Signs or coincidence

Discussion in 'Grief in Common Updates, Questions & Answers' started by skies24, Jul 28, 2020.

  1. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    Anyone experience signs or do you think they are coincidences.

    Today was just one of those days. Took my mom to have same day surgery which was the same hospital my person passed away at in January. On our way home my mom wanted coffee so we stopped at a totally random place. My person’s parents were there. At 3 in the afternoon on a Tuesday we were all at this random store. It just made me think she was there.

    Are things a coincidence or meant to be?
    Are people put in your life for a reason?
    If God is real why are is there so much hurt. Why are some people’s lives so shitty. What makes me different from them. Some people are so poor. Have such a shitty shot at this life. Why is one persons life better than the next.

    I have a medium scheduled for Tuesday.i can’t wait.
     
  2. I 100% believe in signs and our people communicating with us and setting things up for us. My father sends me the number 27 all the time. Anytime i feel stressed or really upset about something I'll always end up seeing that number. Sometimes its a license plate, sometimes it how many miles left in my car, once there was just a random sign that said it and it always makes me feel like, okay, your here with me.
    I dont believe in coincidence personally, I think everything happens for a reason. As for your other questions, I suppose no one really knows the answer but I believe we are not given anything we cant handle and it is our jobs as humans to love and care for each other unconditionally. Without suffering there would be no compassion.

    Let me know how your medium goes, I have a tarot reading on Monday! <3
     
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  3. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    I get signs all the time. I don’t think they’re coincidences at all. Ron has walked my through projects as I work on them, such as building a new gate, or bleeding my daughters sprinklers, I lost my credit card and I woke up one morning and Ron had told me it was in my car. Sure enough I found it on the floor in the. There’s many many signs I get that can’t be anything other then him sending me the messages.
    I want to see a medium but I want to go when I don’t have to wear a mask. So I’m waiting. Let us know how it goes and the tarot reading too.
    I find I get signs when I least expect it.
     
  4. cg123

    cg123 Well-Known Member

    I also get signs from loved ones who have passed. The next day after my father passed away, I had a dream that I was in heaven with my parents (my mother passed 10 years before my dad) and I wanted to stay there but my father kicked me out saying it wasn't my time and I woke up on the floor from my bed - it seemed so real. I have also received other signs too.
    Please let us know how the meeting with the medium goes - I am very interested in seeing a medium too.
     
  5. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Aren’t the signs the best feelings! They help me get through the day after I receive one. People have asked me if they scare me, not at all! Total and complete comfort and love comes from them.
    My daughters friend tragically lost her husband in a car crash. She saw a medium and the medium was able to tell her all the things that changed with their home since his passing. And he mentioned the sun flower garden she planted for him, many things. She said it felt like her husband was there talking to her. We all need that.
     
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  6. whitlowing3

    whitlowing3 Member

    I keep looking for signs. Maybe I’m looking too hard or maybe I’m missing some? My husband was a jokester so I keep wanting to see something to make me smile.
     
  7. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    So sorry for your loss. It is possible you’re looking too hard, and also could be missing signs. Both possible.
    I find if I think or wish for signs I’m less likely to receive any. And some signs can be very small. Hearing his favorite songs, I’ve heard Rons favorite songs in places or stations they would never be played on. Some times I don’t realize I had a sign until later and all the sudden I realize omg, that was Ron that was a sign. Be as patient as you can And try to be aware. I’ve had multiple butterflies land on me. Ron collected and mounted butterflies while growing up. Thats Ron sending me a message. Ive Also smelled his deodorant in our bedroom.
    I’m sure you’ll get signs. And hopefully something that brings a smile to your face.
     
  8. whitlowing3

    whitlowing3 Member

    Thanks, I guess I need to be patient. But sometimes I think, “he wouldn’t think to send me a sign”. Or like you said, maybe I won’t realize until later. I guess I am looking for that connection, and to know that he is at peace now. I miss him terribly.
     
  9. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    He knows the love you had for each other. He’ll find a way to send you a sign. We all need that connection. And our loved ones come through for us in the end. Something will happen that you can’t explain, and you’ll realize that was your husband. And when you realize, there’s usually this feeling of omg that was him.
    I was preparing for a hurricane that’s coming through and feeling overwhelmed and needing Ron to help me and be with me as the storm hits. I was really feeling like I can’t do this, this morning and crying. When out of no where I smell Ron’s deodorant while I’m in the kitchen crying. Ron’s with me, he’s trying to help.
    We owned an upholstery shop and I had to close it myself. But now every once in a while I find a stud to a snap that we used. I don’t have any e crept a box or 2 in the basement. I’m finding them in my bedroom. Ron visited.
    You’ll get a sign or a visit of some kind.
     
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  10. whitlowing3

    whitlowing3 Member

    Thanks, I’ll be patient. You sound like you are comforted by these signs from your husband. Very cool. It has only been 4 months since my husband passed, so maybe I’ve been in a fog and haven’t noticed things.
     
  11. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Oh not maybe a fog. I know you’ve been in a fog. That’s just how things seem to go. Can’t eat, sleep, or think. I had a few signs early on but most started after maybe 8 or 9 months. The signs or visits, are very comforting. I can’t even explain it. But so nice. You feel the love. it’s very possible he’s doing things you’re missing.
    This storm today had been tough. Electricity keeps blinking, my daughter lost power all together. Trees are falling all over. Rough day for me. My first storm alone. And I’m having difficulty, miss him so much.
     
  12. whitlowing3

    whitlowing3 Member

    Sorry to hear about the storm, you must be on the coast! I have some friends on vacation at the beach this week. Hang in there!
     
  13. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Yes I’m on the coast. Live on Long Island NY. The worst part for me was being alone. I only had small branches and debris to clean up. I feel sorry for your friends vacationing during this storm. Hopefully they’re ok. My daughter and I are heading to NJ shore tomorrow. Thought a little get away might do us good. But I know I’ll have a hard time leaving. I’ll be better once we’re on our way.
    I’m sorry I didn’t see that your anniversary was recently. I know that’s a hard day to get through. But then everyday is. There will be better days ahead, keep working towards them.
    Thank you for your thoughts!
     
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  14. whitlowing3

    whitlowing3 Member

    Enjoy your getaway! And thanks for your encouragement.
     
  15. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    Of course, we help each other. I’ll still check this site while in NJ if the Wi-Fi lets me. Sometimes on the beach it’s intermittent at best.
     
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  16. skies24

    skies24 Well-Known Member

    So I reached out to a medium and we literally reschedule five times. Today was supposed to be the day again. He just called me and told me he was feeling sick. He is going to refund me which is cool. But I really wanted this to work. I’m kinda thinking since I don’t have a social media presence that is easy to find he wasn’t able to do research. Unfortunately that’s what I believe. Hopefully I’ll find another one. Totally disappointed but we shall see if I can reach out to another one.
     
  17. cg123

    cg123 Well-Known Member

    Sorry it didn't work out since you were looking forward to it so much. I hope you can find another reliable medium to work with.
     
  18. RLC

    RLC Well-Known Member

    I’m so sorry it didn’t work out. Hopefully you can find someone reliable, and get some real signs from your friends.
    I do wonder if your thoughts are right, and he couldn’t find any info from social media. Keep looking to find the right person.