outcome (better eyesight!) for you! ♥

 

Marcey,

This is a great idea!!! I'm going to send you mine.

 

Copying Marcey's idea. Just in case we find ourselves in another reboot disaster, if anyone wants my email address, you can direct message me too.

Wishing all TGW a good night's rest....

As always, sending you hugs, wishing you peace, all of us peace. DEB

 

Thanks, Stacey! I was just about to get ready for bed, when I was surprised to see
an incoming email from you in my
"inbox". Hope your online issues with GIC
are finally resolved. Not sure if you saw
my contribution to your Disneyland 9ooo
stories: Linda & I had a magical time
there, in 1997, a year after we were
married in Las Vegas. We teared up on
the "It's a Small World..... " ride. Linda had
been to Disneyworld before she met me,
& said everything in Disneyland was
smaller & closer together, but she liked it.
Because we married in our mid 40s, and
had no children, we were like kids
ourselves. When we walked into the
castle & heard Jiminy Cricket's welcoming
voice, we cried......... Lou

 

Marcey,

How do I send you a direct messge on this site??

 

P.S. I'm so technically challenged I meant to say you can direct message me and we can share email addresses.

 

Deb FYI I was the executor of my mom‘s estate and the attorney told me not to pay any of her bills after the date of death unless I wanted to pay them. The same thing happened with Cheryl the attorney said do not pay any of her bills unless you want to. my situation may be entirely different because Cheryl and I were not married and dad was deceased before mom. The attorney said there is a nine month limitation on creditors after the date of death. I continue to get credit card bills And throw them away. I got one bill from the hospital which I never paid for $100,000. This is Indiana law though. Stacy I’m proud of you for walking through your fear by going to the beach and putting Christmas stuff up already. Bitter and sweet the Yin and the yang of life which is a constant succession of good and bad things that happen. We must hang onto those good memories like precious diamonds. Cheryl would lay out a huge spread of Christmas decorations which took two days to complete. I kept one 4 foot tall artificial Christmas tree and about 30 antique Christmas ornaments. It’s definitely going to be different. Like Deb said we will get through this. TGW will Persevere!!! Gary

 

Lou, I will look for it! Is your Disneyland story in this thread?

 

Lou,
Hope all goes well for you tomorrow and you get back home safe and sound. All the best. Keep us posted as you can. Maybe not tomorrow I’m guessing.
❤️ Robin

 

Yes, Stacey, it was 9:49 pm on Mon night, but don't worry about it. It was short, and
I memorized it!! Happened to wake up
just now. Back to sleep. Hope to talk
tomorrow, but, not sure,bc I will need
reading glasses. Sleep well. Lou

 

I’m really hoping I can go in January too. That was the plan all along, my daughter would fly with me and my son would meet us there. I need little Slinky to feel braver and he can stay at the kennel. We plan to take him for one day as a test. Fingers crossed that it goes well.
I do have wonderful memories and my sons wedding was so special. We were overlooking the water with spaceship earth as our backdrop. And we spent a total of 5 days there as a group. Such fun and special memories. We’ve celebrated anniversaries there and birthdays. In fact we celebrated my daughters last birthday there and Easter on the same visit.
I haven’t seen The Boys, I will look for it. I wonder if it’s on Disney+ I bet it is.
°O° ❤️