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4 years ago I lost my best friend

Discussion in 'Coping After a Sudden Loss' started by Tayah, Feb 21, 2019.

  1. Tayah

    Tayah New Member

    4 years ago on valentines day my best friend got into a car accident and died. When I found out I could feel my heart ripping in half but all I could say is ¨oh¨. I have spent these last 4 years trying to remember some of the things we did together but that only made it worse. Me and my sister always said she was gone but never forgotten but now i can only remember 1 memory. Lately I have been thinking about my sister getting married and it made me sad and I started crying because I knew that my friend would never get to experience that she would never grow old, never travel, have kids, or get married because of that stupid car accident and I blame god for it all. Everyone around me thinks im crazy for that but in my head all I can think of is, if god is so powerful and mighty then why did he not save my friend. If god really loved the world so much that he would kill his own son, then why, why is my friend gone?
     
    Tayah, Feb 21, 2019
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  2. griefic

    griefic Administrator Staff Member

    Tayah, I am so very sorry for the loss of your friend. It can be hard to find support, especially the more time that goes by after a loss. I know a lot of grievers feel their relationship changes with their faith after a loss like this. For some it can bring them closer, and for others it can push them further away. That question...why? And specifically, why do bad things happen to good people? These are questions that any griever can relate to and it's hard not feel very let down by life and how unfair it can be. You need to find validation for this loss and to understand that you are allowed to hurt and grieve this very big loss. I'm including some articles that I hope can be a help to you:
    https://www.griefincommon.com/blog/the-role-of-proximity-in-grief-disenfranchised-grief/
    https://www.griefincommon.com/blog/grief-roadblocks-let-go-tough-emotions/
    Finding good support can help and I really hope you can find it here. If we can be of any further help, please let me know~
     
    griefic, Feb 22, 2019
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