And to me it is very sad. What gets me is that my family is quite steeped in Catholicism yet I can not talk about my sadness, and not have Satan in on it. Maybe I am just flat out tired of having to be so strong all the time. I do not think being strong comes cheap tho, that maybe a part of me is messed up snd ya know, I am getting to a point I fear getting to and I need to talk to someone quite soon.
Hi Ray, Your post concerns me a bit. There are places to call and people who will help you get through this if you need it. This may not apply to you but call this number and they can direct you to some good resources. You need someone who can listen to you. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. 1-800-273-8255
Ray, I'm so sorry that you are struggling. Finding good support can be so hard, and unfortunately it's often our family that doesn't seem to understand in the way we would hope they could. I'm glad you are reaching out, there is good support to be found here through those who understand. However, if you are in crisis, know that there is urgent crisis help like the information AdriaStar posted above. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline also has text and chat options - they are available 24/7: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org Grief and the loss of great love takes so much time to process- we never get over it, but we do the best we can to move forward in ways that help carry the love with us. I know it's not easy, and that's why our community is here to help. Let us know if you need more, and if you are truly in crisis, please remember there is help.
Thankyou very much. I do appreciate your help. I am not suisidal TG just feel I got my Emotions knocked out by a prize fighter and that is or has shocked my whole system of what is what or can not seem to believe this And on the 16th of June Sofia will be with Jesus 3 months. I am so trying to get thru this. No one in my family seems to have any idea of what this is like. It is what it is. I just walk my dog a lot and talk to Jesus. I do know he is al- ways listening.
Ray that is so often cited. Those around us have a hard time with an others pain. They really don't know what to say and will be fearful of saying the wrong thing. That is in part of why I am here. I have gone on some manic raves with people but I am lucky to have some savvy and tolerant friends. My sister is so good. We talk once a week and twelve hours sessions have happened. At first, I had to talk about her. Then I really wanted any other conversation. I could not keep going over it. Kay has a friend in Tucson. I told her my grief symptoms and she a linguistic phycologist said to note the slightest progress. Just to see your self make some headway. This is hard. Ray, you have made some good posts. We have talked before and I still have to try your music selections. Be well man. Paul M.
Thank you Paul. I figured how to get a pic of my 'Dainty Dearness' It is so hard to look at Sofia and know she is gone. I met her on July 12th 2016, I can imagine how I will feel this year, knowing we met became gr8 friends, married and a year and 76 days later, gone. Damn that is so sad. The dreams we had. . . I really feel like 'A man of constant sorrow.'
Good morning Ray, Know that we are here for you. This is a tough process for sure. Anniversaries are tough. Take care of yourself....
Hello again Paul, Yes some may be worried about saying the wrong thing, but the thing is is they are trying to open up and help and I like others should keep that in mind. I can understand that it is not an easy subject to start. Been there, done that. I started it out by saying, "I know you are very sad and quiet about the loss of . . ., want to talk about it?". So if a friend starts out like that, one has to know they have good intentions.
