Finding it Difficult to Move Foward Tue, 06 Oct 2026 21:33:45 -0400 Tue, 06 Oct 2026 21:33:45 -0400 Grief In Common http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/forums/finding-it-difficult-to-move-forward/ Mon, 05 Oct 2026 05:48:51 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-mother-sister-and-father-in-5-years.3807/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-mother-sister-and-father-in-5-years.3807/ invalid@example.com (Susan J.) Susan J. 1 lost my mother to breast cancer on January 12, 2018. She was 69 (I was 33). I lost my sister to alcoholism on the 5 year anniversary of losing my mom, January 12, 2023. She was only 42 and my only sibling. She kept her addiction very well hidden and my father and I only discovered that she had stage 4 liver failure when she was hospitalized. It was months of watching my sister go through the most...

Lost mother, sister and father in 5 years]]> 3 Tue, 29 Sep 2026 21:01:21 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/old-friend-died%E2%80%94it%E2%80%99s-hitting-hard-than-i-expected.3905/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/old-friend-died%E2%80%94it%E2%80%99s-hitting-hard-than-i-expected.3905/ invalid@example.com (Catrionn) Catrionn
I hadn’t seen him in over 30 years, but it hurts.

We were a “could have been” for each other. We met at work when we were in our mid-twenties. He had a girlfriend. I had a boyfriend. And he and I were definitely attracted to each other. But neither of us was really sure whether we wanted to do anything about it.

Long story short, we were never both completely single at the same time;...

Old friend died—it’s hitting hard than I expected]]> 1 Sun, 19 Jul 2026 15:36:46 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-dad.3920/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-dad.3920/ invalid@example.com (Tc98012) Tc98012
Lost Dad]]> 1 Sun, 19 Jul 2026 15:33:53 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/how-to-continue-on.3935/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/how-to-continue-on.3935/ invalid@example.com (SamanthaSun) SamanthaSun
Is there a limit to how much one heart can hold?

Ever since I was a little girl my life has been riddled with tragic unexpected losses. Life keeps going, yet someone we are expected to get up go to school/work, and pretend like our whole worlds hasn’t just been shattered in every single way. Loss after loss, seeing the bodies of those I love, lifeless, cold. No child, no person should ever have to see that, to experience that. The PTSD of the...

How to Continue On?]]> 2 Sun, 05 Jul 2026 12:33:14 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/loss-and-recovery.3945/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/loss-and-recovery.3945/ invalid@example.com (Nbkvkwf) Nbkvkwf Standing on a smaller part. And its cold and dark and suffocating and so painfully but you cant escape, the first day I just sat there staring out a window until I fell asleep. the next morning I ran around the house looking for him but he was gone. So I froze again sat looking out that window. I thought the world should stop. But it didn't. But I did I didnt...

Loss and recovery]]> Thu, 04 Jun 2026 20:57:38 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/why-do-some-people-say-it-will-get-better.2010/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/why-do-some-people-say-it-will-get-better.2010/ invalid@example.com (Kristine50) Kristine50 Everyday I miss my parents more and more.Its been almost 2 years that both my parents are gone and no
It DOES NOT get better ]]> 32 Wed, 18 Feb 2026 21:13:06 -0500 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-mom-in-october.3906/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/lost-mom-in-october.3906/ invalid@example.com (ChristinaC68) ChristinaC68 -we had no idea she was even sick, -
-doctors kept diagnosing her with a UTI.
-it affected her brain from the very beginning and even though she fought for 10months she never fully came back mentally.

I feel like my Insides have been ripped out… I’m so angry and so exhausted from being angry all the time. I have a 4 year old and all I do is think about all she will miss out on with my mom gone. I don’t know how to accept that’s happening. The things I...

Lost mom in October]]> Thu, 22 Jan 2026 02:54:49 -0500 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore.3901/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-dont-know-what-to-do-anymore.3901/ invalid@example.com (Regret2022) Regret2022
I don't know what to do anymore]]> Thu, 11 Dec 2025 13:47:44 -0500 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/cleaning-up-after-loss-of-spouse.967/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/cleaning-up-after-loss-of-spouse.967/ invalid@example.com (FoundaGoodThing2002) FoundaGoodThing2002
I've read many stories about how people handle personal belongings, areas of the house, etc after a spouse passes. I am firmly of the belief that you should leave things alone, as long as you'd like, and don't let ANYONE tell you that you need to "clean that up"/"throw it away"/etc. If you don't like my messy house, you can LEAVE, your attitude is not welcome here.

There are a few exceptions. Like most cancer patients, my wife had her own personal pharmacy of dangerous...

Cleaning up after loss of spouse]]> 34 Sun, 21 Sep 2025 20:33:56 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/nobody-wants-to-hear-this-but.927/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/nobody-wants-to-hear-this-but.927/ invalid@example.com (Saintgrl74) Saintgrl74
Nobody wants to hear this but...]]> 28 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 17:58:48 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/widowed-alone.3405/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/widowed-alone.3405/ invalid@example.com (Noodle1525) Noodle1525
I am an introvert. All our friends were couples which makes every encounter feel awkward. My son is 29 and lives an hour away and my bonus...

Widowed & Alone]]> 10 Sat, 05 Jul 2025 00:38:07 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i%E2%80%99m-finding-things-really-hard.3839/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i%E2%80%99m-finding-things-really-hard.3839/ invalid@example.com (Not coping male) Not coping male
I’m finding things really hard]]> 1 Mon, 30 Jun 2025 00:18:24 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/a-boat-adrift-no-anchor.3287/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/a-boat-adrift-no-anchor.3287/ invalid@example.com (Sabaay) Sabaay 6 Sat, 01 Mar 2025 15:47:45 -0500 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/thought-of-an-old-friend-and-found-out-he-died-2-weeks-ago.3790/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/thought-of-an-old-friend-and-found-out-he-died-2-weeks-ago.3790/ invalid@example.com (SA1972) SA1972
Thought of an old friend and found out he died 2 weeks ago]]> 1 Fri, 06 Dec 2024 23:37:23 -0500 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/grief-tools-and-resources.3769/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/grief-tools-and-resources.3769/ invalid@example.com (Shelley_TheLossFoundation) Shelley_TheLossFoundation
We understand that caregiving can be a challenging and emotional journey, and if you're struggling with grief or loss, we're here to support you.

Our Grief Resources offer a variety of tools, including worksheets, videos, and books, to help with grief, sleep, and anxiety https://thelossfoundation.org/grief-resources

And if you're facing the loss of a loved one to cancer, our Support Services may...

Grief tools and resources]]> 1 Thu, 22 Aug 2024 01:08:11 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/reinvention.3737/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/reinvention.3737/ invalid@example.com (Don Y) Don Y Ok, now that is out of the way, I found that part of "moving forward" is reinventing our lives.
A few weeks before she passed, Arlene and I were in her room in her nursing/rehab facility (she spent 15 of her last 30 months in one medical facility or another). and we saw Paula Deen on tv. We agreed that we'd go to Savannah to eat in her restaurant. She never made it.

So after a few months (I...

Reinvention]]> 3 Thu, 20 Jun 2024 18:03:22 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/struggling-with-decision-to-end-moms-dialysis.3170/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/struggling-with-decision-to-end-moms-dialysis.3170/ invalid@example.com (AndyIrish) AndyIrish
My mom had what she described as 'jerks and seizures' in April.. she had myoclonus like I do, a part of Epilepsy which she and I both had/have - they ended up actually being small strokes which sparked a chain of events that led to her being in hospital and rehab for 10 weeks with horrible demensia and hallucinations abd.memory loss.

I ended up being forced to take over her medical decision-making and have her declared medically and...

Struggling with Decision to end Mom's Dialysis]]> 3 Sat, 27 Apr 2024 17:28:17 -0400 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/feeling-totally-lost.3209/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/feeling-totally-lost.3209/ invalid@example.com (brokenstill) brokenstill 9 Thu, 18 Jan 2024 19:16:58 -0500 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i%E2%80%99m-feeling-a-lot-of-pain.3454/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i%E2%80%99m-feeling-a-lot-of-pain.3454/ invalid@example.com (bluemuse420) bluemuse420
I’m Feeling A lot Of Pain]]> 1 Sun, 14 Jan 2024 19:12:03 -0500 http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-feel-fine-then-it-hits-me-like-a-ton-of-bricks.2748/ http://www.griefincommon.com/connect/threads/i-feel-fine-then-it-hits-me-like-a-ton-of-bricks.2748/ invalid@example.com (Nurse2021) Nurse2021
I feel fine then it hits me like a ton of bricks]]> 21