My husband died suddenly

My husband of 35 years died suddenly on April 1st 2019. He was within 7 months of retiring. I feel totally lost and nothing makes sense and looking at anything in our home makes me break down. I know there is hope but right now I can't see it. My heart is completely broken. One minute I think I'm doing better and the next minute I'm crumpled up on the floor.

 

Linda, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. You're going through such a frightening & difficult emotional experience where everything not being normal is the new normal. After my husband died (8 months ago) it seemed like every half hour I was feeling a different emotion. It was hard to believe this was now 'normal' & I needed to remind myself to be patient with myself. Please try to give yourself permission to be different in some ways while you are mourning. Again, Linda, I'm sorry for your loss of your dear husband

 

Thank you Jenna...i don't even know who I am now. Everything I did revolved around Roger and now he's gone. I feel like I don't even have an identity now...i wish it had been me that died. I'm trying to keep my faith and know that there will be a new normal..right now it's impossible for me to see.

 

Jenna and Linda,

I've been in both your spots. My husband of 35 years died three years ago come August. Linda I remember feeling just like you said, not knowing who I was or what I was supposed to do without him. We did practically everything together. Even now at almost three years I still haven't discovered ME!! The pain does lessen but now I have to discover what it is I'm supposed to do with the rest of my life.

I pray you both make it through your journeys with the grace and mercy of God like I did.

Still looking for ME........

 

I know how you feel. My husband died of a massive heart attack on March 2nd. We would have been married 47 years in September. I’m so lost. I have been with him since I was 15 years old. There is no me. It was always us. Now what do we do?

 

I know how you all feel. My husband of 35 years died 14 months ago. He was only 54. We had so many plans and dreams for the upcoming years. I went to a therapist and she asked me what kind of plans I have now. I don’t have any really, except getting through each day.

 

I lost my husband of 32 years suddenly 6 weeks ago while he was on a TDY assignment with the Air Force. He was deployed many times in his career for extended periods of time but always came home, and a simple trip to Tucson and he died in his sleep, then4 days after his death my daughter has our first Granddaughter. I feel so guilty about being happy and enjoying the sweet baby because he is missing everything and was so excited to be a grandpa. How do I be happy and heartbroken at the same time?